I've made a bunch of new guy friends but none of them ever ask me out why?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I've just gone years just being a friend with a guy. I've asked a couple in the past and they didn't see me like that

[mark000h]

Maybe they're not attracted to you like that or they are afraid of how you'd react and affect the friendship. Many guys are afraid nowadays. Girls should state if they're interested or not clearly.

[Asker]

I'm 29 haven't had a guy in years I'm just the friends it's so depressing

[mark000h]

Maybe ask one that you're interested in yourself...

[Asker]

I did he says attractive but didn't want to date me

[mark000h]

...😔

[Asker]

Oh believe me I feel quite depressed at times and today I certainly do. My brother is going on a trip with his girlfriend for a week and here's me with nobody

[ShadowMonarch]

There could be various reasons but you know what,
Men these days are complex...
I say this most of the time but most men have a fear of rejection...

[Asker]

I've asked dome put and they either make excuses or say they aren't interested

[Asker]

Some out**

[ShadowMonarch]

Well you should ask yourself..
What could be the reason?

[ShadowMonarch]

Only you know the best about you and people around you

[Asker]

Even my younger brother is setting me up I feel so lame

[ShadowMonarch]

Hmmm... you should go out more and socialize

[Asker]

He never leaves he was lucky his roommate liked him

[Asker]

I do spin cycling etc and get invited out to get together doesn't mean guys like me like that

[Yucy_Gluttony]

Or they don't see you like that, or they may be just as shy ;)

[Asker]

Yeah just a friend usually I've never had a boyfriend

[Avicenna]

Sounds like they genuinely respect you as a friend. I've never asked out a female friend either.

[Asker]

29 never had a boyfriend only had 2 longish friends with benefits really that's it

[Avicenna]

OK, be honest- is there anything about you that would make it unlikely for a relationship to work out? Your friends know you well and would surely know about this. To illustrate, I have a very good friend (she's godmother to one of my kids and I've known her for over 20 years), but I would never date her and neither would any other guy because she is completely disorganized and can't focus on getting to know a guy because it would interfere with her social life (she's constantly double booked). She's a great friend, but not girlfriend material.

[Asker]

No idea I wouldn't say I'm busy like your friend. Ohwell I guess I'll be their friend... going 10 tears single and I'm 29

[Avicenna]

You can ask guys out

[In_Trance]

"guy friends"

[Asker]

Definitely the opposite. I do have female friends aswell. I'm trying to date a guy but nobody is interested

[BarryLiverstone]

If you have never had a boyfriend do you consider yourself to be attractive or can you improve?

[Asker]

I've been cancelled and told I'm beautiful when I'm out in public. I've had guys say I'm attractive but just wanted to be friends still

[BarryLiverstone]

Lots of times guys will not be completely honest if they don’t wanna hurt your feelings so if they just wanna be friends maybe you could look better. How were you cancelled?

[Asker]

Nah I've had plenty want nudes surely I can't be that bad I have a nice figure and I'm very slim

[BarryLiverstone]

Then something is off in that all these guys only wanna be friends. Do your other friends go on dates?

[Asker]

Yeah I have no idea. Yeah most of my friends are engaged or married there noting special about their looks either

[BarryLiverstone]

Have you ever asked them to set you up?

[Asker]

Yeah they did now they just don't want yo speak about that giy they had in mind so I dunno now ugh feeling down today 🤷

[BarryLiverstone]

Can’t feel down on a Friday! It’s the freakin weekend and it’s almost time to party ;) Are you going out on the weekend and mingling with others?

[Asker]

Nah I never really see my friends now that they are married or engaged they just hang about with their partners. Only see friends a few times a month

[BarryLiverstone]

There it is. Time for you to put together a ladies night or friends night to get your groove back. Surely if you only see them every few months that’s hardly a chance to go out and meet in a group right? I wonder if your job isn’t giving you chances to network also

[Asker]

It's just my age now tho they have kids and stuff so it's really hard

[BarryLiverstone]

Woah that is scary, I’ll be there in a few years. Those are some of my ideas, feel free to follow me if you have more details to talk about it. I know that sometimes guys need encouragement to ask you out

[Asker]

Yeah when I hit 25 I hardly heard a thing with anyone now im 29 absolutely no chance of meeting people tbh

[BarryLiverstone]

Really?

[lofii]

You ugly

[Asker]

I'm starting to think I am tbh

[lofii]

You got a pic and I'll let you know.

Maybe you're not

[Asker]

I do I just followed you

[lofii]

I don't think you did

[Asker]

My name is hikingqueen94

[Asker]

Just followed you now