Are all men the same? Will they all use and dump?

Question

Lately TikTok has been feeding me , be a gold digger , only use men for their money, even if he says he loves you he’ll cheat like it’s nothing and leave you whenever he feels like it just because he can because we’re in a patriarchy.

Im completely dependent on my partner financially, been together 7years, I’d hate to think he would do that to me. He started 100% supporting me in the last 2 years because his business is taking off, I really can’t predict how he will start changing when he goes from making 500k to millions.
we went from being broke to having money it doesn’t feel real. Is little me not enough as time goes on?

SwellStroke · Accepted Answer

No, not all men will do that.

I had many a chances to do that very thing. As recently as today. To which the person comes online and reads this they can attest to.

She wanted to be FB while the person she is wanting to be with is in jail. I had my chance to do it, as I was given permission as she didn't want to make the first move being shy and nervous.

So I took the time to talk with her and get to know her, I really liked her. However as of today. When we had our face to face. I finally told her, I can either be just what you want me to be, or nothing as she still wanted to be friends after. Which no I couldn't because of getting the feels. In addition asked her would the person she was with know what happened, she said no.
That there stopped me in my tracks. The position she put us all in, granted with my involvement was not fair to not only the both of us, but to the guy that had no idea was going on.

So she was sent on her way and that is the last of our interactions.

So no not all guys will just use you and dump you.

Another example a girl wanted to have sex with me many many years ago. To the point where I was just a sneeze away from penetrating her. I could see in her face something was wrong. I asked her and she admitted she didn't want to do it. So no questions asked I stopped and put my cloths back on.

Having the notion already in your head that this is how it will be, you will never find the right guy.

Having a way to filter on the other hand will help you find the right one.

So to the asker and the first female poster that is unknown. Maybe look else where then you have been and you will see. There are some of us that are good. We just end up in similar situations, and become withdrawn and harder to find as a result.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You really want to listen to those women? You've been with your partner for 7 years. How long would you wager those women have been with thier men? How much would you wager those women EVEN HAVE MEN. 1. Don't take advice from women less successful then you. 2. Don't compare your relationship to others relationship. No one else is in your relationship. No one else CAN know and UNDERSTAND the dynamics of your relationship.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That’s why you should be able to think for yourself and use your common sense rather than be spoon fed trends through an App. Are there men out there who will use and discard you? Of course, but after 7 years in a relationship I think you have a pretty good idea as to what sort of man your partner is.

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

Nope that's nonsense. Most guys aren't shit kickers.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Nah... and honestly, TikTok is full of some incredibly hateful women, so you have to take everything you hear on there with a mountain of salt.

VikingWarLord · Answer

If she's under a 7 out of 10 in looks, I'm gonna cheat every time.

If she's obese, average face, small t! ts, etc.. all under 7. I know I can snag hot, slim biitches with big t! ts, so why would I settle for less? I straight up tell biitches right off the bat if they'd have to share me or put up with the cheating. Lots are shocked and ironically, the majority of them still let me at least fuuck them. A few still wanted a relationship thinking they could change my mind, but I would always cheat.

One in particular caught me cheating, and even though she was pissed at first, she still wanted to "work on things", and eventually just gave in and became my BDSM Submissive Slave. She started letting me fuuck in her in ways that she didn't at the start. She was a small thing, 5'1 100 lbs AA cup tits, smoker, single mommy in her 30s. When she saw how hot the biitches were that I was cheating on her with, she admitted that she couldn't compete and kinda figured I'd end up cheating because according to her "... I'm hot, have a big D! ck (I've done P0RN in the past) and bad boy attitude."

If you're not hot, you'll find yourself being used and dumped by the hotter and higher quality men and bad boys like me. But face it, we're exactly what you go for. I can already tell I'm the type you want. I'd have to see a pic of you, but based on this question, I'm assuming you're not over a 7 in looks. Send me a pic and I'll be BRUTALLY FUUUCKIN HONEST if that's the case for you.

