I feel bad, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy on Bumble and we talked almost every night for about a week. He asked if he could come see me on a Friday night and I said I couldn't because I had just come down with a bad cold and I didn't want to get him sick. After that he stopped messaging me and refused to respond to my messages. He would view my story's on Snapchat, open my messages and then not respond. I deleted him from Snapchat, I told him that it was rude of him to ignore my messages. The next Friday he sent me a message at 7:30am and then at 11:30pm and told me he was sorry as he was doing things and wanted to know what I was up to. I didn't see his message until the next morning. The next morning I responded 'Sorry I was sleeping, all good thanks for apologising.' He read my message an hour later and didn't respond. Anyway later on that night I asked him if he wanted to come over and he refused to read my message but was online. I sent him another message about 2 hrs later and he again ignored me. Then the next day I tagged him on Snapchat and said 'I don't know why you added me just to ignore me anyway.' He responded right away and was rude and said 'why would you tag me in your story haha' I said 'because it's the only way I'm going to get a response.' He said 'kind of immature but rightio' I said 'immature is when you ignore messages' He said 'sorry for not responding to your 3 messages a day.' I said 'Wow! Ouch! No worries, I won't message you anymore.' He reported my post and then blocked me. The next week I felt bad and sent him a message on Instagram as he has sent me messages from there before. I asked him if he wanted to come over and he never read or responded. I'm happy he didn't block me from there either. Did I seriously stuff this one up? I really liked him, I was only looking for friends with benefits not a relationship. I want to say sorry but I know he will probably not even read my message. What do I do?

[EmbraceThePain]

Oh, "friends with benefits." Not going to lie, that made feel more grossed out by you. Also, why are you on Bumble for that? If you want to be that type of woman, go somewhere else. Bumble is supposed to be different from Tinder, but I suppose some will not use it as such.

As for the main point of the question, you seem to be all over the place. By saying you're sick and what not, it seems like you are making an excuse not to see him. To be 100% honest, if I asked to see a woman and see told me she was sick I would think she doesn't really like me so I would near instantly move on.

Also, you seem to be going back and forth, blocking and unblocking, sending a bunch of messages a day, etc.

It can be a headache, stressful, and confusing dealing with someone like you.

[Asker]

I unfriended him once and he re-added me then a week later blocked me... Unfortunately I was sick with a bad cold and I clearly stated that.

[EmbraceThePain]

Okay

[spartan55]

I thought you girls were scared to death of looking desperate?

[Asker]

You either don't message them and they assume you're not interested, if you got plans and keep saying no they assume your not interested, but when we text and show them we are then we're desperate? Hahaha wow! Society is ridiculous. Guys want to be wanted but you have to avoid them to make them feel that way... Oh and don't text or call them because it seems desperate... 🤔

[LovelyPhx]

Truthfully, leave him alone. He's ignoring you for a reason. As bad as you wanna talk and reach out he obviously isn't interested rn so he's being immature and ignoring you instead of being a decent person ans saying he's not interested or whatever. Also messaging him multiple times , tagging and using different platforms is low-key weird. Don't make yourself look desperate

[Anonymous]

get a new guy. he's done with your drama