We’ve made plans to meet for coffee. He texts me like every 4 days. Is that okay or should I be concerned?

[Anonymous]

We’ve planned to meet for coffee. Is it bad that mean while he texts me every 4 days?

When we text we usually chat for like hours and we say goodnight to each other. Should I be concerned?

[Cowboy6666]

If I were your boyfriend I would text you daily for hours.

[Asker]

He isn’t my boyfriend tho. We haven’t gone on a date. He asked me to get coffee with hin but due to some things we can’t meet for couple of weeks.

[Cowboy6666]

if he isn't your boyfriend then dont expect anything.
Also he is lazy and irresponsible guy lol

[Crankor]

What would your concern be?

[Asker]

We text like every 4-5 days. I’m afraid that he just isn’t interested in me that much.

[Crankor]

If it's just for coffee then it's just to chat. I'd imagine you would get a better idea of his intentions after meeting up if you did

[Asker]

We weren’t friends before hand.
I’m sure he meant coffee date not just to meet as friends…

[Crankor]

Well you won't really know unless you see what happens. If you've never hung out before then I don't see the lapse being a big deal. I'd imagine he's interested to see if amounts to anything. If you were dating and it was every 4 days then that's something to be concerned about

[Asker]

by the way I noticed one thing I don't know if it’s a bad sign. He messaged me on Tuesday and we chatted for couple hours. He then said that he had to end the conversation and wished me good night and wished me a good work day. It was 11pm. I fell asleep before that message and responded to him on Wednesday mornind “ thanks :) I actually fell asleep before your message”

He opened my message couple days later on Saturday. My message didn’t require a reply tbh. I know for a fact that he already read my message through push notification but still I was annoyed that he opened my message couple days later….

[Crankor]

Well it's possible your not the only girl he's talking to. But who knows. People have weird reasons sometimes for doing that. Id say it's too soon to be upset about that stuff though

[Asker]

I haven’t texted him first after that. I thought that he can text me again if he wants to talk.. did I do wrong?

[Crankor]

Well depends on what you want out of it. If he thinks your not interested and has to do all the work then good chance he will just move on

[Asker]

In the past I was actually the one who mainly texted first. It just turned me off when he opened my last message after couple of days…otherwise I wouldn’t have had problems texting him first.

[Crankor]

I get that but if you both do it then it's just going to fail. So I'd say decide what it is you want from him

[Asker]

How can I get him to message me more frequently?

[Crankor]

That's not something you can really change directly. If you hang out and get along, I'd imagine he would just from spending time together. If not we'll then either he's not interested in that type of relationship with you or he's just not interested in a serious relationship.

[Asker]

Yeah I just have to be more patient. He has askee to meet me for coffee which is a good thing..

[Iron_Man]

Well it’s in public so go

[Asker]

What do you think about us texting like every 4 days?

[Iron_Man]

That’s not very rewarding

[Asker]

What do u mean?

[Iron_Man]

I text my girlfriend every day on this site every four days is hardly anything

[Asker]

He’s not boyfriend. We haven’t met yet. We’ve plans to meet and we’ve exchanged numbers.

[Asker]

Not my boyfriend *

[Iron_Man]

Right but still if you’re planning on dating you need to be talking more

[Iron_Man]

And if it does work out don’t give it up and see if he still sticks around

[Asker]

How can we talk more without coming across needy/pushy?

[Iron_Man]

You’ll probably have to take the lead

[Asker]

How can I let him know that I want us to talk more frequently?

[Iron_Man]

Just basically start texting him more often

[Asker]

If I have to take the lead does that mean he isn’t really interested in me and I’m just a option to him?

[Iron_Man]

I don’t know him like you do but maybe he’s just shy

[Asker]

I noticed one thing I don't know if it’s a bad sign. He messaged me on Tuesday and we chatted for couple hours. He then said that he had to end the conversation and wished me good night and wished me a good work day. It was 11pm. I fell asleep before that message and responded to him on Wednesday mornind “ thanks :) I actually fell asleep before your message”

He opened my message couple days later. My message didn’t require a reply tbh. I know for a fact that he already read my message through push notification but still I was annoyed that he opened my message couple days later….

I think he’s shy or something. He first talked about us calling each other (he didn’t outright asked my number then). Then he asked me for coffee and then I said yes and gave him my number. So far we’ve just chatted on whatsapp. He hasn’t called me lol.

He opened my message couple days later that didn’t require any response from him. Funny thing is that he initiated that conversation. Earlier he also said that he wants us to keep talking…

[Iron_Man]

Give it a chance meet in person and see what happens

[Asker]

All in all do you think he could very much like me and I’m just being too anxious?

[Iron_Man]

Try to relax don’t overthink just meet the guy I have no idea what he’s thinking or if he wants to take it slow. When is the date?

[Asker]

He broke his leg pretty badly and went through surgery. He walks with clutches now. He asked to meet as soon as he can walk properly.

[Asker]

So we can meet after couple weeks.

[Iron_Man]

I guess hold out but that’s a long time

[Asker]

It’s a long time but I do understand him. Who would want to meet with a girl first time with clutches.

[Iron_Man]

That’s fine you’re probably not looking for a lot of guys so wait it out

[Asker]

Lol what did you meant by ” looking for a lot of guys ”

[Iron_Man]

It’s not like you’re looking to date a lot of guys and you can’t wait around for two weeks because you’re impatient just wait it out