Why does it bother me when a guy leaves me on "seen" but with my girls I don't mind as much?

[random_girl95]

Even if I don't ask a question and just made a comment about something, sometimes a guy will or will not reply. Girls tend to reply usually to everything I write in my chat. Any suggestions on how to stop being bothered about being left on "seen" ?

[ShadowMonarch]

It depends upon the situation and the relationship between you and the other person... mainly I could genrailize this topic as :
1. You are not the priority at the moment
2. He is busy
3. He is playing the push pull tactic
4. They are not that interested in you
5. Lastly they just don't want to reply because of something that happened

Why does it hurt with the opposite gender?
Well, we react differently with the opposite gender's behavior and it is more like a subconscious thing. Mainly it hurts because it hurts your ego, you start to think why did he do it? From this point you start to over think and make assumptions... which could be very wrong...

[random_girl95]

@ShadowMonarch Very true what you said. However didn't understood the "push pull tactic". What is this?

[ShadowMonarch]

So when he did not reply you started to wonder about him because he pushed you away
After sometime he'll pull you back...
This happens when someone is really trying to make you wonder about them (in a romantic way)

[random_girl95]

Oh ok. That's not the case fortunately lol.

[ShadowMonarch]

Only you can know why he doesn't reply because only you know the real situation... yeah it's up to you now

[random_girl95]

I guess so. Thanks for your analysis. Appreciate it.

[ShadowMonarch]

No problem...

[Wise4myage]

Because its rude and I don't blame you. Maybe because you aren't dating your girl friends?

[random_girl95]

@Wise4myage I don't date that guy. We are just friends, but it still bothers me lol.

[Wise4myage]

Have you considered reaching out to him?

[random_girl95]

@Wise4myage Reaching out as calling or meeting up?

[Wise4myage]

Calling or texting.

[random_girl95]

@Wise4myage It's via text that he leaves me on seen lol.

[Wise4myage]

Then maybe its time to move on.

[random_girl95]

Ok, I will consider it. Thank you!

[Wise4myage]

You're welcome.

[Intothevoid666]

See it’s weird cuz girls will provide nothing for me to go off of to continue the conversation multiple messages in a row and then when I don’t respond to one and just let the convo die they get mad or something. Ask urself if a guy sent u the same message u just sent to him how would u respond? I notice most women I talk to put very little effort into the text conversation and then when I let it die they’re upset. It doesn’t make much sense. I don't know if that’s what ur doing but I notice A LOT if not most women I’ve texted do this.

[random_girl95]

@Intothevoid666 Honestly I put effort in my conversations, depending on the person of course. No, I try to keep the conversation going but at some point the male person just leaves me hanging there.

[Guccigabbana18]

Because with guys it feels like romantic rejection when they don’t reply. With girls you know there’s no rejection behind it or you don’t perceive it as rejection

[random_girl95]

@Guccigabbana18 You couldn't have said it any better lol. Strange however that I feel like it, because we are just friends.

[RV2121]

Maybe because you're attracted to the guy romantically or even as a friend more that your female friends that make you bother.

I don't have a solution to it but you can ask directly if they see you in real life.

[random_girl95]

You are right. Thanks for the advice!

[Shamalien]

Cause you want that good d

[random_girl95]

@Shamalien I don't understand what you are saying.