Why would a guy play mind games with a nice and kind girl?

[Deimy]

[Rkbleezy]

there's actually a plethora of different reasons but ill just share some that I've at least seen. In this context ill be talking about guys who don't have a genuine attraction and genuine connection, wanting a real textbook relationship (everyone has different concepts of a relationship, some people might think an open relationship is a relationship, and it is, but that might not be what you want or think is a relationship)

Game - some guys just like the fun of attraction. They want to see how far they can get you wrapped around their finger. Usually this is due to a lack of self worth. And there using you as a crutch.

Sex - Some guys are mainly fishing for sex. And the only way to consensually get sex is by manipulating you into having feelings so that you initiate it. (Which is why people stay abstinent till marriage. Because its hard to tell if someone will leave after they get the goods).

Lonely - Some guys genuinely are just lonely and want a connection but anybody will do. And if they see something they don't like about you. They will break up with you in their mind. But pursue you still under the context of wanting to feel like someones there for them and with them.

Lack of Communication - This is a huge reason that is probably more common than the idea of sex. Most “situationships” occur because one or both parties don’t know how to effectively communicate the hard topics of attraction, affection, like, love, relationship, loyalty, the list goes on. Before you start getting physical, sit down and talk. Most of the “bad eggs” will run at the sound of commitment or loyalty. Leaving you with a better chance at a good guy (Hopefully he isn't just lonely or crazy). Being open about your feelings. And allowing someone to be open about theirs, without letting just your feelings dictate your attraction, really makes a huge difference in connecting with that person. If someone is inconsistent or inconsiderate, you can really hone in as to why, and you may even find yourself seeing new red flags in people that you haven’t seen before.

This is the last one I have personally seen. There of course is more reasons out there. However I don’t want to speak on things outside of experience, wether that be personal or through my friends/acquaintances.
Id like to add that I am not condemning nor condoning any people in this message. A lot of people don’t understand the concept of love, and everyone needs help. But taking the time to determine what you want and what to look for makes things respectful and growth filled for both parties. After all, letting someone down easily before something happens is much easier to do and get over.

Hopefully this helps, goodluck!

[Samarasaid]

Hi. Even if I didn't ask the question, I thank you a thousand times for ansewring z question I've always asked myself

[Rkbleezy]

I'd also add

Type - everyone has preferences when looking for someone to fall in love with. And sometimes you may give off a certain personality at first, but after a while when you start showing other aspects of yourself they start to develop a portfolio of you subconsciously. With this they take who you are and compare it to what they want. With this you find A LOT of guys and girls who just don't want to pursue you anymore. Not for any bad reason, but because you don't line up with who they are interested in. And to be honest that is perfectly normal and good, being with someone who doesn't love you for who you are can be toxic and draining.

I do have to say though that some traits are very counterproductive in life, so I always like to encourage everyone to get counseling even if they feel they are OK. You may find out things about yourself that you can improve, and work on in order to lift yourself up mentally and find a more attractive partner in the future! There isn't a whole lot that is set in stone in life, so take the time while your young to really focus on yourself and your inner growth.

[Lionman95]

Because he doesn't understand her character and how she feels about him. Not all guys understand a woman's sign and body language right away.
Another reason could be that he's unsure about how he feels about her. He might not want to give her strong signals right away.

[rienna888]

It means they want to be with a nice girl and they will the nice girl will treat them right but they want the bad ass pretty mean girl

[Adaeva]

There is no answers because haven't defined what you mean by mind games.

[Anonymous]

Because the interest of women, not last among them "nice and kind" ones, tends to go up if mind games are played on them. Of course, game needs to be applied with expertise or at least skill.

[inhua]

he could be determining if you are playing mind games yourself. nobody truly knows what someone's intentions are when these games are played.

[mlvrjohnconnor]

Because he is not nice and kind? Need more info

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

He's got issues and immature

[Alex8736]

I dont understand the question... examples please?

[Deimy]

Tell about liking a girl, wanting a family with her just to get into her pants, then ghost her, again try to manipulate her

[Alex8736]

time to block that person out of your life. history always repeats itself

[FilmGuy93]

Some people suck

[Anonymous]

Because she's probably really not that nice or that kind.

[slatyb]

Because he's the kind of guy who plays mind games.

[Samarasaid]

Haha :)

[slatyb]

@Samarasaid Much bad behavior is a result of a bad upbringing. Children who grow up in a home where their honesty is encouraged are honest adults. Children who grow up in a home the adults are playing mind games grow up believing that's how everyone gets through life. I did, and it took me some years to unlearn behavior I had learned from my father.

[Samarasaid]

Soo clever. well done sir

[Deimy]

😊thank you

[bowenw]

It could be to get her into bed.

[linka_pat307]

Because she is easily to play with

[Still-alive]

Probably just wants sex

[TallAnon]

Because he doesn't care about her.

[Zolly99999]

Because he is an asshole.

[Anonymous]

You're kind girl?

[Deimy]

Yes I an

[Opinion Owner]

Wow. So ma'am can I fuck you?