Men looking at women?

[Anonymous]

Can you men really only love and want your girlfriend or wife but still look at every girl on social media that’s basically naked?

My boyfriend looks at girls all the time on snap and TikTok but says he doesn’t want them and says he doesn’t find them more attractive and that he loves me. But can men really only want there girlfriend while still looking at all the women in the world? Should I be worried or should I just try and let it go.

[Anonymous]

Yes. My relationship w my girl is based more on things than just looks. It’s based on her personality, us taking care of each other, her being there for me. How she makes me feel. As for looking at other women that’s purely sexually based. Trust me if something in my head could automatically switch over from on to off as far as looking at other women I’d turn it off cause it would make things so much easier in life. But I can’t. I mean honestly how do you think your man took notice of you? Most likely it was because of your looks.

[Asker]

The the problem men like what they see sexual wise what stops you from leaving your girl bc you find someone who gets you aroused more sexually then your girlfriend. Looks are the #1 reasons men talk to women. How do I know he won’t just up and leave and that he’s telling the truth. If someone else that in his head is more sexually pleasing to look at.

[Opinion Owner]

Because even though looks initially attract a man her personality means way more than that. If she’s cute, but she acts like a bitch chances are he isn’t going to stay around. There’s no guarantee he won’t leave you just like there’s no guarantee my girl won’t leave me. It’s a chance we all take. My best advice is to treat him like no other woman has, be there for him, support him as he should you. Most men look, yes they may fantasize about other women but that’s about it.

[Asker]

But why can’t one women be enough to not fantasize. If you have to fantasize about them sexually doesn’t that mean. Your girl isn’t meeting your needs. I’ve only ever fantasized about a man if my sexual needs aren’t met.
Abd if a girl comes around that’s a good personality and a better body then mine. Since I was not blessed with a very good sexual body he will want that and not me.

[Asker]

What I’m getting from what your saying is I’ll never be enough for my man or any man out there. No matter how much I try. They will always want someone else sexually.

And what I don’t get is they get mad if we do what they do. Saying it’s not right for women to look at men when in a relationship

[Opinion Owner]

Yes pretty much. Men will always look at other women. It’s not saying you’re not good enough. I think it’s a part of nature. I mean if a few men were like this I don’t think I would consider it part of nature. But men around the world are like this. I’ve never really heard of women being shunned for it for checking out other men.

[Asker]

My boyfriend threw my phone across the room bc a shirtless guy popped up on my phone.

[Asker]

So there’s no point in dating guys bc even though you say I’m not good enough that’s what you guys think. Looks like I’m turning fully lesbian.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m not saying you’re not good enough. But regardless that thing happens. I don’t know how to explain it. It’s not something I think about as a man like we just go out there w the intent of Loki g at women all the time. It’s something you won’t ever understand unless there’s some way for you to be a male. As for him getting upset about that because he’s just being a hypocrite if he does the same.

[FunkyMonkee]

Yes! I told my ex-fiance right after we started dating that I love to look at other girls and I seriously doubt I will ever stop but, I'm 100% loyal to HER!! To me, they are like great works of art, like when you go to the museum and se naked statues or paintings. I admire them for their beauty but, as long as I've got her, I have NO intention of EVER bringing one back home with me! And I STAYED 100% loyal to her for 10 years!! What broke us up was HER cheating on me during the 10th year!!

[LazerBean]

Can he love? Sure. That doesn't make him any less of a weak charactered loser.

[FilmGuy93]

Aesthetics have nothing to do with what the heart wants.

[Stickykuza]

They do tbh, the gurl you love just simply looks too attractive 🤣 for me my first crush was more attractive then scarlet Johansson to me.

I think we find them hot, but for guy's being emotionally connected makes our Partner more attractive to us.

[JPresidente]

I would say don’t stress for now but you need to keep an eye on him. If he becomes addicted to continually viewing this, then dude has a problem. If he’s getting sex from you on a regular basis it does puzzle me why he would do it as most guys would tend to grow out of this phase.

[Asker]

He’s done it for a year now

[JPresidente]

He needs to grow up and show you some respect and ditch that stuff.

[Asker]

It got really really bad during my pregnancy as well

[JPresidente]

I’d cut him some slack for that just because guys have an awkward time dealing with a pregnant partner but if you’re back to having sex again, he should give it up or at least not let you know or see that he’s still doing it.

[Asker]

He won’t have sex with me. I’ve been so horny. I can’t live without sex but he says he’s not horny. I’ve had sex 3 times in about 11 months. I’m loosing my mind and trying so hard to stay with him. But I want to go have sex.

[JPresidente]

You mind if I ask if you got your figure back or no? That may be an issue with him.

