Do the same rules not apply?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been dating someone long distance from the USA for 4 years now. We’ve not met in person yet, but we send gifts, know each other really well and haven’t slept with or dated anyone else since we met. We’ve seen each other through some tough times. We talk three times a day, nearly every day. My question is, if we haven’t kissed or had sex in all this time, we’ve waited four years, does it count as being a hoe if I decide to give it up on the first date when he comes to stay with us? I haven’t decided yet, but this is a quality man and I want him to respect me.

[Anemone978]

Nah not a hoe that's what I did.. and we got married after a year LOL
I wouldn't recommend doing it that way tho... spend some time together for a few days go on a date or two then do it.. There is no rush sex will always be there lol

[Anonymous]

If you have never met him in person, you don't really know him at all. Be prepared to be really disappointed.

[Guy13]

LDR is a nonstarter and never work out. You are not dating a pen pal. Call it what it is a pen pal.

[Asker]

I see your point, however, I think someone’s less of a penpal and more a friend if they are waiting for you for years and coming to see you to figure out if you should get married.