How do I get my boyfriends attention?

[Anonymous]

All he does is talk about his job and making money and work and overtime and blah blah…

It’s gotten really boring and it’s taking over our lives! I’m utterly fed up and feel like I’m bottom of the priority list (I mean I know that’s because I am! But!)

How can I get more attention from him? I’m not doing anything nice because I feel like that’s reinforcing bad behaviour

[SteveSmith1985]

Easy. You say, "I need to talk to you for a few minutes." Then, you say: "All you do is talk about your job and making money and work and overtime and blah blah…[maybe don't say blah blah blah, but fill that part in]. I’m utterly fed up and feel like I’m bottom of the priority list. I need you to make me more of a priority. This isn't fair. I'm not happy with how things have been going."

You shouldn't feel like you're at the bottom of your boyfriend's list of priorities. You certainly shouldn't be sure that you are, in fact, at the bottom of that list. That's... a problem.

You just need to talk to him openly and honestly. Tell him how you feel; and tell him what you need from him.



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[Anonymous]

Well either he’s losing interest in you or him making money, working all that OT is taking care of you in his eyes in the long run to make sure you both are financially stable. I could t say w out really seeing what you look like. Some men are just conditioned that way, they usually end up running companies, maybe becoming rich, etc, etc. Which one is it? I don’t know.

[Asker]

He’s obsessed with making money and he thinks it’s good to be saving for a house etc which it is but it’s just too much atm and I feel like I’m needy or something because I literally see him for like two hours a day now. I’m trying to plan to do my own thing at the times he’s working which tbh I have a lot of things to do 🤣 but then he’s upset when I go do them and not waiting at home for him to get back 🙄 I don’t think he’s losing interest in me he’s just all about the 💵

[Opinion Owner]

Then he’s trying to secure a future for the both of you that way you can live a better life down the road. But sometimes we don’t always make it to that better life because of unforeseen life changing circumstances. I get what he’s trying to do but he needs to live life a little while it’s still around. As far as your side, anything you can do from home that would work out well for you as far as a business?

[Asker]

To be honest I’m really successful anyway and my job is office based. I’ve done the whole wfh thing too and I don’t like it. I’ve started working out more and looking after myself because I’ve realised that makes me happy too

[Opinion Owner]

So you’re on your way to looking perfect. Keep it up. I’d say talk to him. If he isn’t willing to make some slight adjustments you might need to meet someone else who has more time to spend w you. I shouldn’t say more time as there’s 24 hours in a day for each person, but someone who is willing to be w you more than what your current man gives you now.

[Asker]

Thanks for your help

[Opinion Owner]

You’re welcome

[VikingWarLord]

Lose the weight, start walking 5,000 steps every day (count them out it makes it go faster), do some calisthenics, let your hair grow out and dye it some exotic color like fiery red, and even get a boob job if you can afford.

He will start paying attention then, he'll think you're tryin to attract a new dude.

[Asker]

Weirdly I have started working out more anyway because I want to feel better but I’m a nice small size anyway. My hair is already really long too 😆
I’ve actually seen a surgeon recently about a boob job too! It’s like you know my situation haha.

[VikingWarLord]

I've been around the block many times, I've heard your situation a thousand times.

I've banged 500+, done P0RN and even been a BULL who cuckolds relationships and marriages. Many women have told me that their sex life went stale and asked their "over-worked" hubby to open the relationship. I mainly found my "conquests" on Reddit.

You're in your mid 30s too? that's around the age that I'd find all these married MILFS and Cougars who were into the HOT-WIFE scene. One of them even left their fiancee' to be my BDSM Submissive (Asian couple in San Francisco).

your relationship is already on the ropes, send me a DM and we'll keep in touch when your relationship fails you can play with a real alpha stud who knows how to keep that kitty satisfied 😈

[FunkyMonkee]

Have you tried flashing your tits or crotch? That usually works quite well!

[Asker]

He still wants to have sex with me and all but like last night we were about to and next thing he got a call off his family who needed him there 🙄 I don’t even feel like I want to with him atm

[In_Trance]

Have you had an open conversation about this with him?

[Asker]

He knows I think… he just sees it as being a good thing to make extra money but I’ve said it’s not great… he thinks it’ll get better but I don’t see a way

[In_Trance]

he knows... you think. that doesn't seem convincing. But whatever works for you

[Wise4myage]

Think about moving on, because you are secondary to his work.

[ProTattoo4U]

Communication is key, tell him he's being a douchebag and to talk about something else. You're his girlfriend not his therapist.

[slatyb]

What does he say when you ask for some attention?