Boyfriend and I have not had sex in 1 month and 3 weeks.. what is wrong what should I do?

[Anonymous]

So we have been together for 10 happy months. we would regularly have sex maybe once or twice a week.

When he came back from Canada for a weekend to spend with his parents (he's from india but his parents visited Canada bc his brother lives there). we had sex march 26 after and it was great... nothing bad happened... we had sex for two days straight so all was well.

after he came back... he got sick for a whole week. week 2 he was just very tired from his very long class schedule but he'd come over and work on hw and stuff. week 3 he got sick again.. now with a slight fever and coughing. week 4 we had our first fight ever. we fought all weekend but all week after that i didn't see him because he said he was busy with work so he would go straight home... but he would call me and update me where he was and what he was up to. week 5 and 6 we both had finals... we both stayed up late and worked all night...
we had our second fight about a similar topic but it was also due to the fact that he mixed my graduation date. he ended up making it and meeting my parents for the first time. it was nice.

week 7.. finals are over but he has been staying home because he has a lot of projects to do for his mini architecture firm. theyre all in india and he's in US times so he works at night. I saw him Monday and he asked me to come over Friday and chilled. he went out that day at night and so did i. he also went on Wednesday with some friends and Thursday but he told me he stayed up all night until 4 am working on some drawings.

so yeah i dunno. will we ever have sex?

he starts his architecture internship Wednesday... its a 9-5 and its a one hour commute here and back.. i asked him how he will work on his projects and he said at night...

LOL will we ever have time so have sex

other then this he's been a great guy. he cancelled meeting with the internship people for the first time because it was my graduation day.

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1 y

i remember he told me one day that architecture was first and i was at the very last of the list but he put me before him. But that time he chose me over architecture which says a lot :(

so yeah i dunno i asked him if he gets horny and he says he does but when he's busy he shakes it off and works... i dunno... i

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1 y

told him i was craving it and he was like "dont start with this plis I've been so busy..." also for him for some reason after sex he just sleeps so he can't really work after... thats just how he is

[Guy13]

He sounds like a man…plan…and balls to do it…like a guy who can resist temptation and focus on priority. Like a Guy most women would want to marry.
—Stop pressuring the guy. Try a 💋 🍆 while he’s studying or working. When I was in graduate school, while in chair at desk, my women would pull my pants down to knees and sit. I woukd keep reading my journals. “Done with you now… “Me” and Audrey are going for cocktails‼️“

This is how you do things…And guess who was horny at 1am…this is how you handle things…

[Asker]

ahahaha yes he is currently in graduate school lol
.. i dunno do you think we will ever have sex? he doesn't like being bothered when he's working so i rather not budge.. the time i did bother his he got irritated but we ended up going for a long chill drive so all was well. but yeah im kind of getting annoyed. he's a great guy overal

[Guy13]

My woman was little bitchy-fun then.
💋🍆…. “Focus on your journals and I’ll focus on you.” And ONCE and only once, I stopped studying and watched…she got up, as she had eyes 👀 upon me and that was the end of that… And the time of the year then with beach and g-string bathing suit 👙 trying on etc…for two weeks.
“You’re not going to blame me because your advisors complains about your annotated bibliography….” never will I ever forget that when she pulled off that one ☝️ time!!!

[kinggeorge007]

I don't see anything wrong here. He is working hard for his (and yours if you guys keep it together) future and as you've described past few weeks are really hectic weeks. And knowing all that you fought over a mix-up. It looks like you are not as mature as him. You will have to have a lot of patience to make a relationship work. It's not easy. It takes time.

[Asker]

thank you for your comment. i dont really bother him as such and let him be. i understand he is a busy busy man and i love him so much ! i was simply just ranting but i will. hold my ground. he's been an amazing person overal.

[kinggeorge007]

That's great to hear.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he’s a very hard worker which takes uo most of his time and energy. It’s crazy how he has to initiate the sex though 😂 Why do you have to wait? You can’t just grab his penis and start sucking? Get him hard and ride him?

[Werenotsure]

Ok twice a week is sorta un healthy twice a month is better besides men focus on goals over girls it’s just fact if a man has high aspirations for his life you will be sidelined until he gets his goals done first he still loves you he just has bigger things on his mind a mans life is more important to him than his significant other majority of male suicides come after the loss of a job not a divorce

[spartan55]

Wtf? He is turning down sex to work on projects? That's lame af.

[Asker]

these projects involve clients that he needs to contact lol... its not just school stuff lol

[spartan55]

Yeah and? He should learn to manage his time better.

[Asker]

i know lol but i get what you mean ;/

[slatyb]

Have you told him how much you miss it? What did he say?

[Esperanto]

There is always time for sex. So there is something else he is not telling you.

[TrillXHippy]

You really think 1 month and 3 weeks is bad? I’m a virgin

[Luckycharms12]

Horny touch yourself

[Bklynbadboy12]

Talk to him about it