Why do men love paying for women?

[shaysh87]

Every time that I do friends with benefits or hook up with a guy, he's always the one that pays for the hotel room. Its not that I forced or asked him to pay. He just offered. He didn't even want me to pay. Are these guys rich? they aren't rich, but they certainly aren't poor either. I did a foot fetish gig for another guy for just 20 minutes. I walked away with $300. He gave me ALL his cash for that day.

do men have a thing for paying women?

[qwert1234]

Maybe they wanted to impress.
Some wanted to show that they are a good provider - or at least show an impression of it.
Some just simps.
Some thinks this is a form of chivalry.
Some just do it because it's culture.

[shaysh87]

WE WEREN'T DATING.

[qwert1234]

Doesn't matter - testosterone thing.

[msc545]

No, we do it because we are afraid we won't get laid if we don't.

[Anonymous]

No. It's just an unwritten rule. If a woman is giving you "favors" you're always going to pay in some way. Virtually no woman gives her "favors" away for nothing. I mean at the time it may appear free. But there's always a catch. Why not just pay her and get it taken care of up front like a professional would.

[Markm3212]

what you have just described is prostitution. your being paid for sex or sexual acts. thats why they are paying for everything... deeerrrr

[shaysh87]

Ummm no he only paid for hotel room. Not me

[HellGeist]

Umm... I think you're being confused for a prostitute.

[shaysh87]

whats wrong with enjoying good sex and getting money for it?

[HellGeist]

If you want to do that, go ahead but if you're engaging in that you should stick with it because you're ruining your ability to pair-bond with a man and it will be hard for you to get into and stay in a long term committed relationship if "Mr. Right" comes along.

I'm all for women sleeping around if that's what they truly want, but the problem arises when said women try to get married or whatever and then it's almost always a trainwreck and she divorces the dude.

But yeah, as long as you're safe and upfront with guys about what you do and your past if you get into an LTR, have fun.

[shaysh87]

most women sleep around today. are you really that naive enough to think that most women do not sleep around? in large modern cities, hookups are ridiculously common. Almost everyone does it. They don't talk about it but its extremely common. All guys like to say that they don't want to marry a woman who sleeps around but these are the same guys who sleep around. And their chances for falling in love with a woman who also sleeps around is extremely high. well, because everyone sleeps around nowadays. who hasn't done casual sex at some point?

The only ones who don't do it are those who are raised by the church, super conservative, lives in an old fashioned community where men should be breadwinners and wives should be housewives.

[HellGeist]

I'm not stupid, lmao. I know most women in the West sleep around. Why do you think divorce was so high and why marriage rates went down? Because men don't want to commit to women like that or wife them up, lol.

Most guys can't sleep around like women can unless they're above average in looks and/or wealthy.

There's also a reason why a lot of guys are pining for traditional conservative women these days. They don't want LTR's or marriages with loose Western women with high body counts who are known for initiating divorces at least 70% of the time or more.

Also, even though most Western women do hookups and casual sex, there is a difference between being with a woman with a body count of 5, 10 and above.

The higher it goes, the less men will want to commit to them.

That's why you often see posts on the internet about guys who ghost girls or leave if they find out the girl they're with has a past of like 20, 30, 40, 50+ men. For a lot of guys that's too much.

Yeah, there will always be beta-type and feminist dudes who will willingly be committed to a woman with a high body count, but they usually pay the price for it by being divorced by her or cucked multiple times, lmao!

And a lot of women aren't really attracted to desperate beta men.

Most guys don't and can't sleep around as much as women do. Men actually have to put some effort into getting sex most of the time. It takes skill and some luck too.

Historically more women have reproduced than men have.

Face it. Guys don't want to commit to women who sleep around a lot. Especially if they have really high body counts. They'll fuck you, but then move on to another girl with less partners if they have the ability to be with her.

[HellGeist]

Also, Guys don't want to get an STD or get cucked by a woman who will trick them into raising a kid that isn't theirs, so that is why they want to ideally be with women who don't have a ton of partners because they are more trustworthy.

And so many people have herpes these days, it's really gross lol. No thanks!

Have fun!

[shaysh87]

[Most guys can't sleep around like women can unless they're above average in looks and/or wealthy.]

I've had casual sex with plenty of guys who weren't above average in looks.

[There's also a reason why a lot of guys are pining for traditional conservative women these days. They don't want LTR's or marriages with loose Western women with high body counts who are known for initiating divorces at least 70% of the time or more.]

there ARE no young traditional women. All the traditional women that is left are the ones in their 40s-50s. Modern women (young women in their 20s-30s) are almost never traditional housewives. And if they are, they're really rare and difficult to find especially in large modern cities.