[Asker]

Back to my figure 24 hours after I pushed her out.

[JPresidente]

One other. Did he say it felt different for him after the last time you did do it?

[Asker]

No he said it felt the same. He said I was tighter that’s it

[Asker]

Just all of a sudden no sex no kissing no cuddles no I love you. Absolutely nothing.

[JPresidente]

Do you do different things or the same positions?

[Asker]

I want to he doesn’t. He only ever wanted me on my side and facing away from him

[JPresidente]

One other. Have you gone through his phone to see if there are any suspicious text messages or apps?

[Asker]

That’s the thing there’s nothing suspicious

[JPresidente]

Any chance he might have another phone or be using a laptop?

[Asker]

I don’t think so. I’m at home all the time and I clean the place

[JPresidente]

This has the makings of either (A) another woman (B) he’s totally lost all feelings and attraction for you and just wants to masturbate (C) something else I’m missing.

[JPresidente]

Wrong emoji 😎

[Asker]

I don't know what the truth is. Since he tells me when I ask him a lot if he loves me he says yes.

[JPresidente]

If he’s still looking at other women online then it’s probably not ED. Have you noticed him masturbating more?

[JPresidente]

He must be bored with the sex then. He’s seeking out how other women look online because he’s tired of the same thing. That’s my best guess

[JPresidente]

It does happen with men. It’s not your fault at all so don’t blame yourself

[JPresidente]

Would he agree to sex counseling?

[Asker]

I’m the one that wants to spice things up I’m into some insane things but he’s never interested in doing anything. He just tells me to lay there. I don’t enjoy just laying there. If he won’t tell me what he wants how am I supposed to fix it. Should I just give up and go find someone else to be with

[Asker]

He doesn’t believe in counseling

[JPresidente]

Ugh, there are men who would kill for you. 😂

[JPresidente]

He seems to have a low sex drive and his lack of caring for your needs is just crazy stoopid. This guy needs to wake up

[Asker]

I’m at starting to think there’s no guy who will want me.

He jerks for every morning when I leave the room and every night in the bathroom. But says he’s not horny. I really don’t get it.

[JPresidente]

No, please don’t think that. It’s not you at all. The issue is solely with him. You will probably have some tough decisions to make going forward that he has caused.

[JPresidente]

If you need to talk more, follow me and message me. I’ll be glad to help any way I can. 👍

[Asker]

Thank you!!!

[20yearsolder]

He's telling the truth, guys are visual creatures. We enjoy looking at beauty. Doesn't mean we want them more than we want you. Relax and stop being so insecure. Go on TikTok and Instagram and check out hot guys. He shouldn't have a problem with that

[Asker]

He does though. He threw my phone across the room bc a guy popped up. And said I should have to look at guys if I love him.

[20yearsolder]

That's a double standard, how about you take his phone and throw it when he's looking at women

[Asker]

He says it’s different. I locked his phone one time after he threw mine and he said I have no right to get upset. When I’m mainly upset that he got mad at me for it but he can do what ever he wants

[20yearsolder]

It's not different and you tolerate him. That's the saying goes what's good for the goose is good for the gander. I would highly suggest you find you a better boyfriend. This one's never going to change and if you stay you'll be submissive to whatever he wants

[BJP21]

We guys keep it in the confines of what we look at verses what we actually seek. As long as he is not seeking it out and trying to talk to them. You're fine. If it does bother you I would chat with him in a tactful manner.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Sounds like you are the controller type in the relationship, let me guess you get upset as well when he watches porn huh

[Asker]

Not controlling. I just don’t understand why you’d need to use porn when you have a sex addict for a girlfriend. 😂 that’s literally wanted to become a porn star before the relationship just to have more sex.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Porn is part of life doesn't matter if you are in relationship or single

[Asker]

Never watched it. Never had to

[Asker]

Would rather make it then watch it.

[LimitedBenefits101]

That's understable most women are not into porn.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Look marriage or a relationship does not stop men from being men

[Asker]

I get that. But could he be lying and just saying he doesn’t find them more Attractive then me or could be actually think that there not. Should I be worried about him taking that step forward and not just looking but touching bc so many men don’t give two shits and will cheat on there gfs and wives

[PainusNdeeAnus]

I don’t know the type of person he is so I can’t tell you that but I can tell you this that this is an issue you will have with every man you just have to trust him and if you can’t do that then y’all probably shouldn’t be together

[joeldalton]

yes. I'm married, not blind.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Attraction doesn't mean connection.

[Asker]

So just bc a man finds a girl attractive doesn’t mean that they would rather be with them then there girlfriend or wife?

[Opinion Owner]

Yup.

[Anonymous]

🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

Oh? What was the point of this?

[Anonymous]

Yes.