Yesterday after the 6thdate he wrote me and told me to write him when I‘m home. I did but he only liked my message?

[Anonymous]

1-2 hours after the date, he asked me if I was still on my way. I sent him a picture and asked him what he did. He messaged back and only told me to write him when I‘m home. I wrote him: I’m finally home , and he only liked my message

Today no message from Him.-.

what to do now? Write him? Wait for him to write? Maybe he didn‘t like the date?

[DoctorSex]

Sounds like he's probably an introvert and that date took a lot out of him and he's tapped out. He's probably still integrating what happened on the date and thinking of how best to proceed from this point. Lol I know your excited but just give it a little time lol

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Asker]

The date went really well. He wanted to kiss me , I blocked but he gave me a small kiss anyways.
I‘m not sure he‘ll write me again 🥲 wouldn‘t he if he enjoyed the date

[DoctorSex]

You blocked after the 6th date? Dam.. all that money he spent and not even a kiss. I'd be infuriated lol especially seeing as your 25-29.. likely kissed many guys before and I'm sure you didn't make them wait 6 dates.

You likely damaged his ego in a huge way.. and what is a man if not for his ego?

I personally wouldn't write back to you. I'm just being honest with you.

I'd feel like you're playing games with me.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Asker]

To be honest, I need time. I told him. I only had one boyfriend so far.

What should I do now?

[DoctorSex]

You caught me right on my way out :) I refreshed my browser one last time before signing off lol so this will be my last message for today.

Unfortunately you cannot use the, 'i just need time' line, because If you needed time. Then you shouldn't be dating. Dating is for people who are ready. I'm sure you didn't need time to order off the menu and didn't need time to think about whether you should split the bill. (Which you didn't)

I'm not being combative here, Im answering this question as though you were my junior sister so forgive me for being blunt with you.

Think of it this way, If you can imagine your sexual intimacy with a man in the same light as we value our time and money, then suddenly it becomes easy to realise that You've been taking his time and money during the courting phase that he can never get back again.. I'm deadly serious here.
All for what? To turn around and say you aren't ready?
That would be like a man stringing a woman along for sex, with her thinking there's something in this, only for him to say "I want to take things slow and need time to think". That's rich after you've used me for sex! right? How used would she feel?

[DoctorSex]

It's cruel and unfair and I really want you to consider just how unfair you've been. I'm just a random guy on the internet that has seen a lot and been through a lot, and who genuinely wishes the best for you in life in all that you've do.
However you've been cruel in my opinion and maybe unintentionally.. however the effect is still the same.

The best thing for you to do is to be open and honest with him sincerely about how you feel, offer to take him on a date and spoil him. It's time for some major appeasement.. and if you don't think you've done anything wrong and don't see why you should make right any perceived wrongs I've stated, then it's probably best you go your own way and forget about him.

But I want you to understand that this is how players are made. Men who break womens hearts.

All us men were soft and kind once upon a time, but our time and resources were used and we got nothing at the end of it.
When men feel like their time and efforts were devalued when we were being gentlemen, it's a huge knock to our ego and we tend to change the way we approach women in the future.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[DoctorSex]

"Making a man in the present pay for the mistakes of the man in the past, equals no future" Kevin Samuels

[Asker]

Yes I understand.:( so how should I approach him now?

[DoctorSex]

"The best thing for you to do is to be open and honest with him sincerely about how you feel, offer to take him on a date and spoil him." - me earlier

[Asker]

Yes sorry, u mentioned it already. That’s what I‘ll do. Thank u for ur honest answer

[DoctorSex]

You're welcome.
Do message me privately and let me know how it goes if you would.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Summeroflove]

I assume there was just probably not much to say. A conversation has to send somewhere you know. But he was saying he seen your comment.


As long as he isn’t ghosting you for excessively long periods of time. I think it’s fine.

[Asker]

So should I wait or write him?

[Summeroflove]

I guess write him