I love cuddling in bed. Why don't guys cuddle more?

Question

I just love sleeping in nude in bed cuddling and just talking about deep conversations. But I haven't met guys with this quality why are they so hard to find?

DannyUk2017 · Accepted Answer

I'm sure most men love cuddling in bed, the problem is... Is too much porn out there, and the guys want to "exepriment" more of what they see, than just be more on the "romantic" side... You can't blame this Generation that is here and the ones to come, this is from now on... you can see the younger ones making faces when the "seniors/old ones" kiss and cuddle and make out... but all this "older generation" knows what "deep in to it is", not just...(pull the panties off, put it in, and dress back up)... so yeah! Depends from generation to generation... And the sleep butt naked and feeling the Freedom of your body following its course, its Amazing... The Metabolism works its Magic towards the body and mind...😉

TonyV · Accepted Answer

So you just want to be a cock tease? Why the fuck would I want to lay naked touching a naked girl if we aren't going to fuck?
Why would I want to lay cuddling anyone for an extended period of time? It's just uncomfortable and annoying that I'm like trapped and can't move freely without shoving her off me.

And finally I haven't met any women that have any deep thoughts to talk about, hell I doubt you'll even understand why we dislike being used for cuddles the same way women dislike being used for sex. You'll just think about what you like and think us men are wrong for wanting something different.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Cuddling feels suffocating to me. I like it very briefly, like 10 mins tops if he’s spooning me. I just get hot quick. But i can go hours if he just sits between my legs. Him lying on me is but mfs start to feel heavy quick

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

Guys LOVE cuddling!! Girls as well… unless they have fear of intimacy or don’t love/care about that person.
Go look for that guy who can’t keep his hands off of yiu!! And love you from his heart.

MrOracle · Answer

Imagine you hadn't eaten in 2 weeks, and someone offered you a chair in the kitchen where you could watch (and smell) food being prepared - but you weren't going to be given any. Would you rather sit in the kitchen, having to see and smell that food when your hunger was so strong, or would it be easier to deal with your hunger if you were in the basement watching a movie or playing a game or something?

Many men enjoy cuddling, but ONLY if they are getting plenty of sex on a regular basis - that would be like sitting in the kitchen when you have a full stomach; you're no longer tempted by the food.

So, if you want to cuddle with your guy, give him plenty of sex, and once his hunger for sex is taken care of, he'll be able to cuddle with you without a problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Because it doesn’t have that same outcome on us as far as emotions. If a man wants to cuddle it’s usually because there’s an ulterior motive, usually sex. Things like that as far as candles, hand made cards, etc, don’t work on men the way they do most women. There may be an exception as far as some men. Don’t try to make men like women. We’re different in many ways. The sooner yo Lu understand that the easier it’ll be to understand men are simple. As for those dudes who say oh I love to cuddle, your man doesn’t deserve you. If you were my girl we’d cuddle all the time, they’re just telling you that in hopes that you’ll DM them. Maybe a few nudes here and there. If we as men came out and said what we really want, most women would cancel us. So you play the game as far as what do I need to do to get w her. After a while all that romantic stuff he used to do goes away cause he’s got you now.

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

I guess it depends who the person is, I think for a guy to cuddle during hookups it will have to be before sex, if a guy cuddles after sex then he most likely has to have some sort of emotional attachment towards you cause if sex is what they seek, when they get it, they have accomplished their goal and won't waste time to cuddle, I hope you get what I'm saying

Bluemax · Answer

I like cuddling at least as much as sex. I find it to be one of the highest expressions of affection. If I *really* like a woman, I fantasize about cuddling her, not having sex with her.

However, it isn't always practical due to comfort levels. I have arthritis, and it can start to hurt after a while. I also get too hot sometimes.

If I could, I would cuddle with a woman all night! 🙂

dynamicyandere · Answer

Cuddling + Deep Convos = 👌

I’m really into depth and connection and affection and intimacy though.

Some guys care for that. Some guys don’t.

It’s not every guy’s cup of tea, so you just need to find guys that DO like that.

I suppose it’s hard to find guys that are both confident and strong yet at the same time in touch with their emotions. It’s easy to find guys that just swing one way or the other.