Anonymous · Answer

The women that say that usually pick degenerate loser men and use those men as scapegoats. Those degenerate men are loud and act like little immature boys. Again she just wants to be a victim and blame everything on her degenerate boyfriend because she's just as immature and stupid as him. She has nothing to offer in a relationship with a decent mature man. She just wants sympathy and to be a victim.

You picked a mature working man. You stay with him during hard times because you want a meaningful relationship. Because you are able to make a very mature decision that a lot of women don't make, I am pretty sure he is not a degenerate or a loser. Therefore, he will not cheat or leave.

inhua · Answer

if men were using and dumping there wouldn't be any families right now.

that being said, if the only thing a woman brings to the table is sex appeal and nothing else AND she gives up sex to the man, the man has essentially gotten what he wanted and sees no reason to stay with the woman who has nothing else to offer. that is how pumped and dumped works.

women who display other values beside sex appeal e. g. has maternal instincts, has domestic skills, wants a family, is supportive and caring etc. AND withholds sex only for the singular reason to have the man prove his loyalty and commitment to her first are unlikely to get pumped and dumped. this isn't fullproof as manipulative scumbags can still lie their way into sex which is why using logic instead of emotion is crucial to analyzing his potential behavior.

MementoMori777 · Answer

No all men aren't the same, and don't fall for the devils temptations, he will try and devour you and this temptation you feel to fall deeper into the world's darkness is only an illusion, you can be better, this experience will only build your character, he is the problem and clearly God took him out of your life for a reason, money doesn't buy happiness because God is the only one that can fit the emptiness, I had to be deep in the gutter to realize that, put your trust in God that you might not see it but you just dodged a bullet and until you meet the right person you most likely won't realize it.

JDavid25 · Answer

No, that's pretty impossible for all men to be the same.. You have different personalities, different philosophy outlooks on life, different ways we were raised, different cultures.. etc etc.. You are fine. Your guy obviously wants to work hard so that he can take care of you.. Just be as supportive of him as you can.

lightbulb27 · Answer

If you had a raw sewage piple draining into your house, you'd find a skilled person to seal it up, turn it off and clean it up.

You are a skilled person, turn off the media sewage pipe, seal it off, and live your life.

No, they aren't, but we are all human beings and relationships take effort. Focus on building and maintaining a good relationship.

wow... what business?

YourFavoriteFriend · Answer

It's time to say the truth! YES, I'm sorry my dear! But this is true! All men are jerks that will just use you for your body and then throw you off! 😣

Seriously, you people should get off TikTok and social media in general. If you are so messed up that you think that there is even a slight chance that this is true, then you need to make a huge break of the internet and get outside and touch some grass...

Jackblue · Answer

If he intended on using you he has stayed with you a very long time. Maybe urge him that it is time to marry you. Then if he does cheat you would be entitled to half his assets (depending on where you live, you might already be if you live with him).

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Hahaha the Tik tok algorithm ruins another relationship because it feeds anxieties.
Listen I have a girlfriend and it comes up telling me she's getting a train ran on her and how she doesn't really love me. The Tik tok algo just knows what bothers you

Pegases · Answer

Most women that are half naked online, are actually the cheaters. Have you cheated on your man? That's the question to ask. You assuming an entire gender is the same is ridiculous, and a sign that it's time to stop listening to tiktok.

AviatorTom · Answer

You're on TicTok, which is all about random non-committal sex. What do you expe t to see there.
To answer your question...
No, not all guys are like that... many if us search for, and like, long-term commitments

Anonymous · Answer

"... he’ll cheat like it’s nothing and leave you whenever he feels like it just because he can because we’re in a patriarchy"

You do realize that at your age women cheat more than men, right?

And 70% - 80% divorces are initiated by women. Is that because the "patriarchy"?

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

If you are married, you can expect community property to be split if he splits on you. This is a good reason to marry early; before there is a business worth millions.

SnowedIn · Answer

They are not all the same and, no, they won't all use and dump. Some will, yes. But not all.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

obviously not all men will use and dump women

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, but if you be a gold digger, you will likely get dumped for it.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, men will use you and then brag about doing it. Beware.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Don't know enough to say. Depends on a lot of things.

Anonymous · Answer

If that's what you believe, then you get what you deserve.

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