Why don’t white guys or Asian guys ever approach me?

[Anonymous]

Lol it’s interesting to me that I’ve never been approached by a White or Asian guy. I guess they don’t find me attractive or approachable

[Anonymous]

I get a lot of attention from white men at my gym, (mostly stares and such) which is mostly white people and I am not white, and they don’t approach there either. White men in general do not approach women outside of their race mostly because they don’t know if they are interested in interracial dating. Most of the white men I’ve ever talked to I was in an environment where we had to talk. Try dating sites, I’ve never had a problem there. Asian men in general, are even more so not quick to approach and are generally more scarce in most areas.

Now, in terms of if they find you attractive, white men don’t approach but they do stare like any other man. If you don’t find that happening often you might not be their general type.

[Asker]

They do stare lol but yeah they’ve never approached. Thanks for the detailed answer

[Asker]

I’ll try apps I feel ready to put myself out there lol

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@asker I really recommend you to physically and mentally prepare you for those apps, they can be really draining and torture if you aren’t careful and patient. The internet kills lol

[Asker]

I’ve heard lol 😭 I do prefer being approached in person or just meeting each other in person not online. I’m gonna prioritize my safety and sanity on these sites and apps 😀 lol. My expectations are low. And I don’t do hookups I want a long term relationship lol hopefully I don’t get hurt too much

[Opinion Owner]

Why don’t you consider approaching the guy instead? It’s not that hard, just sparking up a conversation. Dating apps are good for exposure but are a hit or miss.. mostly miss though. I’d stay away from ones who’ve said they’ve never been with a girl outside of their race. Red flag.

[Asker]

Yeah I’m open to approaching them I think I should. I just struggle with social anxiety 🥲 but I think I can make myself go for it. And yeah lol that is a red flag

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@Opinion Owner Just to make one thing clear: Just because a guy say he’s never been w/ a girl outside of his race doesn’t have to be a red flag, my area is 90% predominantly white so any other coloured female is basically peanuts and usually taken. It’s different if he says something like “I’ve never bothered to chase a coloured girl”

[Opinion Owner]

@DamianTheSmikkelbeer Can you not used the word “colored?” It’s highly offensive and this isn’t 1950 dude. Do we call white people “no colors”? No we do not do you should be considerate.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@Asker I can stop using it sure, but the word itself doesn’t mean anything offensive and certainly doesn’t make you any less of a human. And i don’t see what the 1950’s have to do anything with this since back then they threw out N-words and slurs like candy, America and all western countries are majority white and so it’s not that rare that “coloured” means something different then being white, it’s in use in popular culture nowadays and it certainly isn’t a white person’s word to put another person down just cause their race. And white people are white people, i’m merely saying “coloured people” because i don’t wanna assume that only black people experience this. As i said, no offensive meant i didn’t know it was so sensitive nowadays

[Opinion Owner]

@DamianTheSmikkelbeer Look up “colored” and tell me where it says it is not an offensive word. It’s literally the first thing it says that is offensive. It’s like calling an Asian an “oriental” it’s a dated term no longer used. I do not know where you are from, but where I am, that word is incredibly offensive to define anyone in any way shape or form, by anyone, including white people would look at you with disgust for even saying it. Please, show me where it is used in pop culture.
Logically, why are white people bunched in one, while everyone else is defined as “colored?” White people are not the majority in every part of the world.
I’m sorry about the backwards rock you’re living under, but the term is a racial slur, always has been. If we do not refer to white people as “no coloreds” then it isn’t appropriate. White is not a color, so therefore the term would be accurate, yet I don’t think you’d like being called that. Would you?

[KostasKouvalis]

I see. Dominican girls have a reputation. They say you all got STDs, and some Dominican guy said "Never tell a Dominican girl she is "caliente". I don't know if that's true, of if they're just trying to intimidate us into staying away from you so they have them to yourselves. Why don't YOU take the initiative and show them that you're interested. They might also think they're out of your league. I'm assuming you live in the U. S., but I'm certain if you went on vacation to the DR, White guys would approach you easily.

[Asker]

LMAO that’s crazy I’m a virgin 😭 I didn’t know they talked crazy about Dominican women. yeah I live in the US in Texas. Haha yes I’m gonna try to show them I’m interested and approach them.

[KostasKouvalis]

You are? That's really nice.🥰
Honestly, Texans aren't the nicest of folks, bit yeah, if you see something you like, just give them some flirty gestures😉

[Ben487]

who knows. Attractive women usually get attention from everybody. But in general most everyone is going to get more attention from their own race b/c Asians tend to wanna date other Asians, whites tend to wanna date other whites, and blacks wanna date black. That way if it goes further and say marriage and babies happen the kids will actually look more like the parent and people do care about that.

[Asker]

well I’m not thaat attractive 😹
But yeah that makes sense. I’ve had the most attention from hispanic/Latino men and from black men

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@Asker Just because they don’t approach or give you attention doesn’t mean they don’t find you attractive or interesting either, from my experience a lot of men (especially whites and many others) view latinas as a little frightening and fisty and i think that’s mostly because of cultural differences and perceptions. Chances are that if you approach towards their direction without even talking with them and merely using a smile while you go past they’ll be intrigued and very much into you out of nowhere.

