Guys! Does mansplaining somehow reassure you that you still have a d***?

Question

I play badminton. I am very much in shape and my game is pretty decent. Yet most male partners I play doubles with start lecturing me on how I should hit and how I should move even they are much much worse than me both in their physical health and game. This annoys the shit out of me and sometimes I have snapped back at them - and regret it almost immediately because the club is 90% male and they all talk about the handful of women that come to play.

i love the game but I hate dealing with people like this. Why do they feel that need to prove they are superior even when they are not? Why don’t they do the same with other male players? Why can’t they let me play my way and enjoy? It’s not even competitive- it’s just for fun! Why do men suck the joy out of things!!!

England4eva · Accepted Answer

I personally hate the term. It’s just as bad as saying “silly old hag” or “she’s just a woman.”

I’m not saying this to tell anyone off for this post at all. You only simply asked another opinion, which your absolutely inclined to do!

However, maybe I can help the person see it from another point of view 🙂

As it’s only the feminist narrative that’s being pushed in the media atm. We all deserve equality including men.💪 I definitely don’t want men having to overthink every step they make. But I’m also forever going to be dedicated to calling out bullsh&t behaviour by certain men when I see fit.

So yeah, I’d never use that term for any guy. The ones that cross the line (and I’ve seen it a lot) only embarrass themselves anyway, and hang out with equally pathetic individuals who look up to their dumb behaviour.

nitsuj86 · Accepted Answer

I mean, I don’t think any man goes into it thinking, let me teach this dumb chick how it’s done.

Probably just wanted to talk to you, maybe impress or share their love of the game with you. I’ve had men and women give me advice I didn’t need before, I never got mad at them for it. But you did, and did that change anything?

Sounds like you are just being rude. Even the way you ask the question. Do you think people enjoy answering questions from someone who insults them in the question itself?

Does asking condescending questions to men you don’t know, make you feel better? Reassures you you have a vagina? Does that sound like I expect a real answer to that question? Or I’m just being insulting?

Birdlegs · Accepted Answer

If most of your male partners start explaining to you how to play then you’re probably not as good as you think you are.
I run track and if I see my teammates doing something wrong I help them correct it, male or female. We have an insanely talented girl on our team who I don’t need to help because she does everything right and we have a girl who’s even more naturally talented that I do help out because she doesn’t do everything right. If you’re doing something wrong just take the advice don’t throw a fit, it’s a sport you can always get better. If they don’t give good advice then just say “okay” and ignore it.

Jackblue · Answer

Well I have always been weaker than other guys and so I have felt patronized at times too believe me. People, even women think of me as delicate. I just do the best I can to keep calm about it, because while getting angry has its place it is not necessary over every slight. You can assume that because I am a man I don't have it as bad as you because I am benefiting from the patriarchy (which seems to encompass every male behavior, if we treat you badly, we are being oppressive, treat you well we are being infantilizing, treat you the same we are insensitive to your particular needs), or you can think what I said over.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Assuming these men are actually being condescending and talking down to you because you are a woman, I don't see why you being the strong and independent women you are can't handle your own shit and tell them to fuck off and stop being a dick. That's what I do when someone is being a dick.

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

You ever thought maybe they were just finding an excuse to talk to you, after all if they like and talk about the handful of women that play then what makes you think they are trying to lecture you cause you are a woman playing the game and not because you are a woman and they are trying to talk to you to start flirting, obviously they need a startup conversation and it's gotta be game related cause it's the best way to do it in that position I think, did you notice attitude or cockiness or were they just telling you?

Phoenix98 · Answer

It means you probably aren’t as good as you think you are.

if I see someone doing something wrong and I know how to do it correctly or better. Then I’m going to explain to them what they did wrong and how they can improve.

thats called explaining something.

as for mansplaining that just an idiotic term that a feminist came up which for when a guy explains something. And she didn’t like what she heard.

I don’t know about you but if I’m doing something incorrectly or I can improve on something. Then I like learning and improving from those more skilled and knowledgeable.

IMuser · Answer

If you can learn from their advice, why shouldn't you?

Sure some people have a habit of giving unsolicited advice but you really don't need to be hostile. Some like to teach, some don't. It's not about superiority/inferiority, it's just about experience and the feeling of guiding someone.

