My fuck buddy likes another girl?

[Anonymous]

I have a friends with benefits. I ve known him from our undergraduate days at uni and he's known as the king of flings. He hook ups a lot, goes on a lot of dates with different girls but isn't committed to anyone, preferring to live a single life. I actually like him but I ve recently found out that since the last 4 months, he's developed a rather serious crush or obsession with a girl he saw at uni where he's ding his graduate studies.

His blatant watching of the girl made her approach him and he's exchanged numbers and texts her when they have to meet. Whilst, he was seeing me and other girls, he hasn't really been keen on looking us up on social media or keeping his online status available but with her arrival, he has been doing this.

I kinda stalked him and saw that when the girl came to meet him, he wanted to hug her. He also kept looking at her, paid for her drink along with his, is already made plans to spend Christmas with her in his mind, and I saw him hug her rather tightly, all whilst watching her in the eyes. They aren't dating as they haven't yet decided on their relationship so he still came over for a drink and night fling. What the hell is this? Why is he involving some other girl when everything is great between us?

[ZackBan]

So you never saw an issue being the fuck buddy of the "king of flings" does he get tested for STDs?
Because for every new fling he'll come back to you with a greater risk of having caught something.
Not to mention what exactly about him made you catch feelings to begin with? He clearly isn't boyfriend material.
Not that I'm patronizing him if anything I'm more like him than I care to admit but it still doesn't justify hurting yourself over guys like us.

But if you insist on it. You need to end the friends with benefits thing.
Tell him you're seeing someone and until you figure out what that other guy wants you wanna maintain some monogamy.
He'll feel like he's losing you which will put things into perspective for him. If he likes you but refuses to admit it to himself it will hit him hard and if he's as assertive as you say he'll come to you and say he wants you and doesn't care about the other guy in which case tell him you wanna be a couple not friends with benefits

[Mango-man]

And what did you expect? This is exactly what ONS and friends with benefits kind of "relationship" lead to. Both ONS and friends with benefits is just mutually easily accessible sex that can be thrown away at moment's notice and nothing more.

Plus the "friends with benefits" is just a nice name for "sex without the responsibilities of proper relationship". Responsibilities that include for example the exclusivity or faithfulness to their partner.

[Asker]

The day he decided to come and see me was the day he was with her on their first date and he wanted to spend time with her more but realised it was getting late for her so then he told her that he ll get some work done and then go to a friend (me) who has a "boyfriend". I don't.

Why do this?

[Mango-man]

Probably because he got horny from being with her but wished to have proper relationship with her. So he just went to you to satisfy his sexual needs in order to not ruin his chances with his true love interest (hence why he told her you have boyfriend so she doesn't get jealous).

[Asker]

He held her tightly during their embrace too.

[Mango-man]

Because she is his LOVE interest

[Asker]

But he's been only watching her for months? Only speaking now. So how?

[kyleelyn199723]

Like the other answer said, you are just a fuck and I am sure the girl he is crushing on is a challenge and doesn’t just easily drop her pants for him, so he needs to find other girls to have sex with until they become a thing. Be prepared to get cut off by him sooner or later

[Asker]

What do you think he wants from her?

[kyleelyn199723]

Who knows. Hard to speculate, but if you are sensing a possible relationship, there’s a chance he may cut you off

[Asker]

The day he decided to come and see me was the day he was with her on their first date and he wanted to spend time with her more but realised it was getting late for her so then he told her that he ll get some work done and then go to a friend (me) who has a "boyfriend". I don't.

Why do this?

[kyleelyn199723]

Because you are providing him something (sex) that the other girl isn’t. This guy is obviously a fuck boy but him wanting to see you at night does not signify that he has any feelings for you

[SnakeBoop]

and?
You're just a fuck and nothing more. so stop trying to be/

[Asker]

Wait does he like the girl?

[SnakeBoop]

it doesn't matter if he does.
girl, stay in your fucking lane. you're nothing to him. just a vagina for his dick to get into. stop acting like you're more.

[Asker]

The day he decided to come and see me was the day he was with her on their first date and he wanted to spend time with her more but realised it was getting late for her so then he told her that he ll get some work done and then go to a friend (me) who has a "boyfriend". I don't.

Why do this?

[Anonymous]

Does not matter, it matters why you keep seeing him if it bothers you. He is like that, you cannot change it.

[LegendaryIcon]

friends with benefits, is for pathetic people, with no lives

[Anonymous]

So what's the problem? I'm reading but I'm not seeing a problem.

[spartan55]

Why are you reposting this? Psycho...

[Wise4myage]

Then start screwing other guys.