Why are some people so close minded?

[NatalieIshereO]

I met a guy who used his personal experience as evidence against mine experience and tried to put me in the minority when I said teen girls like older men. He got defensive when I disagreed with him.

[DJB72]

First, define "older". If you mean around ten years the statistics bear you out. If you mean teenagers wanting guys my age (50) then studies suggest it's a minority and the guys who want to be with girls 30 years younger than them have deep psychological problems - not necessarily perverted, but definitely problems!

Second, it's not so much being closed minded as concerned I guess. I follow a lot of accounts on here that have asked questions that piqued my interest - irrespective of age. It doesn't mean outside of the site I'd look for a hook-up with a girl of 20. Now yes, that's me. There's doubtless guys on the site who'd jump at the chance to hook up with a girl that young. You'd probably just not want to meet them in real life.

[NatalieIshereO]

What about teenagers who want women your age, do you think they are in the minority too?

[NatalieIshereO]

I would love to see these statistics because they are not telling the truth in my opinion

[DJB72]

Statistically, yes. Teenage boys generally find women up to 30 most desirable. It evens out as they get older.

Bell curve statistics show there's a minority who will desire older than that - the MILF phenomenon - but it's a fetish rather than a real attraction and born out of psychological pain usually. By mid twenties it's usually past.

[NatalieIshereO]

According to your stars he was bullshitting then

[DJB72]

The studies are easily available online. Medical journals are more reliable than the media.

I work as a counselor and life coach. Reading journals and studies is part of the job.

[DJB72]

And yes, he was bullshitting.

[TroyDT2]

Personal experiences are only proof of what each person has experienced, so should not be used to "prove" anything beyond that.

[NatalieIshereO]

Exactly

[FunkyMonkee]

Possibly brainwashing!

About 15 years ago there was a page on FB about memories of growing up in my town and someone mentioned a rash of fires we had at one point on Emerson Ave. and it was suspected that one of the local firemen actually set the fires!! I mentioned that that was quite common because, statistically and psychologically speaking, one of the biggest reasons people JOIN the FD is BECAUSE they like fires!! Nearly everyone in the "room" got pissed at me for saying that and, even after I looked up statistics and SHOWED them how INCREDIBLY common it is for that to happen, they all got really pissed at me and kicked me out of the room!! In the meantime, dad was pretty much the tow historian by that point because he'd been living there since about 1933 so, they lost out on all the info I have of the town!!

There was another such "room" all about my band. I'm the longest standing member OF the band and was in it for 25 years so, I KNOW what the fuck I'm ta;king about!! I don't remember the discussion anymore but, I mentioned something about the band or someone that had been in it and what they did and everyone got pissed at me for just telling the truth and kicked ME off the page of what was practically my own band!! My singer died a few years before this (it WAS his band) but, as I've said, aside from him, I'm the longest standing member! The longest anybody else has ever been in the band is 10 or 12 years!! I'm practically the band historian!! I've got more early recordings than anybody else and, up until 2 years ago, had more memorabilia than anyone else so, again, they lose!!

[ohsheeT]

That's the whole thing about life is there are people who are willing to learn and try to understand and experience and then there are people that are disclosed off it's their way or no way and that's really just stupid I think that it is what it is and sometimes you can't change anybody's mind and why would you want to anyway they are who they want to be me personally I like to listen and learn because no matter what the way you see things is interesting to me and I want to understand it I want to learn from it and experience it because you just might be right when people are closed off and only have one way it's a very boring life I think because the answer that I just gave you right now it doesn't mean that I'm right it doesn't mean that I'm wrong it means at this moment this is what I feel because of my experiences

[Chazmatazz269]

I’d tend to agree with him. Outside of anecdotal evidence, do you have evidence to support your claim? It’s mostly young women and teens who use the terms “creep” and “creeper” to describe older men, even when they’re not actually being creepy. Ell oh ell! I wouldn’t expect women to begin to appreciate men’s resources so much until their own resources become an issue. By and large, the greatest benefit of dating older men is that they’ve had more time to acquire resources.

[NatalieIshereO]

And where is your and his evidence?

You are both using your personal experience as well which makes you a massive hypocrite

[NatalieIshereO]

Especially considering he thinks young boys like old women, which again, is just an opinion

[Chazmatazz269]

Do you realize how ignorant it is for you to demand evidence while refusing to produce any? Ell oh ell!
It’s not hypocritical on my part at all. I didn’t challenge your assertion at all. I suggested that my experience leads me to agree with him, and i asked if you had evidence to support your claims. I didn’t challenge your statements at all. You COULD have produced evidence to prove you’re better informed than both of us and laughed all the way to the bank. Instead, you made personal attacks and demanded evidence when you can’t produce any of your own. And now EVERYONE knows that you’re wrong, including you. Ell oh ell! You played yourself.

[NatalieIshereO]

By agreeing with him, you are putting me in a minority based on your opinion but you get angry when I do the same?

You clearly are butthurt because you don't want to accept I don't have to be in the minority.

That's pathetic, you made me laugh!

[NatalieIshereO]

Look around what people are saying here and you will know that guy was a total dumbass, you are in the minority who agree with him.

