He came back after 2 months?

[Anonymous]

This guy I was hooking up with came back after 2 months saying his brother and uncle died that’s why he was distant? What should I do should I give him another chance

[HollyK21]

Already I would tell you not to reopen that door, just because I wouldn’t advice friends with benefits, someone always gets hurt in the end. However I’d say to avoid this guy altogether.
Anyone who’s suffered a loss, especially immediate family, knows what sort of toll it can take and it’s ok if he’s someone who needs space while processing/dealing with the aftermath. I can absolutely respect that. But if this guy really liked you and you were any sort of priority in his life, he could’ve reached out at some point in these past 2 months.

He’s had to leave the house, go to work, interact with his coworkers and whatever else, he hasn’t been locked away. So what makes it hard to reach out, check in, anything? Even just to tell you what happened? I personally believe he’s using these things as an excuse to garner sympathy and hope you’ll take it easy on him, which is not ok at all and actually detestable. My vote is to not accept him back.

[SteveSmith1985]

Sure, if you want to. It's a guy you're hooking up with. It's the most casual of casual situations. He can disappear for a while. He's just a guy you're hooking up with. There's nothing about that that implies any commitment whatsoever. So what's the problem with him disappearing for 2 months? If you still want to hook up with him, then go for it.

[spartan55]

He missed his free pie.