Why do older men get flustered and nervous around me but younger men couldn’t care less?

[Anonymous]

[inhua]

there's a lot of social stigma with older men and younger women

people like to bring up power imbalances somehow in favor of the older man when they are the ones more likely to get scrutinized for being "creeps" and "predators" and other labels that younger men are less likely to receive due to their age

[Asker]

Very helpful thanks. What age would the man have to be to be considered creep or predator if the female was mid to late 20s?

[inhua]

there is no age to be honest. "creep" is subjective and based entirely on interpretation

most people try to chalk it up to as behavior that defines a creep but actions seem to dictate that it's his looks and other uncontrollable factors like age that defines a creep

at then end of the day, the most simple definition of a creep is this. if you find them attractive, they are not a creep. if you don't find them attractive, then they are a creep

[Asker]

Sums that up well thanks

[MrCommodore]

I'm not sure, that's unusual that only older guys get flustered like that around you.

[Asker]

Yeah have no idea why

[MrCommodore]

I'm assuming you are extremely attractive, but I'm confused as to why younger guys don't also get flustered.

[Asker]

I don’t know because no one ever tells me im attractive and when I ask family members to be honest they just say ‘what do you think’

[MrCommodore]

I read recently that really good looking people usually don't get compliments, and quite often don't realise just how attractive they are. You must be hot

[Asker]

Well it’s hard to tell because I never get compliments. They are more subtle compliments I guess

[MrCommodore]

Yeah I know the feeling 😉

[Chad345]

Worried how they'll look because of the age gap, maybe?

[Anonymous]

Women age 18 - 28 are in their prime. Men of all ages find them most attractive. Younger guys are going to focus on women their own age or younger because... they can

[Asker]

Makes a lot of sense thanks

[SnowedIn]

They probably think you're hot.

[Anonymous]

you're dreaming no one gets flustered around you it's just your ego talking

[Asker]

I’ve seen it more than once

[Opinion Owner]

ah ha sure you have whatever helps you sleep better at night go with it

[summiter]

You may be hot and are turning them on!

[Asker]

Hard to tell whether I’m hot as look different in every mirror and picture

[summiter]

Don't be so hard on yourself

[Asker]

I have low self esteem. Have no idea whether I’m attractive

[summiter]

What have past or current boyfriends said... anything?

[spartan55]

Could you give some examples please?

[Asker]

Fumbles over words, flustered, nervous, hands shaking … more outgoing ones sometimes even giggle, speak to me in a slow and deep tone

[spartan55]

I don't know... sounds made up in your head.

[ERB62]

You must be really hot

[Jamie05rhs]

Maybe you're not younger men's "type."