You trust your friends around your sister?

[ItsLily]

My brother is pissed because I hung out with one of his friends. The guy is really nice and we just talked but when I got home my brother started cursing and telling me not to hang around his friends. I don't get it. Later he said sorry and that he doesn't trust them.

[NamerOfStars]

Of course- why would they be my FRIENDS if I didn't trust them? I mean, trust has levels; there's a difference between "I trust you with my dog for the weekend" and "I trust you with my life", but what's the fear here- that they're going to make a pass at her? That they're going to RAPE her? That they'll bonk her over the head and steal her car?

It wasn't that long ago that I WAS a teenage boy; I remember how they think. Do they have an extremely strong desire for sex and power? Yes. Do they lose the ability to think and act with basic human morality? Not if they're worth a damn.

Granted, my sister is older than me, and can take care of herself; that may be coloring my opinion a little. But geez, how sexist do you have to be?

[ItsLily]

Yea I think he overreacted because like you said why be friends with someone you can't trust

[Passing_by]

Most of the guys with sisters I have been friends with aren't really comfortable with trusting their sister or friend with each other. The thing is that it's two opposite genders and someone or the other is very like to slip. Last year, I visited an old friend and by chance, his female cousin happened to be there. I don't know where and how she got my number and the first thing she texted was 'hey! Do you mind if we talk a little? Please don't tell my cousin about me texting you.'

I didn't proceed with her because I'm good friends with her cousin and he'd probably won't like it.

As a guy, if I had a sister and if I'm protective enough of her, I'd get a bit tensed if she hung out with a friend of mine. Guys know how other guys think, at least most of them. :D

[ItsLily]

Thank you. The thing is the friend that I was talking to is so not like his other friends who I completely understand him not trusting. he's really nice and sweet and calm. But I understand what you are saying

[Passing_by]

With the opposite gender, things are different. Not saying he's just being nice to impress you or to make you have a good opinion of him but guys do that lol.

[ItsLily]

Lol okay

[PamelaRivers]

The whole cussing you thing is too much. Having said that, since they are his friends, I wonder if he knows what they will try is why he doesn't trust them around you.

[ItsLily]

That's how I felt, he hurt my feelings lol. Ohhh maybe, that makes sense but the one that I was with has always been really nice. But he does know him better than I do so that might be it

[PamelaRivers]

Yeah I'm not familiar with them so not sure if that is really a nice guy or just a "nice till I get some" guy.

[SoftCliff]

I'm an only child

I'm just here for the points lol

[ItsLily]

Haha it's cool

[Apraxia]

I have a younger sister. Always got raised with the concept of make sure you trust your friends alone with your sister. Most of em im comfortable with haven’t found myself thinking of a mate as a dickhead

[ItsLily]

Yes he should be able trust that I'm ok to talk to one of his friends alone especially in an open public space.

[NathanDavis]

I've been the friend... and he said " I do trust you with my sister..." and kept staring at me for about six extra seconds, lol

I have no sisters though

[ItsLily]

Lol the six extra seconds

[NathanDavis]

yep... till I said that "yep..."

his younger sister always had a crush on me, since we were kids... lol

[Summeroflove]

He’s jealous. Nothing wrong with it. He needs to calm down

[ItsLily]

Exactly I dont see anything wrong with what I did. Jealous? Of taking his friend? He has a lot friends I should be able to have 1 of them haha..

[Summeroflove]

I know. It makes no sense to me either. I never liked and my my sisters friend. At all. There were some I could tolerate in short bursts.

She ever liked any of mine.

Honestly it would be a good thing to get along.

[Summeroflove]

I mean. Gosh. Your brothers being a real dick about it.

When he calms down. Ask him why he got so angry.

[ItsLily]

Yea his other friends are annoying but the one I talk to I get along with. He's cool. And my brother apologized later, he said he just doesn't trust his friends with me. I didn't say anything because Im kinda still mad at the way he came at me..

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I understand. If he didn’t come off as a creep or whatever and it was just friendly I assume. It does not matter.

Glad he apologized.

[Chris_78456]

I hate my friends and I don't trust my sister.

[ItsLily]

How can you hate your friends if they're your friends?

[Chris_78456]

I think one of them drugged me when we were drinking together, and the other guy is nosy and gossipy, and he complains too much.

[Chris_78456]

I avoid the creepy one, and I told the nosy one that I moved away.

[24_7_Amazing]

Do I trust my friends around my sisters? Yes.

Do I trust my sister around my friends? No.

I found this year that she has slept with two of my closet friends.

[ItsLily]

Really? But that means I can't trust them either right? How did u find out?

[ItsLily]

Sorry I meant to say that means you can't trust them either

[24_7_Amazing]

I was at my friend's house and we were playing pool. I went to move an empty pizza box and saw an autographed concert tshirt a pair of panties. I'd see my sister wearing the same exact shirt last night when we went out for dinner - me, her and our parents

[24_7_Amazing]

Were you attracted to his friend?

[ItsLily]

Oh, she left her underwear?
I think he's really nice and sweet.

[24_7_Amazing]

Her underwear and her concert tshirt

[24_7_Amazing]

I didn't say anything I just took everything, took it off the pool table and put it on the coffee table

[24_7_Amazing]

If he wasn't your brothers friend would you sleep with him?

[ItsLily]

Well no because I don't know if I'm ready for that yet. but I honestly just want to be his friend and now I can't because my brother is annoying... o well

[24_7_Amazing]

If you want to be his friend be his friend

[24_7_Amazing]

It was awkward between me and my best friend but we've moved past it

[ItsLily]

I can't because I don't like getting yelled at..
You didn't tell your sister that u knew?

[24_7_Amazing]

No I didn't tell her I knew. Should I have?

[ItsLily]

How old was she?

[24_7_Amazing]

She is 25 and I am 31

[ItsLily]

Ohh ok

[nawtee_me]

sounds like he is just looking out for you, He see them at their worst and doesn't them treating you like they do other girls...

[ItsLily]

Thanks

[AmeerX]

I would not interfere as long as the interest is genuine and intent is to marry. No lust

[ItsLily]

I don't want to marry him we were just talking and becoming friends.

[AmeerX]

Being friends is fine. I wouldn't mind. Why would anyone mind it

[ItsLily]

I don't know

[AmeerX]

Well, I think it is there life. I wouldn't want to do anything to interfere. It would be like asking my sister to break up my relationship with a girl

[bananathunder]

growing up we both used to share our friends... it was a mutual thing

[ItsLily]

That's cool

[bananathunder]

yeah, it worked out really good. Sleepovers were awesome lol

[ItsLily]

Sleepovers? Lol 🤔 haven't done that. I had sleepovers in elementary but after we got n middle school it stopped haha

[bananathunder]

we did it often until we moved out after high school. We always had friends at our house. A couple of her friends stayed with us for long periods of time too

[bananathunder]

most of the fun happened from ages 15-18

[Anonymous]

I don't trust my sister.

[ItsLily]

Why?

[Anonymous]

That's both weird and creepy.

[ItsLily]

Why weird and creepy?

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like he has a crush on his sister.

[ItsLily]

Ewwww pls stop. That's not possible I just think he's an a**hole

[Debbie14217]

most of the time

[Iron_Man]

My sister is older and has power

[ItsLily]

So you wouldn't trust her?

[Iron_Man]

I trust her she won’t allow issues

[ItsLily]

Like what issues though?

[Iron_Man]

Hitting on her

[ItsLily]

Ohh ok