What do you do when you miss someone but can't do anything about it?

[Anonymous]

I miss this girl a lot even though things didn't work out and she hurt my feelings in the end . but I can't contact her as I promised not to when things went bad but I still miss her a lot and feel really bad about what happened . I just don't know what to do anymore or how to manage these feelings which are becoming a little depressing as I start to realize she might be gone for good

[BrunetteNYC]

WHY did she hurt your feelings? Was she reacting to something that YOU did, or was it something she did all on her own that hurt your feelings?

I find that mostly it takes two to ruin a relationship lol

I'm not saying this about your situation because I don't have specifics, it's just an impression here and something so puzzling, why is it that most guys only realize what they had until it's gone? And usually at that point, the girl has given up although she may have tried earlier to avoid it getting to this kind of end.

[Asker]

I think she was reacting to things I had done , I think she was annoyed I had been talking to other girls when she wasn't around , we weren't officially dating and I still talked to a few other girls and was sort of friends with them , it was like she wanted to get back at me for that

[BrunetteNYC]

That must have hurt her a lot thinking you didn't love her - that's how women take guys talking to and hanging out with other girls. Ouch. Well if anything it can't hurt to let her know at least now that you realize the mistake and that you're sorry. Also letting her know those girls don't mean more than she does to you. That's probably what she needs to know.

[ZebuZebra]

Did you leave her or vice versa? If she left you: It's very likely that she won't want this blast from the past and you need to move on.

If you left her: Why did you? Has anything changed since then? How long ago was it? If she hasn't found someone else in the meantime, chances are, she'll still be in love with you as well. BUT: if you aren't absolutely sure you want to be together with her again, leave her alone. Anything else is completely selfish.

[Asker]

I guess she left me but it was sort of weird as we just sort of lost touch a couple weeks back after seeing a lot of each other before . I think we just need a break from each other , my problem is I still miss her even though I realize it didn't work out and maybe had way too many problems to ever work out

[Anonymous]

Contact her, maybe she still has feelings for you too but she's waiting for you to speak to her first. You need to talk about it, relationships without arguments is a relationship with secrets! When I had problems with my boyfriend I always hoped we could talk about it, or expected him to contact me & express himself, she might be expecting the same from you! Good luck

[posted]

Get on with your life.

Well if she said it out of anger she may not care about a simple text, it depends who was wrong and wtf happened, or send a simple apology and word it so you don't even want or expect a response, without it sounding pathetic and attention whorish.

Generally breakups seem to just happen over and over and end either way so it may be best to find someone new.

[martyfellow]

Try to improve yourself and be kinder to other people; don't repeat what happened with her.

Word will get back to her that you have changed for the better, and hopefully she will respond to that news!

[RaskolnikovRo]

get yourself in shape, get to know yourself deeply, work on yourself and find a new hobbie and if you can make it a social hobbie in which you would meet new people and develop it at 100%.