Why did he play me twice 😕?

[Anonymous]

After the first time, he reached out to me and seemed to have second thoughts. He spent more time with me and said he regretted ghosting me and treating me badly. But then he did it all over again 🙁I know it's my fault for being so stupid, but I decided to give him a second chance. Why play me twice? What did he get out of it? We never had sex or anything. shpuld I change my number?

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[Anonymous]

Sometimes guys like to feel the power a girl has over men if he's offered the chance.

As long as you keep coming back, he'll keep fucking with you

I know that doesn't make a lot of sense, but think of it this way; if you had a boss that treated you like shit and made you do all his work, and one day he gets demoted and now you're his boss. Would you do the same to him? Some would and some wouldn't. This guy would

[Asker]

That makes sense. Thank you.

Do you think I should change my number so he can never reach out and try again?

[Opinion Owner]

I think blocking him will do the trick just fine
If he starts to stalk you and get weird you could change your number, but most likely when he realizes you're done with him he'll stop. Or he'll try to apologize, but fuck him don't fall for it

[Asker]

Thank you for your advice. And for not being harsh on me, because I know I'm a fool for giving him a second chance.
I'm so hurt, but I know this is my fault for trusting him a second time. I cried all night long. But I'm more angry at myself than at him. He seemed so genuine when he said he regretted it. I honestly thought he'd had second thoughts and decided he liked me 🙁

[Opinion Owner]

Hey no worries. You're not a fool, you're a girl. You want your fairy tale ending (I mean that in a good way) and some dick head comes along and takes advantage of your sweet nature and your hopes and dreams so he can feed his own damn ego. Sometimes guys can be real dicks, myself included. I'm sorry we're like that sometimes, but I promise it's not all of us. You seem like a sweet girl with a kind heart and I guarantee some fella is gonna come along and treat you the way you deserve.
Good luck to you!

[Asker]

I'm crying reading that 😢 Thank you so much! I'm secretly heartbroken to be honest. I really liked him😕💔

I'm not sure I can trust again 🙁how can I know if I'm being sued or nlt by another guy?

[Asker]

Played**not sued

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry that happened, but remember players are good at playing, the real him isn't very likeable. Don't shed another tear for that asshole, he doesn't deserve it. He's the fool.
I wish I could tell you exactly how to avoid it, but try to learn from what he did and use that as knowledge for the future. If you see the same signs, run.
A genuine guy will take time to warm up to you, I know that much
If he seems like Mr Perfect right away, chances are he's just gotten good at making girls think that.
Other than that, you might have to just push through the weeds to get to the picnic.
Eventually one will come along that isn't a lying piece of shit and actually cares a whole lot about you
Good girls like you attract good guys like that. He'll come, trust me

[Asker]

thank you so much for taking the time to help me. And thank you for being honest and for your genuine advice. I really do appreciate it.

[Opinion Owner]

Absolutely, I hope I helped you out a little. I just wanna add that I used to be one of those guys. Women meant nothing to me. I was angry and egotistical, but all it took for me to become a guy who respects and cares for women is a little growing up 😏
There's still hope, even for that dude

[Asker]

That's very honest if you. I appreciate it

Can I ask you a few questions. Why do you think he targeted me to play? And why twice?

[Opinion Owner]

Because you let him. That's pretty much it. And it's not just you. I bet he's out there right now preying on some poor girl ready to give him her heart. If not now, then soon. He'll do it to anyone he can and you're not a fool for letting it happen, you just probably haven't been through it before and didn't see through his bullshit. The girls that can have already been through it. So you're not alone

[Asker]

Yeah, I'll never let him in my life again. The hardest thing is that I work with him. He's on vacation just now, so it's going to be awkward when he comes back to work. Should I just totally ignore him at work, as though he doesn't exist?

[Opinion Owner]

Ata girl. Funny I did it to girls I worked with too. Ignoring him and being cold will just show him that you care. The ones that remained professional and cordial but denied my advances stung the most. It told me they were done and they didn't give a shit, and that hurt. That's how you get him back

[Asker]

OK. I'll do that when he's back. Thank you so much again for all of your help. It's stopped me crying all night again.

[Opinion Owner]

Good! Don't cry no more lol. And you're so welcome. It feels good to help a girl who's going through the same shit I made other girls a victim to. It's all about ego and control. Take away that and he has nothing. I guarantee he thinks he's just such a cool guy you'll keep coming back. Prove him wrong girl! 😉

[Asker]

Thank you. Can I just ask, is it best to act my usual friendly self around him in work, or be superficial with him and not really talk to him or look at him?

[Opinion Owner]

Just act exactly how you did before you guys were involved with each other, except without all the flirty stuff. Don't reciprocate flirting. Act like he's just another male coworker, not someone you were or want to be involved with

[Asker]

OK. Thank you :)

[Opinion Owner]

Sure thing!

[spartan55]

Don't dwell on WHY. He is a turd, that's good enough. You will never get the answers you want anyway, so just move on. Instead do some reflection about why you would take him back to begin with and learn from it.

[In_Trance]

Because you let him