Guy13 · Answer

Are you getting laid❓ For some men, in their own mind, they are being helpful. In essence, they are flirting.
I know guys like that on soccer ⚽️ pitches and volleyball 🏐 sand courts. “Obviously, you’re a Dyke….”-I can hear 👂 the 💩 flying.
🤷🏻‍♂️You must be in Cambridge MA or Chappaqua NY. Badminton league, REALLY 🤷🏻‍♂️

Miristheiss · Answer

You must not play very well. Why would you be getting pointers if you are already playing it correctly and playing well? Maybe you have a falsely elevated opinion of how well you play. Just like those singers that try out for American Idol thinking they are good but in fact they are terrible.

jshm2 · Answer

Grow the fuck up, you're not back at the playground again.

They are doing it only to see you get mad, lose games and behave irrationally. You're just being emotionally bullied, is all. Ignore them or have fun, you are an adult and can either deal with it, or move elsewhere.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

A man explaining mansplaining is mansplaining isn't it? I'm not falling for this lol... jk I don't know why dudes are like this. If someone asks for your help or opinion it's one thing.. I don't like when people do this to me so I hear ya.

I'd just challenge one of these fools and best them lol. That should shut their mouths.

LogicBomber · Answer

“mansplaining” is a stupid feminist create term to shame men for speaking logic to them.
Anyone who uses the term is usually a c word false victim who feel the need to spread misandry to feel better about themselves.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Means you're like a normal girl. You have no idea what you're doing but have the confidence in it like youve been doing it for 30 years and won national recognition for it. Smh. Im in my 30s and have had women who are like 19 try and tell me how to do shit they never even done that I've been doing for more than 10 years. This is why men mostly just ignore everything women say and just stare at their tits.

Honesttguy · Answer

They try to pick you up, explaining things gives them indirect way to talk to u, and see if you're interested.
It has nothing to do with that game itself, its all about sex and wanting to fuk you doggystyle. I hope this clears it up for u.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

They're telling you because they want the game to be more competitive. What's the point in playing if you know you're going to win because someone has bad techniques, that sucks the fun out of it

SlothySlob · Answer

The only thing I'll say is, find another group to play with, new team, new association, whatever.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Does womansplaining reassure that you have a pussy?

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Explaining something to someone or showing them how to do something isn't bad. I wasn't there so maybe it was the tone they used that made it worse.

AndrésC64 · Answer

Troll

NamerOfStars · Answer

Does sexism make you feel better about your own inadequacies?

SignedAutographs · Answer

I know girls that literally explain what's happening at the very moment in time... as if we need to hear it

007kingifrit · Answer

if you us the term mansplaining i hope men use you for your pussy and throw you away wtih a broken heart men are biologically designed to explain things. it isn't a choice. deal with it

Anonymous · Answer

Does thinking that everyone is against you because you’re a woman reassure you that you don’t require even a split second of introspection and self improvement?

zagor · Answer

I played on a co-ed volleyball team, and women do the same thing.

OmegaSTC · Answer

You know what’s a serious force of nature? Wifesplaning

Iron_Man · Answer

It depends how experienced he is and how good he is if he’s a coach authority then you should listen

Anonymous · Answer

I would explain whats going on here but evidently you dont like being educated.

Anonymous · Answer

Just as much as Womanbitching reminds you that you are a cunt.

msc545 · Answer

SO don't play with men. That way you can stop complaining about this.

Waldoe · Answer

every time I am pissed off... I can see that I'm a Man

Anonymous · Answer

Just the fact that you call such a thing mansplaining shows that you have a dry pussy with cobwebs because no one has ever been in it.

Anonymous · Answer

Mansplaining is just a term used when a Man is trying to explain something and a Woman doesn't understand.

befuddle · Answer

Like you have any joy... Stop fooling yourself.

Logan_V96 · Answer

Imagine getting this emotional about it.

Anonymous · Answer

They may use it as an excuse to talk to you.

Sabretooth · Answer

well, let me explain...

JesseJayNeak · Answer

You’re speaking like a sore loser

Anonymous · Answer

No, not me.

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