Why are some people so close minded?

Question

I met a guy who used his personal experience as evidence against mine experience and tried to put me in the minority when I said teen girls like older men. He got defensive when I disagreed with him.

DJB72 · Accepted Answer

First, define "older". If you mean around ten years the statistics bear you out. If you mean teenagers wanting guys my age (50) then studies suggest it's a minority and the guys who want to be with girls 30 years younger than them have deep psychological problems - not necessarily perverted, but definitely problems!

Second, it's not so much being closed minded as concerned I guess. I follow a lot of accounts on here that have asked questions that piqued my interest - irrespective of age. It doesn't mean outside of the site I'd look for a hook-up with a girl of 20. Now yes, that's me. There's doubtless guys on the site who'd jump at the chance to hook up with a girl that young. You'd probably just not want to meet them in real life.

TroyDT2 · Accepted Answer

Personal experiences are only proof of what each person has experienced, so should not be used to "prove" anything beyond that.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Possibly brainwashing!

About 15 years ago there was a page on FB about memories of growing up in my town and someone mentioned a rash of fires we had at one point on Emerson Ave. and it was suspected that one of the local firemen actually set the fires!! I mentioned that that was quite common because, statistically and psychologically speaking, one of the biggest reasons people JOIN the FD is BECAUSE they like fires!! Nearly everyone in the "room" got pissed at me for saying that and, even after I looked up statistics and SHOWED them how INCREDIBLY common it is for that to happen, they all got really pissed at me and kicked me out of the room!! In the meantime, dad was pretty much the tow historian by that point because he'd been living there since about 1933 so, they lost out on all the info I have of the town!!

There was another such "room" all about my band. I'm the longest standing member OF the band and was in it for 25 years so, I KNOW what the fuck I'm ta;king about!! I don't remember the discussion anymore but, I mentioned something about the band or someone that had been in it and what they did and everyone got pissed at me for just telling the truth and kicked ME off the page of what was practically my own band!! My singer died a few years before this (it WAS his band) but, as I've said, aside from him, I'm the longest standing member! The longest anybody else has ever been in the band is 10 or 12 years!! I'm practically the band historian!! I've got more early recordings than anybody else and, up until 2 years ago, had more memorabilia than anyone else so, again, they lose!!

ohsheeT · Answer

That's the whole thing about life is there are people who are willing to learn and try to understand and experience and then there are people that are disclosed off it's their way or no way and that's really just stupid I think that it is what it is and sometimes you can't change anybody's mind and why would you want to anyway they are who they want to be me personally I like to listen and learn because no matter what the way you see things is interesting to me and I want to understand it I want to learn from it and experience it because you just might be right when people are closed off and only have one way it's a very boring life I think because the answer that I just gave you right now it doesn't mean that I'm right it doesn't mean that I'm wrong it means at this moment this is what I feel because of my experiences

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I’d tend to agree with him. Outside of anecdotal evidence, do you have evidence to support your claim? It’s mostly young women and teens who use the terms “creep” and “creeper” to describe older men, even when they’re not actually being creepy. Ell oh ell! I wouldn’t expect women to begin to appreciate men’s resources so much until their own resources become an issue. By and large, the greatest benefit of dating older men is that they’ve had more time to acquire resources.

Summeroflove · Answer

I really have no idea. Relationships and what people want and who people want depends on the individual. Not every woman is the same and not every man is the same.

I don't know the answer as to way some people are so closed minded. Many people just think the way they think is the way everyone else thinks when this is just simply not the case at all.

SnowedIn · Answer

Why are they so close minded? Probably because they don't want to open their mind to new or different ideas. Or they believe that their ideas are the only right ones. And they don't have the respect for other people's ideas even if they disagree with their own.

TheVigilantOne · Answer

I think mainly it’s due to being brainwashed and stubborn or just stupid, I’m quite open minded and will debate you on anything (providing I have knowledge on the subject) but I think most people just don’t want to hear your side of the argument as they always want to be right. Some people I know are like that they don’t want to hear it. It’s annoying but there’s not much you can do

glennos89 · Answer

Maybe he felt vulrenable, attacked or exposed🤷🏼‍♂️

That could be the reason why he got so defensive and close minded.

