Peeps what do you think about this guy?

[Metelda]

Guys there is a man whom I met on an anonymous kind of app. At first I found him kind of weird and dark but gradually I find him relatable to me. He acts cold but is an awesome guy at least to me. He says "You are comfy". I am not sure what it means. Also like instead of asking me for a picture of mine he asks about details like if I have dark circles, if I am chubby, if I have glasses also the power, if I have long hairs, if I am tomboy. He even asked once how do I react to flirt guys. I dont know it's a little weird but I kind of like it. Also out of nowhere he said "I can take care of you kiddo dont worry". Oh Yes kiddo because he is a year older to me. He also said I am all the red flags you are looking for. again I dont know what it means..

So what do you all think about this guy?

[coldmarch]

I think he is a weird person and yellow flags are all over there. Nothing wrong in being a bit mysterious to just play and flirt, but something is off here.
I think he doesn't ask your photos because he doesn't want to send his, and reasons could be: 1) He is too old. 2) He is ugly or insecure, or is a woman, or anyway something isn't right. 3) He doesn't want to give you enough data about himself "just in case" he comes up with bad intentions and wants to play it safe. 4) He is one of your exes or someone you know already and wants to make sure it's you, but doesn't want to reveal himself.
By saying red flags and kiddo I think he was flirty, teasing you a bit to get your attention, but to be honest I would personally find this way to flirt quite obnoxious because it's like joking about you being "inferior" or "judgeable" and tests the waters to see how far he can go without making you escape. If you also joke the same about him (telling diminishing jokes like these) then it's allright, I do this with a friend all the time mutually, but we are close and we are mutually sure we're just fully sarcastic.
If you're unsure, don't let him settle this style of communication, because if it's not totally sarcastic it can turn into a habit of invalidating you and putting you in a quite sad role.
Be aware also about yourself: you might be fascinated by this game, but take a reality check: are you getting infatuated of someone's game, or someone's life (hint: you don't know anything of him, his real context etc). And, how much information are you giving about yourself vs how much is he giving? This must be balanced back... If you find yourself exposing too much, quit and start asking a lot of things too, and proof. Take the right to tell soft lies here and there until he actually prooves what he says.
Honestly, if someone behaved like that with me at your age, I would be intrigued and I would take it like an interesting challenge. If it is today, I would think he is some weird self-centered insecure wan*er with some toxic social issue who can get potentially obsessed and clingy with me because of the reassurements I give to his fragile ego by just agreeing to interact with him and accepting his cringe games. Then I might be wrong, but that would be my first thought and anyway i wouldn't have time to waste with such bs...

[Metelda]

thnks for this much explanation 😊

[Anonymous]

(1) You are comfy - I feel comfortable around you and enjoy your company.
(2) He likely doesn’t ask for your picture because he knows that if he asks you for one, you may request his picture in return, and he doesn’t want to be in that position.
(3) The things he asks you about your appearance are specific qualities that somehow stand out to him in tens of appearance and although he hasn’t seen a picture of you, he wants to imagine you in his head.
(4) The “I can take care of you kiddo” comment reminds me of a guy friend who would call me kiddo in text at times. He was 5 years older than me, and I know because he told me when I confessed that he did not see me romantically at all.
(5) “I am all the red flags you are looking for”—this could be a flirtatious comment from a guy with some dark humor (like imagine if it had this emoji 😈) of it could also be a creeper comment.

[Opinion Owner]

I seriously question how old he is though, and if you want my honest opinion, I’d say for you to stay away.

[Metelda]

thank you very much for the detailed explanation.. According to u is this guy worthy of someone whom I should look forward?

[Metelda]

he is 20 and I am 19

[EmmaMary]

@Metelda

How can you be absolutely positively sure that he's 20?

[Opinion Owner]

@metelda I would stop the contact. I get major catfish vibes. No 20-year-old guy in today’s day and age says the word “kiddo” to a female that close in age.

[Metelda]

🥲yes correct.. I guess I am blindfolded

[EmmaMary]

@lynnn

That indeed, is a very valid point.

[Opinion Owner]

Don’t feel bad at all though. You did the right thing asking for second opinions on here and it’s much better to back out now unscathed than invite a creeper to your house later on. :) No reason to feel bad.

[EmmaMary]

@lynnn

I totally agree. 👍

[Staximus]

Sounds like a load of rubbish, from some guy who you just send messages back and forth with on your phone but don't see in real life. So it's not real life and don't put too much mayonnaise on the sandwich and start liking somebody you don't even know. Wait till you actually see them in person or in real life and don't get hung up on some Internet weirdo

[EmmaMary]

My thoughts exactly.

[Metelda]

thank u for ur opinion 😊 i will take that into note👍