Why do men stare at other women when in a relationship?

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Came here just to ask this question because it has been in my head for a long time now. It doesn't have anything to do with me. My boyfriend isn't looking at other women at all when he is with me. Maybe he will notice a nice outfit and tells me how he pictures me in something similar and stuff like that. But I have noticed other men when are in a relationship stare at other women bodies who aren't even wearing anything beautiful (in my opinion) and just blatantly stare for a long period of time until that girl just goes out of his sight. Why would they do that in front of their SO or even when they are with their bros? Or talk about other girls while in a relationship? To me it's alien and weird.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

Men are hunters by nature. It is part of their genes to want to fornicate with as many females as possible to spread the genes. This is something that is as old as mankind itself.

You cannot get rid of something that you cannot influence because it is part of your genome. Mainly in our modern Western society and culture where people tend to dress to show as much of the body as possible, it becomes a real issue.

It is a known fact that a great number of men are slaves of their testosterone, mainly from the start of puberty until their andropause kicks in.

It is something that females are unfortunately confronted on a daily basis. A way to prevent something like that, or at least to reduce this phenomenon, would be to dress more appropriately and wear as little makeup as possible.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I would say immature or unemotional people do not have proper impulse discipline. Like a guy told me when he first met his girlfriend, he thought she was a 7 out of 10 but after months of dating, he viewed her as an 18 out of 10. Some people never raise their interest level.

Rockstarrrrr · Accepted Answer

Look who it is! 😄... Yeah people look and sometimes flirt with others when they're in an average or a " meh " relationship... When you actually like the person it's like you don't even notice the others or at best they're good but it's not her / him... I totally feel the same... It seems like the majority of people are in an average relationship because you know, it's better to have someone... But deep down they don't really like the person...

Sparkie460 · Accepted Answer

I think men and women both look at other people of the opposite sex. Just because we are in a relationship or married doesn't mean we can't look. I always told my wife that I can look at the menu, I can order from it but I won't eat what is put in front of me.

Desconhecida · Answer

Human nature. Men and women do it. It doesn't always mean a bad thing - if Chris Hemsworth walks by me, damn sure I'm gonna eye fuck him.

boggboss · Answer

This isn't somthing men do it's somthing people do women also flirt with men whilst in relationships as to why people do it depends some just don't care how there partner would feel others dint think flirting is harmful if thats all it is

Tina19 · Answer

I think it's just a normal human thing sometimes people stare but mentally they are lost somewhere else for me it is not a big deal unless the person is turning his head to checkout a girl also it's natural to stare at attractive people be it male or female but that doesn't mean they want to cheat on their partner or want to date that attractive person they stare because they like what they see with no other intention in mind

A_Bell · Answer

My husband notices attractive women and we will even comment on them together, saying things like "she has a pretty dress" or "she's attractive." (And I do the same for guys.)

I think the forbidden fruit factor is removed if you are open and honest. We love each other not someone who happens to catch our eye.

DavidRaul · Answer

I think they always want to get something better. They don't want to settle for less. Makes me feel like they aren't even loyal to their girlfriend

Asad1ONE1 · Answer

Either you're being hypocritical or if it's true, that is not because of men. That is probably because there are significantly more attractive women than attractive men. But I could be wrong.

JPresidente · Answer

Men are wired differently then women. We are visual creatures and our instinct is to pursue women and multiply since the dawn of man. Men love the female shape and curves and so men of all ages and status will look at women around them. What is different is some men just glance, some just observe, your creepers will stare for a long time and the pervs will do all of the above and maybe follow you. Most men can control themselves but you're going to have types that can't.

Vegasrunner · Answer

It would be very odd if your boyfriend wasn't looking at other women as men naturally seek out attractive women. In general most men are looking for quantity, and most women are seeking quality therefore they have a difficult time not understanding that they themselves are not the end all be all for a guy.

skilled_jellyfish · Answer

Let's say that you really, really like vanilla ice cream. Now let's say that from now on you're only allowed to eat vanilla ice cream and nothing else for the rest of your life. Life isn't fair.

devilish-cutie · Answer

cause not everyone is a good person and not everyone has ideal relationship

TroyDT2 · Answer

Noticing is natural, part of how men are wired. Staring is a choice, and is disrespectful.

Tom_Wray_04 · Answer

We look, that's part of who we are as guys. I would try not to just stare while I was with my SO, but guys tend to be more visual by nature. I would say not to worry as long as he is just looking and not trying to touch.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

There are millions of pretty women in the world so you have at appreciate it even if you are in relationship, is not like you are talking to her or asking her out you are just admiring her beauty by looking at her.

Shy_Steve · Answer

It's a Sexual urge that us Guys have that we cannot stop even in a Relationship, Just like the urge you have when your attracted to a Confident Guy.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

We don't stop haivng eyes, just because we're dating someone.

BJP21 · Answer

I do it for outfit ideas, but thats as far as it goes for me.

Brando10222 · Answer

I have no idea but it's so wrong

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