I love cuddling in bed. Why don't guys cuddle more?

[lexysax]

I just love sleeping in nude in bed cuddling and just talking about deep conversations. But I haven't met guys with this quality why are they so hard to find?

[DannyUk2017]

I'm sure most men love cuddling in bed, the problem is... Is too much porn out there, and the guys want to "exepriment" more of what they see, than just be more on the "romantic" side... You can't blame this Generation that is here and the ones to come, this is from now on... you can see the younger ones making faces when the "seniors/old ones" kiss and cuddle and make out... but all this "older generation" knows what "deep in to it is", not just...(pull the panties off, put it in, and dress back up)... so yeah! Depends from generation to generation... And the sleep butt naked and feeling the Freedom of your body following its course, its Amazing... The Metabolism works its Magic towards the body and mind...😉

[TonyV]

So you just want to be a cock tease? Why the fuck would I want to lay naked touching a naked girl if we aren't going to fuck?
Why would I want to lay cuddling anyone for an extended period of time? It's just uncomfortable and annoying that I'm like trapped and can't move freely without shoving her off me.

And finally I haven't met any women that have any deep thoughts to talk about, hell I doubt you'll even understand why we dislike being used for cuddles the same way women dislike being used for sex. You'll just think about what you like and think us men are wrong for wanting something different.

[DizzyDesii]

Cuddling feels suffocating to me. I like it very briefly, like 10 mins tops if he’s spooning me. I just get hot quick. But i can go hours if he just sits between my legs. Him lying on me is but mfs start to feel heavy quick

[RandomGuy1030]

Yea i could cuddle my face between some legs. But no cuddling for 5 minutes or more. Like you said its hot

[DizzyDesii]

@RandomGuy1030 lol i didn't say face between my legs

[RandomGuy1030]

can't help that. If i get anywhere near legs my tongues like a magnet

[RandomGuy1030]

Dizzy let me follow you. you're very charming to me

[midnightmoon05]

Guys LOVE cuddling!! Girls as well… unless they have fear of intimacy or don’t love/care about that person.
Go look for that guy who can’t keep his hands off of yiu!! And love you from his heart.

[MrOracle]

Imagine you hadn't eaten in 2 weeks, and someone offered you a chair in the kitchen where you could watch (and smell) food being prepared - but you weren't going to be given any. Would you rather sit in the kitchen, having to see and smell that food when your hunger was so strong, or would it be easier to deal with your hunger if you were in the basement watching a movie or playing a game or something?

Many men enjoy cuddling, but ONLY if they are getting plenty of sex on a regular basis - that would be like sitting in the kitchen when you have a full stomach; you're no longer tempted by the food.

So, if you want to cuddle with your guy, give him plenty of sex, and once his hunger for sex is taken care of, he'll be able to cuddle with you without a problem.

[ElementoP]

Ya post-sex cuddling is the best
Just cuddling in general is ok, but only until I get uncomfortable

[Xoxocutekitty]

I agree with the general sentiment of the analogy. I don't however think it's like 'not eating at all', because let's face it men don't need sex to survive biologically (the same way no one biologically needs caffiene to survive). And plus, regardless if men are getting sex or not, they will still wank off regularly, thus feeding themselves in that way.

So to your kitchen food analogy, I would still say it's like someone cooking a delicious 3 course meal when you've been living off basics for a couple weeks (cereal, pbj sandwiches, rice, beans). Obviously you still want sex more, but let's face it, physical touch in general (hugs, pats on the back, holding your hand, cuddling, forehead kisses) are the real staples in life that feed you emotionally.

So guys, it's really not worth getting yourself into a he said/she said situation just because you think you're 'starving.' You're hungry yes, but you aren't gonna die and your partners consent is 100% more important.

[MrOracle]

I'm not telling you to give these guys sex - you are moving the goal posts here. I'm saying that if you aren't planning to give them sex, and you know damn well that they want it from you, then don't hold any illusion that you are "friends", and you should either back way off or cut off the relationship entirely.

[Anonymous]

Because it doesn’t have that same outcome on us as far as emotions. If a man wants to cuddle it’s usually because there’s an ulterior motive, usually sex. Things like that as far as candles, hand made cards, etc, don’t work on men the way they do most women. There may be an exception as far as some men. Don’t try to make men like women. We’re different in many ways. The sooner yo Lu understand that the easier it’ll be to understand men are simple. As for those dudes who say oh I love to cuddle, your man doesn’t deserve you. If you were my girl we’d cuddle all the time, they’re just telling you that in hopes that you’ll DM them. Maybe a few nudes here and there. If we as men came out and said what we really want, most women would cancel us. So you play the game as far as what do I need to do to get w her. After a while all that romantic stuff he used to do goes away cause he’s got you now.