[shaysh87]

traditional women no longer exist today. Its a thing of the past. Modern young people celebrate college, career, hookups, sex, no marriage, cohabitation, dating apps, seamless delivery, ubers, guacamole from chipotle. work from home, telecommute, tik tok, subscribers,

[HellGeist]

Well duh you've had sex with dudes with below-average dudes. You get paid!

I can't be any more clear with you.

I keep saying WESTERN women! Yes, there are very few traditional women left, in the WEST!

It's also a matter of degrees.

Men would rather be with a non-western woman that has had only 5 casual sex partners, than a Western woman who probably has a WAY higher body count than that.

Also, all else being equal, dudes would rather be with a Western woman from a more traditional/chaste/conservative background that has only had, let's say 7 sexual partners vs a loose western woman that has 37!!!

It's really, really simple.

And NO, not ALL women around the globe have as much casual sex as WESTERN women.

There are still SOME women from more conservative/traditional countries who have lower body counts compared to Western women.

And women from traditional families/upbringings stay virgins or at low body counts for LONGER than the average Tinderella.

Which means that they have a higher chance of getting into a successful LTR or marriage with then man or men they want.

You're trying to paint a lot of women with a broad brush to make yourself feel better.

Also, just because something is normal/common now doesn't mean it's healthy and not degenerate.

Women with LOWER body counts are the ones most men want to be with long term.

PERIOD! It's called biology, lol.

[shaysh87]

[Well duh you've had sex with dudes with below-average dudes. You get paid!]

I didn't always get paid for casual sex. I've had casual sex / friends with benefits with average looking guys for no money.

And sorry to burst your bubble, but most western modern men have no interest in marrying foreign women. They prefer to marry an American woman who speaks good English, well educated, and knows how to use instagram, tik tok, eats guacamole. Not some Filipino prostitute who wanted to marry a rich white man just because she wanted a green card and to marry for money.

Reality is, overwhelming majority of people tend to want to marry those who are from the same culture as their own.

[HellGeist]

Lmao! That was the funniest thing I've read on this website. Sorry, but men do not want social media whores. TikTok is for kids and it's cancer, lol. And you're calling foreign women "prostitutes" when you literally are one.

American women have a bad reputation for a reason, and men do not want to wife them up. The marriage rates are the lowest since the 70's!

Yes, people prefer to marry within their own culture ideally, but Western women are so loose and are such bad wives (they can't even pair bond and they divorce all the time) that a lot of men either don't take them seriously and just sleep with them, and some other men are pining and fleeing to and competing for the traditional women that still exist, at home and abroad.

It's so bad that foreign women are more in demand now than ever!

And western women have a reputation for being materalistic and entitled. They often take a man's money in divorce and his kids, and you're calling the Fillipinas prostitutes?

At least Fillipinas STAY with their men more often, and bear him kids that are HIS and don't usually destroy their families and become single mom's! Lmao. And some of them learn speak as good or better English than the women they're replacing.

Hahaha. Sorry, but this is a joke. Take care.

[shaysh87]

Overwhelming majority of foreign women are not interested in marrying American men. The only ones who are interested tend to just want to marry rich Americans for money

Overwhelming majority of American men aren’t interested in marrying foreign women either.

[ashish804]

its like they didn't want to burden u so that next time when they call u to bang u.. u never say no to come due to paying the room rent

[shaysh87]

not really. cuz why would a man overpay just to do a foot session? 300 dollars for a 15 minute session?

[ashish804]

its like beginning and later he would bang u to settle the score

[shaysh87]

He never wanted to bang. He just had a foot fetish

[Anonymous]

its not that we love it, its that society has taught us that its our job, that women see men as cheap pieces of shit if they dont pay for all dates.

[shaysh87]

ITS NOT A DATE!!!

[Opinion Owner]

why all caps? Its the same premise. Please if you're going to respond to me, dont shout, thats disrespectful.

[shaysh87]

well its disrespectful of you to not read my question carefully.

[Opinion Owner]

I did read your question carefully, The premise still stands weather or not you are on a date is irrelevant.

[jasco]

Simply because thats whats expected of us. You don't hear women doing it

[shaysh87]

Or could it be something men actually enjoy doing?

[jasco]

no men don't enjoy paying, we just think that most women don't want to pay nor do we want to lose the chance of not getting sex because we didn't offer to pay

[shaysh87]

Well men on here are all fighting to be breadwinners

[jasco]

mm well who knows I don't really believe everything that goes online so who knows

[msc545]

Hell no.

[noohair]

When you pay, you don't have to have emotional attachment.

[Jcrummy98]

It's a manly things to do and I always pay because I feel like it's manly.

[Anonymous]

Because they have what is in demand. Pay now or pay later.

[Anonymous]

Theyre losers who find meaning in getting financially fucked by women.

[HellGeist]

A-fucking-men bro!!!

[Anonymous]

conditioning

stupid women

[Anonymous]

Money is power