My boyfriend wanted to lightly slap me for not being disciplined and I got angry about it?

[Anonymous]

Slaps on the ass and some on the face during sexual acts is okay on my side. But today after not following through with things he wanted to lightly slap my forehead and i was taken aback. Plus the fact that he wanted to basically hit my face made me feel uneasy. If it were spanks i might not even be angry about. I come from a home with domestic violence so this situation made me scared about his intentions. I must say he apologized for it and he said it was a joke. Do you guys think this could develop into abuse? Once he was very angry with me. And he sent me voice messages, about 15 minutes long, where he was screaming and insulting me and worst of all telling me he wanted to punch me, etc... It was a one time incident in years. He said he didn't mean them, it was just the anger screaming.

[sawno]

It was lightly and you set a boundary, that is unfortunate mistake territory so you will have to give him some time to show what he is going to do in the long run. If he does it again then yeah leave since it can develop into abuse. If it was a one time mistake he learnt from I wouldn't take it as heavy.

[iFarted]

That can be quite scary, you need to set clear boundaries with him. I take it that its the first time he did this to you. As far as him developing his behavior into physical domestic abuse... it may or may not happen. I have a coworker with anger issues, he punches almost everything, screams at his wife when he loses his shit, but he's never put hands on his wife.

[Jmmmfi4]

IF I WAS A CHICK I WOULDN'T TOLERATE ANY OF THAT

[slatyb]

Dump. this guy. None of this is ok.

[girlzruleboyzdrool]

Get out of that relationship asap