[TheMajesticKing777]

I guess it depends who the person is, I think for a guy to cuddle during hookups it will have to be before sex, if a guy cuddles after sex then he most likely has to have some sort of emotional attachment towards you cause if sex is what they seek, when they get it, they have accomplished their goal and won't waste time to cuddle, I hope you get what I'm saying

[Bluemax]

I like cuddling at least as much as sex. I find it to be one of the highest expressions of affection. If I *really* like a woman, I fantasize about cuddling her, not having sex with her.

However, it isn't always practical due to comfort levels. I have arthritis, and it can start to hurt after a while. I also get too hot sometimes.

If I could, I would cuddle with a woman all night! 🙂

[dynamicyandere]

Cuddling + Deep Convos = 👌


I’m really into depth and connection and affection and intimacy though.


Some guys care for that. Some guys don’t.


It’s not every guy’s cup of tea, so you just need to find guys that DO like that.


I suppose it’s hard to find guys that are both confident and strong yet at the same time in touch with their emotions. It’s easy to find guys that just swing one way or the other.

[IMuser]

Erections... Plus cuddling is a passive activity. When you are energetic, you would like to use the energy (for example having sex). When you don't have energy, you might cuddle but instantly fall asleep.

The best time to cuddle would probably while he is drinking alcohol. It does not make you horny but does not make fall asleep instantly (for example beer)

[ohsheeT]

I like anything to do with cuddling I like anything to do with touching but that's why I lose all discipline because the moment I press my body up against hers or the moment I smell her hair I want to kiss her neck and just one thing leads to another to another and you don't like to always be that person but it's like for me I can't help it LOL I do like cuddling I like everything about a relationship really

[slatyb]

Young men are horny and impatient. They might be more willing after sex. Or maybe they just aren't into deep conversation. What sort of deep conversation? There are some who will, you just haven't met them. Maybe you need to expand your dating circle.

[hahahmm]

Cause guys know females don't really care about 99% of the stuff they say they care about. It's endless mind games & you trying to translate all of your random feelings into words that you randomly pick. We're better off focusing on what we want in life. If you want to get on that train, great. If not, sit down and wait for the next train.

[Emilyis]

I dated my now husband in the 9th grade then he moved away and we hooked up again our second year of college and married the last year of college. We both were virgins on our wedding night. We have been married almost 9 years and we still cuddle and spoon all the time in bed.

[macjets007]

Seems like most dudes are douche bags. I want to cuddle all the time, and if I don't I would go out of my may for my boo so she feels better!!

Plus cuddling leads to sex most times anyway lol Guys try to be intentionally standoffish as it a silly game my male counterparts play unfortunately lol

[ethanallen]

I am bisexual. I love to cuddle after sex. I enjoy the talk and closeness. Women love this. Men unfortunately are all about orgasms and leaving. It's really disappointing. This is why I only have sex with men but not a relationship.

[KolonKby]

As a guy who loves nude cuddles, I am realllly warm. If it isn't cold, I need to have a little space to be able to sleep decently.

However if it's just like during the day, hell yeah let's cuddle and watch a movie

[lightbulb27]

We do… no idea.
We need a shopping store called “guys r us” with properly labeled guys with reviews so easier for women to pick guys. Much better than the random guessing and suffering game we have now.

[AviatorTom]

My experience is that most women don't want to be touched while they are sleeping, and I'm guessing moist guys know that. So, if you want him to cuddle, cuddle him and tell him how good that makes you feel.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

You will find them. Just need to look with more attention.

I also like the same, but also need to find such girls.

[Faith18letsgo]

Honestly I have no idea it really confuses me too. Maybe it just feels too intimate and personal. Or maybe parents don’t cuddle with their sons as much so they don’t grow as accustomed to it as girls.

[anon1903]

I like to cuddle too. But it gets sweaty. Especially if you want to do it in nude. Nothing wrong with that, just makes me very self conscious.

I usually cuddle people tightly for a whole minute and let go.

[Kreneman]

Most of the time, us men are not the cuddling type because usually is Pride, we're rough, tuff, and we don't want to show the woman are soft side but not all men are like that because finding the One is key.

[normalice]

Guys generally only like to cuddle when we are tired. Any energy otherwise wants to be used and lying next to a naked woman males it pretty obvious what that energy should be used for.