IMuser · Answer

Erections... Plus cuddling is a passive activity. When you are energetic, you would like to use the energy (for example having sex). When you don't have energy, you might cuddle but instantly fall asleep.

The best time to cuddle would probably while he is drinking alcohol. It does not make you horny but does not make fall asleep instantly (for example beer)

ohsheeT · Answer

I like anything to do with cuddling I like anything to do with touching but that's why I lose all discipline because the moment I press my body up against hers or the moment I smell her hair I want to kiss her neck and just one thing leads to another to another and you don't like to always be that person but it's like for me I can't help it LOL I do like cuddling I like everything about a relationship really

hahahmm · Answer

Cause guys know females don't really care about 99% of the stuff they say they care about. It's endless mind games & you trying to translate all of your random feelings into words that you randomly pick. We're better off focusing on what we want in life. If you want to get on that train, great. If not, sit down and wait for the next train.

Emilyis · Answer

I dated my now husband in the 9th grade then he moved away and we hooked up again our second year of college and married the last year of college. We both were virgins on our wedding night. We have been married almost 9 years and we still cuddle and spoon all the time in bed.

slatyb · Answer

Young men are horny and impatient. They might be more willing after sex. Or maybe they just aren't into deep conversation. What sort of deep conversation? There are some who will, you just haven't met them. Maybe you need to expand your dating circle.

macjets007 · Answer

Seems like most dudes are douche bags. I want to cuddle all the time, and if I don't I would go out of my may for my boo so she feels better!!

Plus cuddling leads to sex most times anyway lol Guys try to be intentionally standoffish as it a silly game my male counterparts play unfortunately lol

ethanallen · Answer

I am bisexual. I love to cuddle after sex. I enjoy the talk and closeness. Women love this. Men unfortunately are all about orgasms and leaving. It's really disappointing. This is why I only have sex with men but not a relationship.

KolonKby · Answer

As a guy who loves nude cuddles, I am realllly warm. If it isn't cold, I need to have a little space to be able to sleep decently.

However if it's just like during the day, hell yeah let's cuddle and watch a movie

lightbulb27 · Answer

We do… no idea.
We need a shopping store called “guys r us” with properly labeled guys with reviews so easier for women to pick guys. Much better than the random guessing and suffering game we have now.

AviatorTom · Answer

My experience is that most women don't want to be touched while they are sleeping, and I'm guessing moist guys know that. So, if you want him to cuddle, cuddle him and tell him how good that makes you feel.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

You will find them. Just need to look with more attention. I also like the same, but also need to find such girls.

Faith18letsgo · Answer

Honestly I have no idea it really confuses me too. Maybe it just feels too intimate and personal. Or maybe parents don’t cuddle with their sons as much so they don’t grow as accustomed to it as girls.

fonduegirl · Answer

I like to cuddle too. But it gets sweaty. Especially if you want to do it in nude. Nothing wrong with that, just makes me very self conscious.

I usually cuddle people tightly for a whole minute and let go.

Kreneman · Answer

Most of the time, us men are not the cuddling type because usually is Pride, we're rough, tuff, and we don't want to show the woman are soft side but not all men are like that because finding the One is key.

normalice · Answer

Guys generally only like to cuddle when we are tired. Any energy otherwise wants to be used and lying next to a naked woman males it pretty obvious what that energy should be used for.

Apple1996 · Answer

Every guy I've ever talked to loves cuddling

20yearsolder · Answer

I don't mind it for a little while, then it gets hot and uncomfortable. I'm not a big fan of it

freewife · Answer

I do love a long cuddle and more., especially if no children, or whatever is distracting. Turn the phones off as a starting point! And, be open to things progressing the longer the cuddle, let nature lead you.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

You’re sleeping with the wrong guys! Cuddling, skin to skin, is amazing. I never want to let go.

HSalenko · Answer

Could be your dating pool. Personally I love cuddling after sex, it keeps the good feelings going.

RealMarek · Answer

Plenty of guys like cuddling. If you cuddle with a guy naked in bed he’ll probably get turned on and want to have sex. But after that many men would enjoy cuddling.

Texasgal95 · Answer

Call me and my boyfriend love cuddling together and just talking and looking at each other in the eyes I’m just seeing where that

PeteBy · Answer

Cuddle all the time. Clothed or naked. Watch movies together and all cuddled up. Sleep cuddled together. Well. When the weather is cooler.

