What was his point?

[Anonymous]

So a while back I met up with this guy. We talked for a while back and forth and would exchange supportive and intimate information. I would try and support him and likewise. Finally then we hung out at his place. We cuddled and he ended up giving me oral sex and he tried to do more but I wasn’t ready to have sex with him yet so I told him let’s just watch tv. I ended up spending the night. He held me all night and When the morning came I rushed out and told him I had to go. He was expecting me to stay a little longer until he had to work. (I just was not feeling the vibe. ) he asked what was wrong i told him I wasn’t busy or nothing but that i just wanted to go. He offered to walk me out and I told him no I’m ok. He said ok and stood in the door for a while and watched me walk away. He seemed a little disappointed I don't know could be wrong. I went home and blocked him and pretty much ghosted the guy for months. Recently he liked me on a dating site and somehow we matched because I don’t remember swiping right on him. He messaged me first saying Heyy stranger and I replied hi. He asked me how I’ve been and I kept it very short and said cool. He responded “good to hear” and after that I didn’t say anything back. I i just liked his message and fell asleep. I woke up and he unmatched me. What does it seem like is going on in this situation? What was his point of contacting me at all? and what’s his problem with me?

[spartan55]

Why do you even gaf? You blew the dude off... let it go.

[Asker]

Ok I blew him off in the past but what does that have to do with now? I just thought it was weird and rude for him to start a conversation and then unmatch me.

[spartan55]

Did you ever apologize for what you did?

[Asker]

No! I didn’t. He ended the conversation and unmatched me

[spartan55]

And you ghosted him. You both are responsible. Let me guess... that isn't something to apologize for... right?

[Asker]

Maybe I would’ve apologized but he didn’t give me a chance to The main question is why message me first if he was just going to unmatch me

[spartan55]

I was referring to what YOU did originally to kick this whole thing off.
"I went home and blocked him and pretty much ghosted him blah blah..."
That has nothing to do with him unmatching you... seriously?

[Asker]

IMe previously ghosting him has nothing to do with him Unmatching me. How Does it? He was cool with otherwise why would he initiate convo again if he really had a problem with it?

[spartan55]

@asker
"he didn't give me a chance to"... never your fault, right?

[Asker]

No it’s not my fault because if he had a problem with the way I ghosted why would he hmu again and ask how I’m doing ?

[spartan55]

Doesn't matter if you think it's cool or not... you still apologize... this is just amazing. Just zero accountability. You aren't apologizing because you don't think you should, plus you don't truly give a shit about it anyway.

[Asker]

Obviously he’s cool with me the fact that I ghosted him otherwise he would not have made an attempt to check on me. He’s never shown any hard feelings about it so how does me ghosting him have anything with him unmatching me?

[spartan55]

You just. dont. get. it

[Asker]

Then explain lollll

[Asker]

You’re saying apologize and I would’ve but he didn’t give me the chance to. You’re so focused on me apologizing when all I’m asking is why would he start a conversation with me and then unmatch me?

[spartan55]

Why does it matter? It seems women tend to focus on things that don't even matter. You will never know the answer anyway, and if you did somehow find out it doesn't help you anyway.
When you do someone wrong, you apologize. This is a social skill taught at an early age. Your reasoning is that since he is contacting you, then he is cool with you. That doesn't get you off the hook for apologizing. To compare: Me and my buddy are horsing around and I push him into traffic and he nearly gets hit by a car. He's laughing "All good Spartan 👍"... so I don't need to apologize? That's fucked up.

[Asker]

I literately never said I didn’t need to apologize. I just said he ended the convo before I had the opportunity. My whole question was why did he run off like that. The question isn’t should or shouldn’t I apologize. Why did he just run off before I could even apologize is the question. Cause that was rude and left me confused

[Straight2thepoint]

You are the problem. Your whole story says it all. Your admission is bone dry. You expect a guy to chase you and beg. What is wrong with you? Wait don't answer. Don't waste my time either.

[Asker]

I don’t see what I did wrong and I don’t expect anyone to chase and beg. What makes u say that?

[Asker]

He’s the one who unmatched me

[spartan55]

@Straight2thepoint
"I don't see what I did wrong...
Shocker of the morning there...

[spartan55]

@asker
You are conveniently forgetting that you caused the situation in the first place.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

@spartan55 HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! OMG, I couldn't hold it. Sad how truth this is...

[spartan55]

Her attitude is just mind boggling.