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My coworker is flirting with me for 7 months now. He makes weird comments about us... being together, having kids... etc.
Another coworker of ours, who has been witnessing our interactions, said "You care about him a lot I see, but he doesn't give a fuck about you"... and when I asked "why, has he told you something?".. and he replied "no, but it's been months already, if he really liked you and cared about you, things would have worked out already ". I don't know why this other person told me that. He had somw issues with my other coworker. He later asked for a favor, so I guess that his aim to tell me this in order to manipulate me believing that the other doesn't care about me.
Anyway... I do believe a bit of this statement. It's been months now and we are still on the talking stage... he made some comments about "if you only ask me, I would give you a good *ick.
So I guess he really doesn't want anything other than sex, but it's just weird that he is heavily flirting with me. It's intense. He is touching me all the time, hugging me... even asked for nudes (which I won't send) ...
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Yeah, regardless of the intentions of that coworker, that was my same thoughts while reading the first line. 7 months is quite a lot indeed, I would think he just enjoys random flirting with no real intention to go further, behind that. Maybe he is dating someone or is even married, too. In any case if in 7 months he didn't even try to create a bond with you, talking personally outside of work, opening to you about his more intimate problems, joining your life things etc, and kept flirting casually only, well... Yeah it looks like he only wants sex, but that is not even granted, maybe he just enjoyes random flirting and that's all, knowing you wouldn't accept any dick or sexting, so he does that.
So yeah if you like him romantically you should focus on someone else at this point. Do not go through the route of hoping to get his heart through hookups like many women do, crashing their hopes against a wall as a result. Require romantic interest if that is your priority, from the start, don't compromise through anything that could make your hopes skyrocket in the meantime.
Well, I didn't get into much detail... but he has opened up about his past relationships, his parents, his past... and his presence. I just couldn't write everything. The point is that he gets too close to me and then like when I don't open up as much as he would like me to do, he gets cold. He has asked me many times out, but I thought he was just kidding. And plus he gave me hints such as "many people like you but you don't respond "... maybe I'm the problem.
Yeah I can see why it's hard to resist a shitbag who sexually harrasses you... is the attention that important to you? The other coworker was 100% right by the way, he wasn't manipulating you at all.
Why is it "really weird"?