Guys, why do you love using girls?

Question

what do you get from using them

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Your age here says you are 14, so you are young enough to learn some things that can vastly improve your dating life (and hopefully you tell your friends too, so they can learn). I'm going to be dropping some hard facts here, and you may not like them, but that doesn't make them any less true. You can either adapt to how the world actually is, and make the best of the situation and have the best results, or you can pretend the world is different than it really is, which will lead you to making bad decisions that bring bad results. The choice is up to you.

Why do guys love using girls? It's because guy want sex. Virtually all guys want sex, and much like a starving person who hasn't eaten anything in 10+ days can barely think about anything but food, most guys are starving for sex and can barely think of anything but sex, especially if they're thinking about a girl. For a "starving" guy, a relationship is a far lower priority than getting sex, at least UNTIL he's getting sex often enough to keep the hunger at bay. Think about it: if YOU were literally starving - having nothing but water for 10+ days - would you still care about your job or your schoolwork or what color your backpack was or what dance to do in a TikTok video - or would all of that seem insignificant?

Next, you need to understand that a guy's list of requirements to want sex from a girl is very short and simple:

She needs to be:

- physically attractive (not stunning, just average or better)
- willing
- single
- not crazy or psycho

(and not every guy even cares about the last two - though they should!)

This means that LOTS and LOTS of girls qualify as "bangable" to most guys. But the list of requirements for a RELATIONSHIP is longer - the "bar" a girl must clear is much higher - and this "filters out" a whole lot of women. For every 20 or 30 girls a guy would have sex with, only 1 would, on average, qualify as "relationship material" for him. This means that, as a girl, if a guy shows interest in you, you must ALWAYS assume, until proven otherwise, that his interest in you is ONLY sexual. 29 out of 30 times, that will be the correct assumption.

Then, remember that it is YOU, the girl, who is picking the guys. Guys can show interest, but girls do the actual choosing. As the chooser, YOU have to take responsibility for the choices you make. If you choose a guy based on his morals and values and character, you will likely have good relationships. If you choose a guy because he's tall or handsome or rich or popular, you will likely have bad relationships. As a rule, the more popular a guy is with other women, the LESS likely he is to be a good boyfriend - or even a boyfriend at all. Guys who are very popular with women rarely get into relationships at all - because they don't have to. There will always be a line of women who are willing to have sex with him in hopes of becoming his girlfriend - even though that didn't work for the 200 girls before her, and won't work for her either.

Guys with fewer options - who are less popular with women - are far more likely to make good boyfriends and appreciate the girl. That's just how the world works. If you think about the guys you and your girl friends have dated, you'll see that this is true.

JorgeJr · Accepted Answer

Not all men come to smash. Some men come to love you, heal you & show you that not all men are the same.

Not me tho I came to smash.

Ion know about everyone else. But for me its settling score. Plus as Im sure as other guys have said it. Its a rather difficult process to "use" girls. So for me personally I get a good sense of accomplishment.

justaboredhuman · Answer

I don't think it's ok to just use someone for sex or other sexual gratification. I do think guys like to try and put girls in situations that leave them feeling like they have to do what the guy wants.
I know this isn't going to be a popular thing to say but some girls just allow it to happen when they could say "No or stop I am not comfortable with that".
I would not push anyone into doing anything they didn't want to happen or were not prepared to do.

007kingifrit · Answer

men can want either 2 things from you. sex or sex + other things. they need to want it its not an option. 14 year old girls tend to confuse arrogance for confidence and thus easily pick the wrong boys

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

Depends on the person, it could be anything, I don't see myself using a girl as it's meaningless and not a behaviour of a decent human being

jahaims · Answer

Maybe you're just stupid so people take advantage of you

Seangreen · Answer

I don't ever really use a girl okay but if I do it's because of all that I'm lacking in life

noohair · Answer

Women have free will and guys want sex. It is a male ego thing. But the male ego is as fragile as an egg.

lovey44 · Answer

I get nothing from using girls. Because I dont use girls!! I love women!!

BillyBalls · Answer

Guys are born horny. That is no excuse to use a girl. Not all guys do.

Anonymous · Answer

Not all guys are like that, but those type of guys will generally be the most active, so you see more of them than normaly guys.

TsAubreyKate · Answer

What do you mean by use? Because I guy can only have sex if a girl allows him

Anonymous · Answer

Because you girls love getting used, in dating women have unlimited options, yet they always find the bad one and complain.

bean2k21 · Answer

they're soft and cuddly

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Actually, I’m a dinosaur

In_Trance · Answer

For the same reason some girls use guys

emperor90 · Answer

I dont i love girls and respect them

Kevin202020 · Answer

If you dresss slutty I am going to use them

Kyle-Jackson78 · Answer

all creeps? Na

DelayedMist · Answer

for sex

Fuentes · Answer

A nut

jerdanro · Answer

I don't.

Anonymous · Answer

You show your age

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