I was getting along great with this guy I met at work.
He is a bit older than me but we still have lots in common, joke around, etc etc.
We used to be extremely flirty with each other e. g. compliments, teasing, messaging outside of work. Nothing crazy.
We used to stop and chat, he would come visit my desk or if I bumped into him he would stop and talk, ask me about my weekend plans, tell me all about his. Would talk to me about anything his family, his kid etc etc. and more personal stuff. We got to know each other well.
Now he just smiles and keeps walking and doesn’t talk to me anymore.
It just all stopped gradually and I was continuing as we usually did but now I realise i may have done something to annoy him and valued our friendship as I do have feelings for him.
He is single. Maybe I’ve came on too strong? Should I back off and just leave him alone?
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Very bad idea to date people you work with. Sexual assault changes is the new norm for work places. Most places forbid workers dating eachother. It's a H R nightmares.
Oh we won’t work directly with each other.
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It's doesn't matter to HR. You need to check with the HR department before you go any further. Make sure they don't have a policy against dating in house employees.
Him stopping talking to you maybe HR has already had a talk with him. Sound like someone did.
nahh don't listen to this guy. I get it bad things could happen if things don't work out but hey let me ask you this, why were you flirting with him in the first place? Is it to kill some time at work or maybe you are interested in him. Perhaps this guy feels like you already rejected him and thinks that nothing will happen with you and as such hide his heartbreak. Or maybe this person has found someone outside of work. Or maybe there is something horrible that happened with his personal life (family member dying). Seriously, the only way to know is to ask him. Of course there are men out there that will hide their feelings instead of sharing them and being vulnerable especially towards a woman
He probably lost interest
What kind of reasons would he lose interest?
There’s too many to name
Sorry I can’t read kinds not to be rude. That’s just a guess even. I really have no idea. If you’re into him then ask him out and see if you have a chance.
If you mean just in a friendly way. I don’t know. Sometimes too someone likes someone in a purely friendly way but someone gets too flirty and can’t see they’re making them uncomfortable and start distracting themselves too.
If you like him. Ask him out