Why would an ex keep trying to contact me after six years?

[sheikalana]

I'm happily married but this ex keeps trying to reach out. How come he hasn't moved on in six years?

[Gent207-2]

Nostalgia is a damn good liar as it maximizes the good memories and cuts out the ones that led to your break up.

Those happy memories shine brighter than the stars even if her smile only served to hide the pain being with me was causing her, not that I was abusive, I just wasn't the "nice guy" I wanted to believe That I was, but 7 years of hindsight has given me much to think about and yet I still think about her.

Plus if your ex is anything like me and has buried a former best friend (we had a falling out in hs and we never got to settle our wrongs), he probably doesn't want to depart with loose ends. Ten years of regrets have turned into an eternity of silence without possiblity for forgiveness.

[Bang5luts]

Sometime we as humans have a difficult time letting go, especially when there were painful situations involved, answer him ask him what's going on after he tells you let him know it isn't a good idea for him to keep contacting you. Tell him you have moved on

[sheikalana]

I’ve told him this so many times and he doesn’t get it and doesn’t accept the fact that I lost all the attraction I had for him moved on and married the love of my life. I ended up blocking him I don’t want to give him the opportunity to talk to me ever again.

[stargazeraug1989]

Because he still wants you. No matter how bad things may have been, the love never really goes away completely for some. Sometimes it's only after losing someone that you realize how large the space in your heart is that that person once occupied.

[sheikalana]

It's so frustrating because there's really no turning back for me. I moved on for good and married the love of my life and he should do the same too. There's plenty of other women out there. I feel like at this point this feels like an obsession.

[stargazeraug1989]

Why'd you two split up?

[sheikalana]

I completely lost attraction and didn't feel that he was good for me. I see him as a toxic man.

[stargazeraug1989]

Was he abusive? Lazy? Dishonest?

[sheikalana]

Lazy unfaithful and a bunch of other turn offs.

[stargazeraug1989]

Unfaithful? Well, that'll do it. Can't say I blame you for walking away from that.

[sheikalana]

I told you I moved on for good who would want someone like that.

[GeneralContractor]

He is a total loser and can't get or find anyone else.

[sheikalana]

I agree.

[DaveJord]

I think I will let you think on why he is doing this, and I would not assume its not that he hasn't move on. You know the answer why, and if your happily married then you know what to do and the why doesn't matter.

[sheikalana]

I blocked him. I don’t want him to have any access to me or my business.

[DaveJord]

Good ;-) I think that is the right answer.

[slatyb]

Just block him and forget it. Sad.

[sheikalana]

I feel like I have no other option but to do this. Thanks.

[slatyb]

You could send one last message "It ended six years ago. This is my final message. Goodbye."

[sheikalana]

I block him a few hours ago. I'm done.

[pizzalovershouse]

Do you still have something of his that's valuable

[sheikalana]

absolutely not!

[pizzalovershouse]

Then trying to get you back what a fool

[sheikalana]

I am married. There's no way I would ever drop my husband for someone like him or anyone else.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you’ve got a banging body and some big ass boobs. Who can say.