[Summeroflove]

I really have no idea. Relationships and what people want and who people want depends on the individual. Not every woman is the same and not every man is the same.

I don't know the answer as to way some people are so closed minded. Many people just think the way they think is the way everyone else thinks when this is just simply not the case at all.

[SnowedIn]

Why are they so close minded? Probably because they don't want to open their mind to new or different ideas. Or they believe that their ideas are the only right ones. And they don't have the respect for other people's ideas even if they disagree with their own.

[glennos89]

Maybe he felt vulrenable, attacked or exposed🤷🏼‍♂️

That could be the reason why he got so defensive and close minded.

It can also be the fact that his brains have the same tiny size as his tiny dick 😂 They try to minor anything so they don't have to worry about their minority downstairs🤣🤣

[TheVigilantOne]

I think mainly it’s due to being brainwashed and stubborn or just stupid, I’m quite open minded and will debate you on anything (providing I have knowledge on the subject) but I think most people just don’t want to hear your side of the argument as they always want to be right. Some people I know are like that they don’t want to hear it. It’s annoying but there’s not much you can do

[slatyb]

This seems to be more common in men. For some reason they believe they are in a competition with others about everything. In the long run, they are big losers because they won't listen to anyone and hence never learn anything.

[NatalieIshereO]

What would this guy be in competition about?

[slatyb]

He feels small and mansplaining makes him feel more powerful. Probably his parents fault.

[TheSpaceGnome]

People like to stick to what makes sense to them, and some people like to ignore anything that contradicts that because they are insecure, and so they think being wrong about something makes them a loser.

In reality, there are lots of people (male or female) that like older, younger, or same age people. It's going to vary per region, but I don't think that in most places. any one of those is more common than the others. I've run into all 3 types quite frequently.

[finding_yourself]

those people are narrow minded. they don't listen to other people ideas and opinions. their way of thinking I do thing my way only and live life my way.

when you listen to other people ideas and opinions, it can give you a point of view can be life change.

[wittymilf]

Yeah this is a good question. Some people are just to insecure to listen to other people’s ideas in the fear that they might change their mind and that would be weakness. Plus there’s a lot of really retarded guys on gag

[Avatar74]

Some teenage girls probably like older men because they feel more secure than with someone their own age

. I agree with others view though that both men and women vary in their tastes some like younger, some stick to people their own age and some are happier with someone older

[Surely]

As said in another answer. Some people think that their opinions are the only ones needed. So everyone else don’t need to have one!
You can not have a debate with these people. So there is no reason to even try.

[Deserter]

He probably thinks you're peddling pedophilia so he's lashing out

[NatalieIshereO]

But he is peddling pedophile too then because he is saying the same thing with boys

So that makes no sense

[Deserter]

Lmao he dumb

[NatalieIshereO]

That's what I thought

[BLP11520]

People do not accept social change, my generation is radically different than this one. I learn from friends who are near or under 30. I learn here and other places I am very open concerning different races but as a kid people were hateful. Age gap relationships are a thing that many can't handle.10,20 even 30 plus years difference watch you tube for examples.

[SomeJokeTeeth]

In fairness, teens are minors and them liking older men is weird based entirely on that premise alone

[NatalieIshereO]

That has nothing to do with this question

[NatalieIshereO]

Especially since he argued boys like much older women

[NatalieIshereO]

Where's the logic?

[SomeJokeTeeth]

There's no logic, it's all creepy

[NatalieIshereO]

Do you think he was bullshitting then?

[SomeJokeTeeth]

No, he was probably telling the truth

[NatalieIshereO]

He said teen boys like old women but girls do not.

You agree with that?

[SomeJokeTeeth]

No, I think he believes that. It would be stupid to say that some teens of all gender aren't into older men or women, but it's still creepy to think about

[NatalieIshereO]

He said the girls are in the minority but the boys are not.

Do you think he's telling the truth?

[SomeJokeTeeth]

No, he's guessing, he couldn't possibly know that for a fact

[NatalieIshereO]

That's what I am talking about, so he is being bullshiting?

[SomeJokeTeeth]

He's not bullshitting when he says that teen boys are sometimes into older women.

However, he is bullshitting about how he says that teens girls aren't into older men and that he's treating that as fact.

[NatalieIshereO]

I mean he's bullshitting that the girls are in the minority but the boys are not who like much older people

[NatalieIshereO]

That's the whole point of my question

[NatalieIshereO]

He makes it as if most boys are into old women

[Havthrills]

Cause they suck. Lol. They're stuck in their way and won't accept anything else

[msc545]

Many people, particularly men, feel that changing their minds is somehow a sign of weakness, and nothing you say or do will convince them.

[msc545]

This is also about the ability to accept and tolerate the pain of cognitive dissonance and the lack of cognitive rigidity, things that many people simply cannot do.

[flashrex]

Woah wtf? I wouldn't even lump him into the category of "people" more like "weirdos" if you know what I mean.

[BJP21]

Thats because he's immature, and trying to talk down to you. I wouldn't mind a teen wanting me as long as they were of age, and mature enough to understand the gap in maturity level.