Is it normal that he threatened me with a spanking?

[Anonymous]

Long short story.. I met this guy 6 years ago but I never paid attention to him, even tho he was cute. Now he is wow. Handsome. Anyway we are in talking stage (over the phone) and a few times I joked around and made fun of him. That's when he starts with these silly threats like: oh better watch it, I could put you around my knee and spank you silly.. I will spank your ass till it's red.. bla bla. Isn't too early for him to reveal these kinks?

[TonyV]

You friendzoned him for 6 years till now cause now he looks good enough to please your shallow standards, If he's like me he dosent respect you much anymore. Any girl that friendzoned me for 6 years and only wants me after I've got in shape is just a booty call to me.
If I wasn't good enough for you back then, then you dont deserve me now.

[Asker]

It wasn't about the looks. We were in different stages in our life. We never thought about a relationship. Back then.. we just didn't click. 🤌🏻

[slatyb]

I think that's unreasonable. Some people who aren't ready for a relationship for whatever reason get their life in order. Example: a slacker hanging around after graduating college, working minimum wage jobs with no plan - not attractive. Now imagine that person five years later with a law degree and a couple of years experience.

[TonyV]

@slatyb im not sure if you're agreeing or disagreeing right now, but even with your example, they didn't want grind it out with you, didn't have faith in you and now back cause you turned out sucessful.

if you can't grow with me dont expect me to respect you after I've grown

[slatyb]

I'm disagreeing. People change. We can only see the now. Future change is unpredictable.

[slatyb]

No, it's not too early. It's much much better to get this on the table now rather than six months into an exclusive relationship. He's testing the waters. If you aren't into that sort of thing, then tell him "I wasn't sure if you were joking or are really into spanking, but I'm not into that sort of thing. If it's important to you, you'll need to find someone else."

[slatyb]

If you do enjoy receiving a spanking, I expect you'll know what to say.

[jennyjenjen98]

He probably does want to see how you react to the mention of the topic. It likely is a fetish for him.

[JPresidente]

It might be a bit forward but I wouldn't read too much into it at this point.

[nawtee_me]

well even if it is, nothing to do now but decide if you want to play like that? It might at some point become a part of the relationship.

[Stevefiveo]

Yeah, he definitely wants to spank and see if you are in to it too.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think it is too soon and he might have a spanking fetish.