VanguardTitan · Answer

I'm totally fine with cuddling until it's time to sleep. I can't fall asleep when I'm being touched or touching someone. So once i fall asleep, I'll probably scoot away or turn over. But I'd be holding her till then

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Because the guy is the pillow. Do you know how many times I've lost feeling in my arm. Cuddling is fine for short period of times but if you had someone elses body weight on you for a couple of hours you'd have a different persoective.

RavVid · Answer

I like spooning and going to sleep cupping a breast. Men tend to fall asleep after sex because of the hormones released by ejaculation.

XXblack88 · Answer

I'm not 100% sure but I think guys get hot easier then us girls.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Cuddling is the best thing. Nothing tops it.

worldscolide · Answer

My friend I'm a space heater. I love to cuddle, but if I cuddle I tend to overheat badly. So it's good for short spirts, not like over night lol. At least that's how it is for the wife and I.

HoneyWhit95 · Answer

@lexysax I love Cuddling a lot too also love making out and sloppy kissing :) and I wish I knew the answer about guys I prefer girls anyway :)

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

I love naked cuddles and deep talks in bed. I also love sex. The two aren't mutually exclusive, you just need a guy who likes both.

Fireguy17 · Answer

With one ex she liked to cuddle in the am so we would set the alarm 15 min early so we could. Sometimes she would end up late to work.

BlueScorpio · Answer

I don't know I love cuddling with my husband 😍

JustADudePlayinADude · Answer

I love doing that after sex, but it is hard to get sex off the brain in that position if I haven't had it yet lol.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yeah, some guys make bad cuddlers. I don't know why.

NathanDavis · Answer

well, I do... in bed, the couch, in the car... my office's chair and other places as well

JosyJosy · Answer

If you want to cuddle with a guy Nude, I suggest getting busy first and cuddle after.

Crafteroon · Answer

Since everyone is saying guys like cuddling, why do you think the guys you are into don't like it?

Danny_dan92 · Answer

It’s nice I don't know what dudes you’ve come across. Although when sleeping it’s better to have room

soe11 · Answer

We do every Night nude cuddling and some occasions with Her best friend joined too, after having threesome.

AngelOfLight258 · Answer

Because the calming affect that human touch has isn't as strong for men as it is women (i. e. it doesn't feel as good for them).

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Lol. What makes you think this would actually work? I don't think you understand male biology.

Beardedman1996 · Answer

We do, it’s just hard… no seriously you get us hard and sometimes we don’t want sex so our brain goes straight into the I can’t cuddle I’m doing my thang mode lol

Hardworkingguy · Answer

Really? Other men don't enjoy that? To it's the best to be lucky enough to have a woman I like I'm bed cuddling for a long time. Specially after a long good session of intimacy

MrPickles13 · Answer

Honestly that's the sort of thing that I would love to do cuddle up and talk about everything and nothing you know. But the only but I wouldn't do is the naked bit.

Anonymous · Answer

because you're young. i know that doesn't seem valid but... immaturity is the answer

TheeMalevolent · Answer

I work a labor job I am constantly swore and searching for a position I find comfortable and not hot. So cuddles tend to force me into a position of discomfort and the body heat when I simply want to go to sleep

CoolGuy7532 · Answer

I have no idea. I'm a nudist. I sleep nude and would love to cuddle.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I wish I could find a girl who loves to cuddle

FilmGuy93 · Answer

cuddling is a bonding thing. Men who don't want to cuddle don't want to bond with you.

linka_pat307 · Answer

Different like and expectations from different guys you meet so...

Keepitreal007 · Answer

I would assume most guys don’t want deep conversation. Are you having sex first or is he super horny and your leaving him hanging?

BarryLiverstone · Answer

It’s one of my fav things. And maybe guys just wanna have sex. But cuddling isn’t about sex it’s about intimacy and connection.

Anonymous · Answer

Because the guys you want don't need to. You don't cuddle with someone you don't have a intimate connection with.

JPresidente · Answer

They're out there. Maybe they get too hot in bed to cuddle.

I love cuddling in bed. Why don't guys cuddle more?

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