He wants to talk and I’m scared :( ?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been in a casual relationship for the past couple of months (not friends with benefits but not a full relationship). I texted him that it’s getting too emotional for what we’re doing, and we need to figure things out. After going back and forth over text and him not responding for a tiny bit, he texted me “sorry I needed time to think, when are you free this week to talk?”. This really triggered me because I feel like I’m getting broken up with 🙃 if guys say that (when are you free to talk, after taking time to think) are they typically ending whatever situationship you guys were in (aka is this the end lmao) or might it be slightly positive?

[vald9inches]

That idiot why did he have to go and ruin a good thing for? Lol but there is no avoiding it you will have to eventually talk to him maybe he won't break it and just change expectations. You could try to convince via text before you meet

[Asker]

We texted back and forth a lot already, I really don’t think there’s much else I can say. I’m so scared. If he’s going to “break up” with me I’m considering just asking him to text/call instead

[vald9inches]

Yea see if you can try to get him to text/call

[Asker]

I just asked if it’ll be bad lol… lets see what he says

[Asker]

Update he said he doesn’t know how it’s going to go. I guess that better than bad?

[vald9inches]

Nice!! wishing you luck beautiful!! 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞❤️❤️❤️❤️

[vald9inches]

Add me by the way ❤️

[spartan55]

It's a coin flip, just meet him and face the music.

[Asker]

Haha I like the analogy. Will do

[Theabcking]

He's probably meeting you in person to let you go. At least he's not doing it over text. Just tell him you more than just sex with him because you actually so want more than sex.

[FilmGuy93]

The fact he wants to meet you to talk in person is a good sign.

[maximumpower]

it's "casual" yet you're "scared" about possible break-up?
believe you should reevaluate your definition of casual and how you "grade" relationships.

[Asker]

I am more than prepared to break things off if it doesn’t progress, that does not mean I don’t have a right to have feelings and feel anxiety over that prospect, especially since I don’t know. I wanted advice on what direction it seems like it’s going in since he’s been more relationship like recently. But thank you for making me feel shit about my judgements

[Asker]

Also maybe I should’nt have said casual, because it seems like guys on here are quick to shit on women when they are feeling uncertainty in the early stages of a relationship. Maybe I’ll switch it to “undefined”, because we’re exclusive but haven’t had a talk to progress it yet.

[Anonymous]

Why is that a problem? You just said it was casual. You can't really lose what you never had. Women🙄

[Asker]

I never said it was a problem. But I am more than allowed to have feelings and get sad at the thought of loosing him, even if was casual. And if it stays casual I will end things, even if I will be sad. This is not a “women” thing but more of a men issue for always stringing women along and giving mixed signals to keep them tied just enough. I was okay with beeping casual until he started doing things like saying he missed me and holding my hand and shit which got me more attached. And I am prepared to end it if he’s going to keep doing actions like that that don’t align what we are. But I’m more than happy to progress things to a different stage if he takes it there. Regardless I am allowed to be sad

[Opinion Owner]

But by your own admission you said it was "casual". So by your own admission you knew what it was.
Yeah you're allowed to get sad. I'm just not sure about why you would get wrapped in something you knew all along wasn't going anywhere.
Good luck I guess.

[Asker]

Thank you. I didn’t expect it to progress to this stage, where it’s kind of casual not casual. This is why I’m trying to have a conversation and prospectively end things. But I should’ve ended it or chatted sooner before it progressed

[Opinion Owner]

Hey we've all been there. We've all created something that wasn't there. And you don't know for a fact yet that he's "dumping" you. But this is why I have a strict, I-will-only-give-the-amount-of-effort-that-she-gives-me rule when it comes to relationships. It sucks if she quits you. But you leave with your pride. Knowing she never got the better of you.

[Asker]

Right! 100% agreed, that’s why I was like woahhh let’s take a step back when I felt it getting messy. Id be sad to cut him off but I will get over it much easier than if I had continued in something that would’ve been uneven and less than I want. I asked him if it’ll be bad and he said “I don’t know how it’ll go” so Idek if he’s dumping me or it’s just to kinda figure stuff out. I’ll take that statement as a he’s not but not going in with intentions to dump I guess?

[RuthlessAggression]

Immature people, do "causal" relationships

MATURE THE FUCK UP

[Asker]

This is why I asked him to talk….

[vald9inches]

@harmlessflyaggression Immature idiots tell other people how to live their life

[RuthlessAggression]

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