Do guys whove been cheated on or left for someone else react to girls in different ways?

[Anonymous]

? Do they get defensive and want to be in control?

[God_of_Thunder]

It depends on the guy. 🤷‍♂️

Everybody reacts to situations differently, so there's no way to ascribe a specific reaction to a multitude of people. Some will react by having difficulty trusting women after such a betrayal.

Others will just get over it, and write it off as dodging a bullet. Still others will get angry, or controlling. Some will just avoid relationships altogether.

The man's inherent personality, and other life experiences, will determine how he'll ultimately react, but trying to predict one man's actions, based on how others have reacted, wouldn't really do much good.

[Asker]

Do you think they will be more upset with other girls for being mean to them even if they dobt really know or like that person? Bring s bck memories?

[Anthonyrov2048]

Depends on person. For me I’ve both cheated when I was younger. And in my last relationship (was going to propose) she cheated on me. Now I have trust issues but also remind myself constantly that this new person hasn’t ever done anything wrong so I shouldn’t blame them. So I don’t want to be control of person because if you’re trying to stop them from cheating or talking to other guys behind your back. Then you’re be with someone that at some point will cheat on you. Better to let it happen and move on quicker than waste time.

[inhua]

you can't really blame them for getting defensive or wanting control when the support system around them is absolute dogshit for example there are men right now paying expensive child support for a kid that's not there's who they'll never see all because the mother cheated on him and if he doesn't pay the child support the government throws his ass in jail and nobody is calling out this injustice.

[Asker]

Ye there's no kids involved in the situation im asking just 5+ years of marriage

[inhua]

sometimes it's not always the man's own situation. sometimes it's the situation of other men may it be his friends, his father, his uncles, his colleagues all of whom have been cheated on and the best advice they've gotten is quit whining, man up and get over it which can come off as highly disrespectful and insensitive. then when we look at relationships where the woman doesn't cheat, the man seems to be in control of a lot of things and the woman is allowing him to lead so those men who have been cheated would follow that example to ensure they don't get cheated again.

[Asker]

Does this include cutting people off whove hurt them?

[Anonymous]

I dated a White woman who gave me an STD and it made me unhappy.