I've never questioned my worth before this. He knows it bothers me and he still does it. I know I deserve better treatment and I'm pretty much left with two options: 1- never go out in public with him again (yeah right...:)), 2- Peace out... it's happened three times and I can't compromise.
I have one last question... what's the best way to act during these offenses? I always think everyone 'expects' me to be jealous of the other girl. I'm rarely jealous of her, but mostly hurt and confused by him. Should I walk away (I've done this)? Flirting with other men would be easy and predictable, but I've done this, too... I don't know
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Whoa, whoa, whoa. Slow your roll anonymous. This is a perfectly natural primal behavior for any male. This is science not fiction. May as well ask him to walk around blind. It will never change. Shame on him for not being more sly for I never get caught. Neither do my friends unless they want to. You're going to run into this with every guy sooner or later. So unless you want to keep jumping from one man to another I'd relax and let it roll off your shoulder. By the way, and I'm not judging here, but you are screaming insecurity when you react in this manner. What you are asking is the equivalent to asking us not to look at cool/hot cars. Yeah, we know we can't have 'em, and we'll never drive 'em either, but we'll never stop appreciating what are eyes will let us.
Let me ask you a question. Do you ever watch TV or movies with him? Because every chance a guy gets to watch hot women on TV we got all kinds of things going on in our head. It's like a buffet up there and it's all you can eat with what currently is being produced. So think about that. Not too much, just mull it over.
It's nothing. It means nothing. Unless you let it. He is with you. Loves you. That... is all that should matter.
In answer to your final query you should act (be nice if you didn't have to act though) as if nothing is wrong. But by the wording you have chosen in your post to describe "these offenses" I've a feeling your intent was rooted more in that of venting than seeking advice. And there is nothing wrong with that at all.
Finally if you truly cannot let this go, then you should move on. But beware of the-grass-is-always-greener-on-the-other-side monster. If this is your biggest gripe, maybe you should talk to some divorced women.
Good luck girl.