I know he is healing but is he thinking about how I feel when he goes outside or when he constantly brings this bitch up?

[bbhhgirl]

We are always having a good day and somehow he always brings up his ex wife and how he makes her so upset or a friend calls and he goes outside to talk about this dumb bitch and it just ruins my whole mood for the rest of the day.

[GallopAcrossEurope]

He brings it up because he feels comfortable around you to talk about it. The friendly environment that is created between the two of you encourages him to vent about his problems and to get them off his chest which is a huge step towards moving on. I am aware it might feel uncomfortable for people who are not used to this, but it's kinda important for him.

I am unsure of whether you should tell him to stop talking about her, as it will definitely make him upset and will make him take a step back from your friendly relationship (because then he will be venting in his mind more and will be less focused), or whether you should just take it and let him completely get over it.

[bbhhgirl]

Okay but as his girlfriend do you think I want to hear that?

[GallopAcrossEurope]

I don't know, do you expect emotional honesty out of your partner? Or would you prefer them to lie, to say everything is alright when it isn't? Because the way you want it, you will ask them "is everything ok?" And he will respond "Yes" even when he was fired from his job. You are asking him to practice lying to your face- no wonder there are other women complaining about "the good guys being gone". Because that's really what can destroy relationships beyond repair. He doesn't see you as just another girlfriend or some friends with benefits, he sees you as someone he can actually talk and relate to. If you really don't care, you tell him to shut up about his problems and complaints, he probably expects honesty out of you too. But when you say it, don't tell him to simply "shut up about your problems" or anything like that.

[Guy13]

He’s immature and does not know how to manage his life. One for you ⁉️

[bbhhgirl]

What do you mean “ one for you “?