What do I do if I realized that every man is an individual and each will see me in a different light and I can't control how they see me?

[Uo7rhnhh]

I dress modest but guys have tried to get sexual with me (i dont even have premarital sex) and i thought i must be sending out whore vibes by accident. But recently i met a male coworker and he was so amazing it felt like a friendship nothing inappropriate. Never thought i would experience this with a man. The funny part is i saw that he treated another female coworker like a whore just how i usually get treated by men... So it showed me how a man treats you is a case by case basis and its based on how he as an individual sees you as an individual. Its not about how he views all women or etc or any generalization.

[Chazmatazz269]

Fairly enlightened observation, but there are some flaws. What most people fail to realize is the extent to which they conform to norms and stereotypes. The more you behave like a “typical woman” or a “typical man”, the more justification one has for treating you that way without knowing more about you. In addition to that, most people see themselves as fairly unique. So we’re practically wearing blinders regarding how typical we really are. This is an unfortunate convergence of out-of-phase information. For the sake of our egos and comfort, what most people do is ignore the inconvenient truth rather than examine our own understanding of self and others. You’re halfway to a meaningful epiphany already. If you finish that personal journey you’ll be wiser, and possibly more than a little jaded. Be careful of what you wish.

[Guy13]

Live a bondage free life, without Guilt or Shame, recognizing individual differences and perceptions reign. Without faulting those that do not vibe well with you or condemning man for being his/her fallen Self. It’s not about physical beauty and sexuality alone as there is whole person complex and momentarily different. Open a website and train…good for you. Thanks for question and your depth ‼️‼️

[VIVANT]

In this case he was still an asshole just not to you in that moment. I SO think people are different but I wonder why you chose this particular situation to demonstrate that as it sounds more like realizing “there’s no good way to tell what kind of person someone is just bc of how they seem to be when you meet”

He was still treating that other woman horribly, the way other men rested you. That does not sound like he is different than how other men are. In this case.

[VIVANT]

I always look at for how people treat others to help asses what kind of person they are. They Amy be kinder to me atm bc they have some incentive but the way they treat people in general will show me their charcuterie not just their “good behavior” when the shine wear off and they are no longer infatuated they will act the way they act with everyone else. Plus I just don’t like to reward people with attention when they are disrespectful to others. This is in friendships as well as relationships in my opinion.

[Philyouup]

I am concerned that she worried about giving off “whore” vibes. like it was her fault. when any dude is aggressive , he’s the asshole, she is not a whore

[VIVANT]

@Philyouup

I DO think she may have been worried about that that’s why I wondered why she worded it kind of opposite.

[Anonymous]

Yes, every man can be different... if you're lucky.

[Lliam]

You discovered the truth. No two people are the same.
Out of almost 8 billion people on the planet, of which 50.4% are men and 49.6% are women, it doesn't make sense to stereotype people based on gender.

Not everyone is an ass hole. There are some really good people out there.

[Philyouup]

You don’t sent out whore vibes. that is ridiculous, seriously. Men will try to have sex with you even if you dressed horrible. or modest or like a “ whore”. These men just don’t respect women. there are no sluts.

[Anonymous]

No you're not sending out whore vibes. You have to understand that most women today are whoreish. So it's just learned behaviour. It works on most women. So these men probably figure you're the same. Try not to take it personal.

[Iron_Man]

Ok chill out then

[Uo7rhnhh]

I am now...

[Iron_Man]

Good