After a month of talking a guy I met on tinder says "you're mine" what dose this really mean?

[Anonymous]

We met on tinder and have only been talking for a month. I'm not good at reading into things or subtle hints, so I don't truly understand flirting. I honestly don't know if he's asking me out, asking for me to be his girl, or trying to get me in bed. I don't want to seem like a complete idiot, so I'm scared to flat out ask him what he means

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I sent him this message "I'm not good when it comes to subtle hints. I honestly don't know what you mean when you call me yours, dose that mean you wanna date me, are you asking me to be only exclusive to you because you think you love me, is it like you trying to claim dominance over me, or is it just a cute nickname you were trying. I don't understand and don't want to hurt your feelings so can you please elaborate?"

[PrettyPriya]

Is there anymore context to the conversation where he said that? If so, might want to use the update box and update the question with more info. By itself, that seems pretty aggressive to say. "You're mine" comes off possessive and like you don't have a choice.

Now, with more context, that could be completely different. To me, it sounds like he is signaling (poorly albeit) that he likes you and wants to be with you. Like you are "his" girl or whatever.

Problem is, I don't know a thing about this guy. Could he be saying this to a bunch of girls to see what sticks? Yep. This is where more information would be really helpful. I see that you have been talking for a month. What are the conversations like in general? Positive?

Always be wary of what you stated in your details. He very well may just be trying to get in your pants. Set some personal boundaries and stick to them. Don't give in if that is the case that he is only after sex.

[Asker]

He literally just texted me out of the blue on my birthday and said "your mine" I asked what he ment and he said "what I said ur mine"

[PrettyPriya]

Sounds REALLY aggressive. If someone told me that out of the blue, I would tell them to fuck off. Sorry for the language but that is exactly what would happen.

[Asker]

He's always been caring, sweet, and goofy when we talk. He honestly seems like a nice guy, but that message through me for a loop

[sage2021]

Do you know how old he us? Seems like an older man would say something like that.

He sounds too possessive and I say it's in a weird way.

When someone is too possessive they can be abusive as well.

He doesn't seem normal to me. I would back off from that one.

Sounds creepy!

[Asker]

He's just a year older than me

[genericname85]

"you're mine"? doesn't that strike you as weird and out of place for a guy you met on tinder that you've only been talking to for a month?

[Asker]

I'm new to all of this. What relationships I had weren't real, they cheated right off the bat and told me I better not tell the other girl or else. This was in my teenage years, and I haven't dated since

[genericname85]

you don't need to have experience in order to feel a certain way about it. what's your intuition? how does it make you feel when he says that?

[Guy13]

Playing with your mind. I would not respond until he asked you out,

[tonamimargaux]

Guys blabber that bullshit while having sex a lot. Don’t bother

[Asker]

I haven't slept with him

[tonamimargaux]

Oh, then he is trying to.

[Anonymous]

If you want him, then stop wasting his time.

[Asker]

I've asked him on a date already but he says he doesn't know when he has a free day

[Opinion Owner]

Then it sounds like he's a catfish. That's usually why they dont want to meet in person.

[Asker]

How do I tell if he's really who he says he is, ask for a very oddly specific type of picture?

[Opinion Owner]

Tell him you want to have a video chat.

[pmodern]

Sounds a little creepy to me, I’d back off from that one. Get past a few dates first at least!

[Summeroflove]

I guess he wants to make you his.

[Stevefiveo]

He wants you to be committed to him.

[Wise4myage]

His ego is out of control.

[Joker_]

he's obsessive and overly possessive

[jimmy2]

Be careful