Talked to my crush for the first time today and he seemed pretty neuteral about me. Is a respectfully persistent girl a turn off?

[Anonymous]

I worked up the confidence to talk to my crush today and he seemed pretty medium about me nothing special but our conversation did go beyond the excuse I gave to talk to him (asked about hw for a shared class) I’m planning to try and talk to him again tomorrow and keep trying until we get in good terms (unless ofc he tells me he’s uncomfortable or something) Is that weird or a turn off?

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Our conversation didn't* go beyond my made up reason for talking to him. A guy started asking him a question and I ran off

[quaranta]

I think you should limit this for a couple of times, then you can talk to him again after a longer while (like, a week or more) so that he has all the time to observe you and understand if he likes you or not.
You are the one crushing so in your mind you already had all the steps, but he didn't, he still at phase:"Random person talks to me, maybe I could check if she looks good, but then I'll forget about her for the rest of my day", and has 0 scenarios built in his mind about you. So don't start a trend of talking to him everyday all of a sudden, it feels strange. Do it 2 times only so that he sticks your face and voice in his head, and if you manage to get into a better conversation than strictly about school he can also figure a bit of what kind of person you are, then don't do anything for like 5-7 days, at all, then you talk again to him. That way he had time to figure, or to notice you more while walking around, so he might engage in more content in the next conversation, spontaneously, if he is interested. If not, you could talk another time after another week of silence, and if he gives no input at that point at all then you should either propose the next step (phone number, a coffee together etc, in a confident way, making it indirectly obvious that you like him and see what he says), or, completely quit. Don't trap yourself in being "persistent" at step 1.
I say this because while you are crushing you are in a very vulnerable position: you tend to invest and invest, emotionally (talking to him was an effort so it's an investment too), even when your target doesn't invest back, and this makes you addicted (when you invest on something or someone, you increase their value to your eyes), even if they didn't give anything back and that's when you burn all your chances, draining your mental health. So try always to keep it balanced: let him make his moves, let him give attention back. The moment he invests too, he increases your value to his eyes, so let him have space to do it. If he doesn't, even after giving one more chance, then you should quit, not "persist". Persisting can lead to obsession if you get nothing but crumbles, and to crush harder.

[20yearsolder]

Keep going after what you want. Be persistent, I don't recommend you sit back and hope for somebody to see you. Make yourself be seen. It can start with something as simple as hey I appreciate you taking the time to talk to me yesterday, how you doing?

[AbsolutelyClueless6]

That's not a turn off in my book. It means you actually care and aren't just don't it for kicks and giggles. As long as you respect what he says, I'd say go for it.

(I'm not him though. Every guy is different.)

[Anonymous]

He might not be into dating co workers, but try again and don't run off this time. Try talking to him one on one.