What to do when you miss a person so much do he doesn’t want to talk to you?

[Anonymous]

We’ve talked off and on for a year and a half now. He’s always hot and cold some weeks he’s very present the next he will be a ghost. We are suppose to hang out next Saturday but when I mentioned it he never replied but he’s been very active on social media my heart hurts so bad because I want it to work but obviously he doesn’t care about me that much even tho he says he does I just turned 25 he’s 27

[Changiis07]

Girl! When someone cares about the other person you will know. This hot and cold game is not cool. I would put the same effort he is putting. Do not chase men, men are wired to chase so if he isn't putting any effort then maybe he just isn't the one. He probably does not want anything serious and you deserve someone who will be there for you and not have to wonder whether they like you or not

[Asker]

You’re right you think I should go no contact and delete him off every social media site

[Changiis07]

If you can do that then go for it. What ever works for you. And I know it hurts I've been through it all. Do what you think is best or like I say match his efforts. If he goes days without texting then go days without reaching as well. Eventually you will get to a point where you will be able to move on so do it at your pace and always be careful and look out for the red flags. Best advice I can give you is don't have sex too early in fact if you can wait until marriage that would be better. Once you sleep with a guy too soon (not saying you have) but they stop putting effort because they got what they wanted. You want to make them work for it so that they can wine and dine you.

[SnakeBoop]

Realise he doesn't want to talk to you and move on. find something else to do.

[Asker]

You right I just can’t stop thinking about it smh

[Dragonpurple]

Move on to other guys, he might grow up later and show some interest but there is nothing wrong with you having interest in others.

The saying, don't have all your eggs in one basket means a lot here.

[Asker]

You right the funny think is last week he told me that I better not be talking to other people or he will be mad but he doesn’t even talk to me consistently!!! And he won’t be exclusive I’m just confused

[Dragonpurple]

Mixed signals for sure, your allowed to have other friends. Being in a relationship doesn't mean he is the only person you can talk to.

[Wise4myage]

I would move on to other girls.

[Asker]

It’s so hard I feel guilty :/ because I want this to work out so bad but it’s starting to take a toll on me I’m not sleeping at night when I told him about my rough nights he didn’t say anything no concern

[Wise4myage]

I hear you, but it’s the right thing to do.

[Wise4myage]

Look at how it’s affecting your health.

[jahaims]

Move on