Have you ever been in a relationship and missed an opportunity to date someone you could have hit it off with but didn't because you were loyal?

[Sevenpointfive]

And now that you're out of that relationship you're kicking yourself for missing that opportunity?

[Anemone978]

Now that I am actually thinking about it... I don't know..
When I was with my husband, I was just with him because I knew he loved me and I always figured if I got with someone I was actually head over heels for he would cheat on me and break my heart. After we broke up I tried to get with this guy "I never forgot about", but he was so damaged by women by then and he couldn't love me how I needed even though I was so in love with him. So maybe if I didn't get with my husband I would have had my soulmate now? 🙃

[Sevenpointfive]

that's a sad story

[Anemone978]

Yeah but that's life, full of disappointments and bad choices... I always thought I was making the best possible choices I could make, using my head but it turns out I should of trusted my heart a little more.

[EricSummer]

Yes, I've done that. I'm naturally loyal and I really do not need a different woman when I'm in a relationship with one already.

However, after my girlfriend had dumped me I could not resist the urge to call the other one. She was still free, even thogh a year had passed, and gladly agreed to go out with me. Looking back, that was a bit too early as my girlfriend and I got back together the following week. The other woman felt that I had "used" her, though nothing had really happened apart from one innocent date.

Anyway, I'm loyal, but I may sometimes follow up when I'm free again.

[D_Bone_Steak]

YUUUUUUUUUUP! So many great women, but I was loyal. Then my woman finally cheated and I went on a years-long cheating rampage.

Now that I've calmed down... I think I just hate women. I mean I like them sexually for some bedroom fun, but I hear nothing but bullshit usually when they speak. The reason that cheating woman episode really kicked me in the nutts so hard was because I was so damn faithful and every other chick that cheated didn't really hurt me because... yeah, I was already cheating myself.

[OptimisticGirl]

I’m wondering if I’m missing an opportunity right now and I’m in a relationship. I’d never admit that normally as I realize this is a massive red flag

[Sevenpointfive]

i say admit it to yourself. which you have. somethings wrong with your relationship. but you aren't young so it might be different for you?

i see a lot of young people jump in and regret it the rest of their lives

[OptimisticGirl]

Something is definitely wrong but like you said, I’m at that age where it’s not so easy to just jump in and out of relationships.

I think people see what’s lacking in their own relationship when they’re looking at someone else. They imagine he/she would provide what’s missing, which can just be fantasy.

It’s that whole idea of the grass looking greener on the other side. But they say the grass is greener where you water it so maybe these people need to try nurturing their existing relationships before they jump ship.

[midnightmoon05]

No. Every relationship I went into I put my all in. I have not disappointed myself lol…even though I am divorced…I am remarried now.
between marriages…I had a boyfriend.
Again…these are all good guys…I didn’t want to marry him because he didn’t fit my family goals.
so while he was waiting for me knowing it’s not going anywhere…he mentioned about a woman…eventually they started to talk…

she was one who “got away” they married other people…while he was with me…she was free, single… so he wanted to go to her…he did…he even called me if it’s a good idea…I said no…because his best friend wanted her forever…now he got with her and their male bonding over…he and I over…

few months later…he called me…I didn’t answer…we have to chose our path

I am with my swings husband…it was not easy in the beginning but he fits well with my family dynamics. We had some huge obstacles to work through…it all paid off.

[Sevenpointfive]

that whole shit sounds complex! but it works so congrats

[midnightmoon05]

I know right…sounds so much like HS drama. Glad I’m over that and can just focus on my family/kids/career.. you know the adult stuff.