There’s this guy that I really like. He’s spoken to me first a few times and is always looking at me. (I know this doesn’t necessarily mean he likes me.) The problem is, I really like him and am too scared for him to know because I fear rejection. I messed up and I feel bad. He tried before to initiate conversations, but I never start them myself. When I see him I ignore him completely. If he looks my way, I look off, If he’s talking near me, I focus. y eyes elsewhere. I pay attention to his parents, but not him. I know this was the wrong decision, but I don’t know how to talk to him. I realized that if he did like me, he probably gave up and thought I hated his guts. I see it from his perspective now because if he had done that to me, I would think he hated me, was stuck up, and had no use for me. I realize I made a dumb mistake because yesterday when I saw him, he didn’t talk to me. Please tell me how to fix this and maybe how to talk to him. I’m kind of shy. I’m afraid I ruined this by ignoring him because I like him.
Share your feelings in writing. That way, you can read and reread what you write to make sure your thoughts are accurately represented before you send the message. Once he gets the message, he can read and reread till he gains a deeper understanding of you. The behavior you describe is common for introverts, and even more so for introverts who have little relationship experience.
If you raise your level to be able to DM members, feel free to send me what you want to send him, and I'll edit it for you.
We all fear rejection, but, since guys are expected to make the first move, guys experience rejection more frequently than girls. Remember it is impossible to lose that which we don't already have.
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One of the things I look for is if she starts the conversation first. I don’t always want to be the one to start the conversation.
If you are using the word crush, you are probably not mature enough for relationships.
ass him on social media nad try to talk there
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Couldn't you be a little nicer and just listen to him? the conversation would come naturally
Like he’s not your crush. Just start talking.
Just say hi, how’s it going? See what he says
Talk to him the same way he talks to you
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