Guys, why would you pat a girl on the head?

[Anonymous]

Is it ok if only guys answer this please? Also I don’t find head patting condescending before you suggest

[NamerOfStars]

If it's not condescension (which I imagine it usually isn't), it's fondness. It's strange how society so sharp delineates different forms of touch, that a gentle stroke on the shoulder should be so positive, but an insult if moved ten inches up and over, to the top of the head (okay, it's not ten inches for MOST people, but it's not my fault you all have such puny heads). There may also be an element of almost parental fondness to it, though, even if it's not a condescending thing.

[Asker]

Thank you I feel the same as it’s just a sweet gesture to me I just don’t know if for guys do they normally do it because of romantic or platonic feelings mostly?

[NamerOfStars]

That... is a good question. Look at his other actions; they should make it clear.

[Asker]

Well normally he would tease me quite a lot as well as look at me loads to see my reaction to things and gaze a bit at me

[Jamie05rhs]

I would only do that if we were very close. That's not something you do to strangers.

And you're asking why we would do that? It's because the girl did something dumb. So you pat them on the head in a joking manner. It's supposed to be funny.

by the way, this is reversible as well. Girls can pat guys on the head, too.

[Asker]

Thank you! I didn’t do anything funny though I sang just along with everyone for a song on a night out

[Jamie05rhs]

You're welcome!

Oh! Hmm. Maybe you have a cute singing voice, then? I don't know

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO. :)

[MrOracle]

Well, it CAN be condescending sometimes - though it's usually obvious when it is - but it can also be a way of showing care and comfort while specifically avoiding any presumption of sexuality - i. e., he wants you to know he cares, but doesn't want you to think he's just trying to get into your pants by doing so. This doesn't mean he doesn't WANT to get into your pants - it just means that he's not going to do anything about than until he knows YOU want it to happen too.

[clampfan101]

Maybe if she’s my SO and she does something cute?
By the way, there's an option for having only one chosen gender giving replies.

[Asker]

I know but as I said in another comment I did this just in case the algorithm didn’t work as that can happen to me sometimes.

Also that makes sense but what if you aren’t dating the person? In my case it was a male Co worker that did it

[clampfan101]

I would never do it to a stranger.
If she was a casual friend I might if she did something cute or funny.
Though in the end it’s never been something I’ve considered doing to anyone but pets. lol

[Asker]

Fair dos would you ever do it to a girlfriend for example? Also thank you that makes sense I didn’t really do anything cute I thought I just sang

[Waldoe]

it's a sign of affection and a feeling of protectiveness...

[Asker]

Thank you! How so even if you weren’t dating the person you did this too?

[TrillXHippy]

I applaud you for asking just guys since that’s who the question is for. I don’t know

[Asker]

I did that Just in case the algorithm didn’t work

[TrillXHippy]

Understandable 😁

[Asker]

Thanks haha also appreciate the response 😄

[TrillXHippy]

You’re welcome

[spartan55]

I would never even think of doing that to anyone. I am curious how you don't find it condescending?

[Asker]

Because I think it’s a sweet gesture

[spartan55]

Maybe towards the family pet...

[spartan55]

I would suggest looking for WAY more than this to know if a guy likes you. Seems you girls will reach for anything.

[Kaneki05]

Because Head pats! Comforting.

[Asker]

Thanks! Would you do it if you liked someone?

[Kaneki05]

Yes if I knew she liked them or get that sense she would.

[Asker]

Ah ok thank you! Just my work colleague did this for the first time at a work do and was wondering if it was romantic or platonic?

[Asker]

Normally I mean

[Kaneki05]

It can be both. But I would say's it's more to someone you like tbh. Depends if they do it to other's normally if so then more or not just platonic or at least there isn't a sign it wouldn't be. But if just you then platonic maybe not.

[Asker]

Ok thank you so much I appreciate it! :)

[JesseJayNeak]

They usually worked with me

[Asker]

How do you mean sorry?

[JesseJayNeak]

Patting my ex on the head. She used to enjoy it

[DaddyDiablo]

Maybe you were pulling a senpai move n shit

[Anonymous]

I think she was a good girl.

[Wise4myage]

Maybe during oral.