What does it mean if a guy tells you to your face he thinks you're cute?

[Anonymous]

What does it mean if a guy tells you to your face he thinks you're cute? We were hanging out and joking around and then he got serious and said "I actually think you look cute." Is he interested?

[20yearsolder]

It usually means he thinks that you're cute. I don't understand why this is hard for you to understand

[Asker]

Just wondering if it's flirting of not. We have a history of flirty banter and he's gone as far as to hold my hand, but not a compliment. He wasn't joking either, it was odd.

[20yearsolder]

I don't know if I would call it flirting. He's just being honest with you, he thinks that you look nice. You're cute

[Asker]

I mean, he's held my before, gives me nicknames, always brings up the day we met, teases me about my height and calls me little, has brought up going out sometime, borrowed me his coat, etc. And now the cute thing.

[20yearsolder]

Seems like a pretty slow process to me, by your profile your age 25 to 29. I'm assuming he's somewhere in the same ballpark as you age wise. If you interested why the fuck wouldn't he just say hey I want to take you out on a date

[Asker]

That's what I wonder. Every time he's made a bigger move I've froze and we end up in awkward silence.

[18Uma21]

He didn't say he is interested.

If you don't think you're cute then he is just joking around. If you think you're cute then it doesn't matter what he says

[FunkyMonkee]

It means, he thinks you're cute!! and, if you like him, he'd probably have no problem going out with you!

[Asker]

We've been friends for awhile and have always had a flirty banter. He's held my hand, teases me about my height and calls me little, gives me nicknames, I always catch him looking at me and if we're talking he'll look at my mouth, brings up the day we met, hugs me all the time, etc.

[FunkyMonkee]

Sounds like he likes you! Bite!

[Asker]

We talked for quite awhile tonight. I told him the reason I freeze up and go mute sometimes is because I question if he means what he says. I explained that it's partly my trust issues. He said that makes sense and that's why I need to stop worrying about what other people think or about what I say cuz otherwise it causes doubt and makes it socially awkward. Then I asked if he's ever said anything drunk to me that he didn't mean to say and he said "nope." So he HAS meant to flirt!

[FunkyMonkee]

There ya go! Maybe it's time you started flirting back!

[boggboss]

That he is most likely intrested

[Asker]

We had another lengthy conversation last night. I admitted that I freeze/go mute due to my own problem with trust. He said that"s why I need to stop worrying about what other people think or about what I say because otherwise it causes doubt and makes it socially awkward. I also asked if he's ever not meant any of the things he tells when he's drunk. To which he put "nope". So he's meant all of it, even the flirting.

[boggboss]

OK so...

[Asker]

I wasn't expecting that answer. It made so many things make sense and calmed so many worries! And I think he was referring to both of us with the doubt and socially awkward thing.

[boggboss]

It seems from what u have said to others also that you iverthinking or worrying is making anything that could happen between u two harder to actually happen

[boggboss]

Ohhhjj your the girl that said u couldn't have anything with him because your siblings are married

[Asker]

I guess I've always just been afraid of it being one-sided. Which made his flirting seem that much more confusing.

[boggboss]

Well he has admitted it so what now

[Asker]

I guess I'm not sure. You really think my overthinking is the biggest setback in this? You think that's what he meant by saying it causes doubt and social awkwardness, that I make him doubt?

[boggboss]

Yes I do

[Asker]

Update: I asked him out and we're currently planning a night out together. 😊

[In_Trance]

Why does it mean anything beyond face value?

[Asker]

I'm curious why he said it. We've always had flirty banter and I guess I'm just wondering if "cute" is friendzoned or not.

[In_Trance]

If you offered more to him, he won't turn you down. You're not friendzoned

[Asker]

And the fact that we had been drinking together when he said it? Like I said, we've been friends for a few years now. He's held my hand, always hugs me tight, tells me I'm so little, buys me drinks, helps me with anything, always brings up the day we met, etc.

[In_Trance]

You're not friends at all. That's a smoke. he's waiting for the right opportunity. Maybe you are too.
Rest assured if the opportunity never comes the so called friendship will dissolve

[Asker]

He told me that night that we'll never be close friends, he has enough friends. He also asked me what I want.

[In_Trance]

Exactly

[Asker]

Meaning what though?

[In_Trance]

Read back through my prior responses and see

[Asker]

Oh. So when I freeze up when he gets more bold, is that why he's so back and forth? That night he gave me a hug goodbye and hugged me tighter than ever before. All of this is good? I've been so scared that I'm just an ego boost of he doesn't like me at all.

[In_Trance]

One of the reasons guys don't make moves on girls is because they're not getting the right signals which seems to be exactly what's happening here

[Asker]

So how to I have a conversation with him about this? Because I don't want to keep doing this dance. We started to last week, I asked him if he meant what he said. He said he didn't remember and I'd have to tell him.

[In_Trance]

Face to face straight up

[Asker]

The last thing he said to me was "If I don't remember I can't answer your question... right?" Then he had to go to bed cuz he had to be up early for work. Is it likely he does remember?

[In_Trance]

Go and see him

[Asker]

I don't want to ruin the friendship or make things awkward... Our families are close and it's a lot of pressure.

[In_Trance]

If you don't want to do anything with it, what are we even doing here?

[Asker]

I do want to. I just mean if he only sees me as a friend or like a sister I don't want to make things awkward or uncomfortable.

[In_Trance]

They already are

[Asker]

I get that. I just mean if I have this conversation and he doesn't feel that way, then it makes everything awkward and him uncomfortable. Right now he says nothing is awkward between us. His brother and my sister are married, which causes pressure. I don't want to be rejected.