Why would a guy in his 40s that I almost dated but then got married want to meet me as friends?

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

He said he got back from vacation and his wife is still recovering but he would love to meet me and would be willing to even travel to my area since we live a hour or so apart

[BoobSlayer]

It is difficult to say without more information about the specific situation and individual in question. However, there are a few possible reasons why a man in his 40s who was almost dated but then got married might want to meet with you as friends. One possibility is that he genuinely values your friendship and wants to maintain a relationship with you. Another possibility is that he may be going through a difficult time in his marriage and is seeking support or a listening ear from someone he cares about. It could also be that he wants to reconnect and catch up with you. Ultimately, the best way to understand his motivations would be to ask him directly.

[FilmGuy93]

It's tough to say... the cynic in me is leaning toward the idea that he wants to reconnect with you romantically, but the other side says that the guy might want to reconnect with you as just a friend because sometimes people are genuinely friendly with their FWBs.

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

Maybe he isn’t getting along very well with her at times and would like a female friend he can have conversations with that he can’t have with her

[FilmGuy93]

lmfao yeah a "friend." Please dissuade yourself of that notion. That's how you end up getting played.

[DaveJord]

Because he is lying to you, and he want to really fuck you. Why else would want to meet up with you if was married. Sure you could believe he really just wants to be freinds, but he is circling back around on you because you know him and might be more likely to get involved with him.

[lightbulb27]

stay away, end of story... that guy is trash... you deserve better.

you dodged a bullet...

[MrCommodore]

Sounds like he is looking for a sneaky hookup

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

I’m not sure he asked me for lunch so it doesn’t make sense

[MrCommodore]

Yes it does make sense, guys don't usually straight up ask for a hookup, they charm their way to it.
Unless you and this guy have a professional connection which might involve you helping with a project, he is probably hoping to get a shag.

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

I mean he did tell me a while back his mind often wonders to what things would’ve been like had it worked out between us, I’m not sure if he just wants to reassure himself that we didn’t have a better bond. Because he seems like a loyal guy. I guess I can go and time will tell but I’m not gonna be anything more than a friend to him

[bigrook]

100%

[bigrook]

This is a no-brainer. He definitely wants to fool around.

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

He asked me to lunch though? You think he’s after something?

[bigrook]

There is no way he's not up to something. Lunch is just a convenient seemingly non-sus way to get with you so he can fool around.

[spartan55]

He wants some side action, duh.

[exitseven]

He is looking for something on the side.

[Keishio]

Why do you think?

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

I think he genuinely wants to be friends because why else would he be trying to meet me during the day for food?

[Keishio]

That sounds exactly right to me. I can't think of any anterior motive and naturally he'll be letting his wife know where he's going of course

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

I guess time will tell. 6 months ago he did admit that as much as he loves his wife his mind often wonders to what if would’ve been like had we worked out together

[Keishio]

Are you not going to tell his wife like you were so keen to tell that guys friend at the gym that you'd seen him on tinder?

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

Well I know this guy and he hasn’t tried to flirt with me since he’s been with her so what reason would I have to tell her he invited me to lunch as a friend

[Keishio]

If you were married would you want to know if your husband was having lunch with young women?

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

I’m not going to tell his wife because he hasn’t even called it a date or flirted with me?

[Keishio]

That's not the question. If it was your husband, would you be OK with it?

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

Nope

[Keishio]

That's all you need to know

[RockyHammock]

Trust your gut and act accordingly

[Anonymous]

How stacked is his wife?

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

Never met her

[Opinion Owner]

Interesting. You should find out! Check his social media.

[TallAnon]

To fuck

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

On a lunch date? I don't know

[TallAnon]

Just buttering you up to get to that point.