It can also be the fact that his brains have the same tiny size as his tiny dick 😂 They try to minor anything so they don't have to worry about their minority downstairs🤣🤣

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

People like to stick to what makes sense to them, and some people like to ignore anything that contradicts that because they are insecure, and so they think being wrong about something makes them a loser.

In reality, there are lots of people (male or female) that like older, younger, or same age people. It's going to vary per region, but I don't think that in most places. any one of those is more common than the others. I've run into all 3 types quite frequently.

slatyb · Answer

This seems to be more common in men. For some reason they believe they are in a competition with others about everything. In the long run, they are big losers because they won't listen to anyone and hence never learn anything.

finding_yourself · Answer

those people are narrow minded. they don't listen to other people ideas and opinions. their way of thinking I do thing my way only and live life my way.

when you listen to other people ideas and opinions, it can give you a point of view can be life change.

wittymilf · Answer

Yeah this is a good question. Some people are just to insecure to listen to other people’s ideas in the fear that they might change their mind and that would be weakness. Plus there’s a lot of really retarded guys on gag

Surely · Answer

As said in another answer. Some people think that their opinions are the only ones needed. So everyone else don’t need to have one!
You can not have a debate with these people. So there is no reason to even try.

Avatar74 · Answer

Some teenage girls probably like older men because they feel more secure than with someone their own age

. I agree with others view though that both men and women vary in their tastes some like younger, some stick to people their own age and some are happier with someone older

Deserter · Answer

He probably thinks you're peddling pedophilia so he's lashing out

BLP11520 · Answer

People do not accept social change, my generation is radically different than this one. I learn from friends who are near or under 30. I learn here and other places I am very open concerning different races but as a kid people were hateful. Age gap relationships are a thing that many can't handle.10,20 even 30 plus years difference watch you tube for examples.

SomeJokeTeeth · Answer

In fairness, teens are minors and them liking older men is weird based entirely on that premise alone

Havthrills · Answer

Cause they suck. Lol. They're stuck in their way and won't accept anything else

msc545 · Answer

Many people, particularly men, feel that changing their minds is somehow a sign of weakness, and nothing you say or do will convince them.

flashrex · Answer

Woah wtf? I wouldn't even lump him into the category of "people" more like "weirdos" if you know what I mean.

BJP21 · Answer

Thats because he's immature, and trying to talk down to you. I wouldn't mind a teen wanting me as long as they were of age, and mature enough to understand the gap in maturity level.

Jerre · Answer

Sure seems like it. Some people just disagree with everyone’s opinion.

genericname85 · Answer

so he disagreed that younger girls like older men?

dragoblack · Answer

Many people are insecure and project it.. people also are so used to society's convenience living that they want to live in an echo chamber of their own thought process.

moosesixty · Answer

You can't get angry about an opinion it's an OPINION FROR A REASON I'm mad at you because you don't like onions

Zolly99999 · Answer

Everyone has their opinion I guess. Im going to guess it could be where you from too.. its hard to say.

MiseriaCantareAFI · Answer

Any girl, likes older men ITS CLICHE, AND BORING

Anonymous · Answer

Because most of you Girls are close minded and ignore at least 60 to 70 percent of Men, That's why.

Chthou95 · Answer

Id argue that most people are close minded. People dont like to hear other perspectives

panamared1 · Answer

Some narrow minded people think life should only be as they see it

RusselDm · Answer

I support it. Obviously teen girls like older man, Rather Older guys like teen girls.

CubaPirate · Answer

Bigotry at a guess

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

They probably insecure

Jennz6 · Answer

I met a guy like that on this site

Hardworkingguy · Answer

It depends on many factors

Stevefiveo · Answer

Well, some people do not have an open mind.

TheMoralCrusader · Answer

Well that is not even his business.

jamartheg · Answer

Because they are not open minded

Anonymous · Answer

Because they never think outside the box.

OddBeMe · Answer

Fck off

Why are some people so close minded?

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