He wants sex in a cottage?

[Anonymous]

On our first date, he suddenly brought forward the idea that he needs a one week break and that his friend has a cottage in a seaside town which is empty now. He mentioned it three times.
Once again, when we were chatting, he mentioned that he wants to go on a 2 week break , twice saying he wants to go on a 1 or 2 week break and when I asked where ygen he quickly changed it to visiting his best male friend in Poland.

However, he did not go anywhere and was still here. He goes on these weekend or 2-3 day trips with the other girls he hooks up but with me, he keeps saying 1 or 2 week breaks.

What does he want from me and what will he do there for so many days with me when we aren't even dating exclusively nor have had sex?

[Effably]

If someone invited me for that on a first date I'd get some serial killer vibes from it. Not to say you can't invite someone. But to a secluded faraway place for an extended period of time wgen you barely know each other? That's an odd call.

Although I am getting the image that you do know each other from before as there is little other reason you'd know what he does with other girls.

[Mango-man]

Yeah, my thoughts exactly! She would have no way of escaping if something went wrong.

[Asker]

No I didn't know him before. We just stared and talked 5 mins to introduce ourselves

[Effably]

So during the first date he has talked about his other hookups and asked you to spend a week away from everyone, including any support-net?

If that wasn't all very natural in the context of your date I'd be concerned.

[Asker]

Not about hook ups. Just the cottage thing

[purplepoppy]

Do you mean he wants to go cottaging? I'd be a little worried if I were you

[Asker]

He always says he wants a break for a week or two and go to q cottage

[spartan55]

Still haven't sought help yet?