How to talk with my crush?

[Anonymous]

We have a seduction game for several weeks…but I notice he looks sometimes very shy.

He’s very outgoing with everyone else but when I’m talking to him just alone he generally answers very quickly and leaves. He also avoids eye contact +++

but when we’re with other people he looks more comfortable. I noticed when he wants to come around me he will try to talk sometimes to everyone around me except me. LOL

how to proceed?:)

Updates

1 y

He blushed several times when we had eye contact

[Anonymous]

It sounds like your crush may be feeling nervous or shy around you, which is not uncommon when someone has feelings for another person. Here are some tips for talking to your crush:

1. Start with small talk: If your crush seems shy or nervous around you, it can help to start with some easy, low-pressure conversation topics. Ask about their interests or hobbies, or share something about yourself that you think they might find interesting.

2. Be genuine: When talking to your crush, be yourself and be genuine. Don't try to pretend to be someone you're not or put on a false persona. This can be a turn-off and can make your crush feel uncomfortable or uneasy.

3. Listen actively: When your crush is speaking, be an engaged listener. Ask follow-up questions and show interest in what they're saying. This will help to build a connection and make your crush feel more comfortable around you.

4. Use open body language: When talking to your crush, try to use open body language. This means facing them directly, making eye contact, and avoiding crossing your arms or legs. This can help to convey that you're open and approachable.

5. Be patient: Remember that your crush may be feeling nervous or uncertain around you, so it's important to be patient and understanding. Don't push them to open up or share more than they're comfortable with, and give them space if they need it.

Ultimately, the most important thing is to be yourself and to approach the conversation with an open mind and a positive attitude. Good luck!

[Asker]

Thank you!!
I didn’t say it before but : even if not very relaxed talking, he s subtly touching my arm or elbow while talking …and lately started to kiff me on cheeks when I leave and whisper ma name… hum :)

[Asker]

Kiss me on cheeks sorry ^

[Opinion Owner]

It sounds like your crush may be feeling more comfortable and affectionate around you, which is a good sign. Given his body language and behavior, it might be worth considering making a move or expressing your interest in him.

You could try asking him out on a date or inviting him to do an activity together that you both enjoy. Alternatively, you could express your feelings directly and see how he responds.

Remember, there's no one "right" way to approach a crush, and it's up to you to decide what feels comfortable and appropriate. But given the signals he's sending, it seems likely that he may be interested in taking things to the next level. Good luck!

[Opinion Owner]

and you’re welcome

[Asker]

Thank you 😊 yes I ll probably invite him for a coffee or so

[Opinion Owner]

Great, you definitely should.

[Asker]

Hey! Some news..
I took my courage and been there during daytime. Proposed him a coffee…but his answer was strange, he told me he was working hard (giving me all his timetable..) and that when he was not working, he was simply resting home… didn’t say real yes or no hum…

Since then when I go there, he has totally different behaviours.
Last time, he was totally losing control, stuttering, stumbling with his words around me and when I wanted to order drinks, he totally ignored me ! Not looking at me, anything. But he was talking to my friend (girl) totally normally… last time he did that (ignoring me) he has blushed ++ when seeing me the time before.

What do you think? I don’t understand everything..

[Wise4myage]

He likes alright, but he's incredibly shy.

[Asker]

Intimidated I would say because he s not acting shy with all the people in the room except ME lol