If he can’t get it up is it because of my body?

[Anonymous]

[ohshee]

Noooooo dont even think that way to be honest you have nothing to do with that that's all on him if he's not getting up that's his problem you can turn him on just with your eyes you don't even have to be naked if a guy does not get it up he has a problem it has nothing to do with you in all reality sure you could tease and seduce and all that stuff but that's not what makes him get it up is by him being turned on wanting to turn you on if he doesn't want to do anything he's not going to do anything if that's the bottom line it doesn't matter how sexy you are when you wear anyting if he's not going to want to get it out that's not going to go up

[HawkPerception]

It could be many things. It could be that he's not straight, which won't be the case if he's had no issues before. It could be that sex is getting dull and/or there isn't enough wild stuff happening in the bedroom to excite him. It could also be that he's losing attraction for you because you're not in shape. And it could also just be his body is getting older and getting and staying up is getting harder, in which case I would recommend foods that help with blood circulation like raw garlic, fish and steak.

[laraWM]

Of course not, it has nothing to do with you.
Was it your first time both? Or are you going out for a while?

[MLBHct1P]

Any miriad of reasons, maybe he hasn’t slept well, maybe he isn’t eating right, maybe he jacked off already that day, maybe he’s embarrassed or nervous. Perhaps it’s not so much your body but he wishes you were doing something different.

Point is it could be anything but you won’t know until you ask him if there’s anything you could do differently. Letting it stew in your head is just going to give you a sense of body dysmorphia. Communication is key! Even if it’s embarrassing or you’re scared of the answer.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Sounds like he might consider a doctor. Some guys struggle with ED, it can be physically or mentally issues but fixable.


With you now, if he didn’t find you attractive to begin with then he wouldn't of tried to hook up/ date you. Sounds like an excuse

[Asker]

True he would’ve know my body type by touching me and hugging me and dancing beside me most of the night so I guess if it wasn’t attractive to him he wouldn’t put himself in a situation of not being able to get it up anyway

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

My thoughts exactly. If there was alcohol involved then that does effect it but still not an excuse

[Asker]

Affect him not knowing if he finds me attractive enough to get it up or affect his ability to get it up? He had like 3 drinks and this was like two hours after he had a drink at all

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

No I was referring to the cock remaining hard. Alcohol does that but everyone is affected by alcohol differently

[RealMarek]

Most likely it is his diet, porn addiction, or anxiety. Men in their 20s today have record low average testosterone levels. Make sure he eats clean (avoid soy, processed foods, and seed oils), avoids porn, exercises regularly (weight training is especially good for this problem), and just try to help him not make a big deal about it when he doesn’t get it up. It’s almost certainly not your body that is the problem.

[Shamalien]

It could be many factors, usually a combination of factors tbh though since a healthy man gets an erection pretty easily when offered sex. If you’re out of shape that is a factor. If he watches porn that is a factor. If he’s anxious or uncomfortable around you, that’s a really big factor

[Asker]

I’m 5’9 and 190 but I’ve been bigger and never had this problem before

[Shamalien]

I personally would have trouble staying hard for that. For 5’9 I’d say around 160 might start being attractive to me, but really more like 140

[Shamalien]

All depends on the guy tho, some guys have different preferences

[Asker]

But he was dancing with me touching me all night and has his hands on my waist and I was sitting on his knee so surely he could tell I was on the heavier side already

[Shamalien]

Yeah probably but a man will lower his standards if he’s horny enough

[Asker]

Lower his standards? Lol just because you don’t find it attractive doesn’t mean someone else won’t plus you don’t even know how my body looks

[Shamalien]

Hey I’m just explaining male nature don’t b mad

[Anonymous]

I sincerely doubt that's the reason. I get it women always take this personal as though it's a sign that he's not attracted to her. You have no clue how an erection works. Trust me when I tell you performance issues are almost ALWAYS something else (medical, anxiety, etc). Because if that was the problem a guy could just close his eyes and imagine you were someone else. C'mon we know women do that with some guys. Lol

[anton_dee]

Many factors.

Your appearance, your hygiene, smell, the situation at that time, his nental state, your responses to foreplay, etc. .

[Anonymous]

There's many, many, many things that can effect our erections. It could be visual, but also could be mental, tiredness, distracted, just the day and/or body doing what it wants to, stress, diet, exercise, mood, drugs/medications etc, etc.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Nah. Telling from experience even if she has the hottest body, if I am stressed out, depressed, lots of thoughts running through or being anxious, I cannot get hard

[Sevenpointfive]

no. it could still be something about you even though you have a perfect body

[nisnaia]

There are many reasons for guys not to get it up. Stress, sickness, but yes also attractiveness. Have you talked to him about it?

[FilmGuy93]

No, usually that's more of a problem of stage fright.

[DarkWinterNights]

Might be a porn addiction. That can really kill a guys sex drive.

[SAMI_DABBAB]

I'd say it's his problem, a straight male's reaction to female body is natural

[Guardian45]

Unlikely. Its MOST likely due to stress, tiredness or a medical condition. Start by getting a physical and ruling out a medical problem.

[noohair]

If he was functioning and then it stopped, it is more likely medication, alcohol or something related to him.

[altdbob]

NOT TRUE.
Well, it can be your body and he just doesn't find you attractive but that is rare.
It is a better bet there are other reasons for this happening.

[Curiouslad123]

No he might have medical issues or his very nervous

[Waldoe]

probably NOT... guys are pretty simple, it is a medical issue (Drugs, alcohol)

[spartan55]

Women are always wrong about this.

[notwoke]

if your heavy, possibly

[Asker]

Is being 190 at 5’9 a turn off? Lmk

[notwoke]

that would be "off the radar" for me. In y thinking this is someone who shoudl seek help becuase they have eminent medical problems looming. That being said, the majority of folks are vastly overweight

[Asker]

well I’m sure he could tell what my body was like from dancing with me hugging me kissing me and me sitting on his lap wouldn’t he have been able to tell?

[notwoke]

yeah, but when horny and with a new girl there is a lot of excitement that is different that the way he will feel in "steady state". I've had relationships with women because I like them and after a while things about their bodies bothered me. Women experience this too and "dump" a guy or become cold

[Asker]

Oh he was just a friends with benefits anyways!

[Staximus]

Probably performance anxiety

[The_Naughty_Guy]

Not necessarily. It could be his problem as well

[KrakenAttackin]

Possibly. Or he is gay AF.

[Spotifyplaylist]

Definitely not.

[anylolone]

Unlikely.

[Fuentes]

May be mental

[In_Trance]

Nope

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think so.