[Asker]

Thanks for your answers I appreciate you lol. Yeah maybe. I have low self esteem I just assume most men don’t find me attractive 💀 but that makes sense haha. I’m definitely not fiesty I’m so shy and passive 😭 to a fault. but I get there’s stereotypes. I’ll try that though ty

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Lol every male be asking for your pictures on here, am assuming you’re not white or Asian if you’re asking the question this way or am i wrong?

[Asker]

Haha yeah I’m Latina, Dominican specifically

[Asker]

So racially I’m very mixed 😹

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Ah, don’t over-think it too much like most people. Latinas are fun and you should embrace the fun-you, just need go find the right person with the right brains is all.

[Asker]

Ok :) 💕

[Luckycharms12]

I've no idea never seen you before to say. Hard to approach people especially if don't know them especially now a days even if think there cute. Most people have there head in there phone or have headphones on

[Asker]

Yeah that’s understandable. I’ll try dating sites

[Luckycharms12]

Why not if that is what you want to do. Good luck 👌

[Asker]

thanks !

[ilovelamp]

If it's what you want then you have to be the one to approach them.

[ilovelamp]

Remember, we live in society where women have double standards.
Many of them flip the fuck out when a guy approaches them or they'll act super bitchy and start insulting, and get to be a real nuisance.
Which ruins it for women like you who actually do want to be approached by men in the gym or elsewhere.

[Asker]

Yeah I’m gonna have to lol I’m just so shy 😵‍💫
But yes that’s unfortunate cause I really do prefer being approached irl over being messaged online

[notwoke]

the answer is in the mirror, but mostly I don't see women outside of white or Asian as sexually attractive at all. Nothing against them, it is kind of like the hottest cat in the world does not do anything for a dog, or most St Bernards are probably not interested in a small breed dog no matter how great the small breed dog is. Even some Asian women who are probably considered attractive are too different from me in appearance for me to see them as sexual objects

[Asker]

makes sense but I hope some find me attractive lol

[OlderAndWiser]

Difficult to comment on how attractive you are when you are anon and have no pic posted.

[Asker]

I can show you in dm

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay.

[Asker]

Just messaged you

[Gingerbread_GB]

Well, your question doesn't give a lot of information to comment on.

[VikingWarLord]

Post a pic there's no gawdam way to know why without seeing you first!

[Asker]

imgur. com/a/9tdkU10

[Asker]

https://imgur.com/a/9tdkU10

[VikingWarLord]

Post one of you at the gym.

[Asker]

I do not go to the gym

[VikingWarLord]

oh shyt I was reading that other comment about going to the gym I thought that was you.

Send one that shows off your physique better. You look like a hipster in the face with the Bull nose ring. You look half black half white am I right

[Asker]

Hipster baha
Yeah I’m have black ancestry, most of my family tree is from the Dominican Republic I’m pretty mixed racially

[VikingWarLord]

Do you live in Portland? What's your height and weight?

I lived in San Francisco so I banged a lot of mixed chics there, mainly Asian / White mix or Latina / White mix. There weren't many half black / white chics.

[Asker]

I live in Texas my height is 5’0 and my weight is 117 lbs. I’m Latina but yeah a mixed Latina

[VikingWarLord]

Yeah I'd definitely phuckin' approach and get your number in person for sure.

[Asker]

Thanks lol :)

[Aiko_E_Lara]

How can we be so sure? Maybe you seem to give us culture shock

[Asker]

Maybe I don't know

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Well you are the one who have experienced being you more than we do so we cannot make conclusions for you

[MackBoy]

White Guys and Asian guys focus on attractive and sexy girls only

[Asker]

Loll

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Approach them instead!

[Asker]

I’ll try lol

[Static_In_The_Attic]

You are full of $hit! I’ll try lol

[Asker]

LMAO I have social anxiety 😭😭 ok but if there’s an opportunity I think I can make myself do it. If it goes bad oh well I’ll cry about it later

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Nowadays everyone has some kind of social anxiety so put your big girl panties on & start asking guys out. If one says no go on to the next & keep asking until you find the right guy. If you are going to cry make sure those are tears of joy instead.

[Asker]

Haha ok I will try. I see so many attractive men here everyday so 😹 I’ve regretted not asking them out. I usually just look at them a lot hoping they’ll magically come to me 💀 obviously that doesn’t work. But yeah I’m gonna go for it I want a man lol

[Static_In_The_Attic]

If you never try you will never know so go for it.

[shortster]

I don't know. May I see a picture of you?

[Asker]

Yes: https://imgur.com/a/9tdkU10

[shortster]

You look cute. All guys should be approaching you.

[Asker]

Thanks :) 💕💕

[shortster]

You're welcome

[Pterodon]

Hi what’s your name? I’m approaching you

[Asker]

haha hello my name is Nicole. What’s your name? But I mean in person : )

[Pterodon]

PM me and I’ll tell you everything. I mean in person too

[Asker]

Ok :)

[Asker]

Just followed you

[Pterodon]

I’ve messaged you

[cootjuhh]

do you have a big bad brother with a gun?

[Asker]

nope 💀 just sisters

[cootjuhh]

ow. so they are not affraid of a brother. hm I don't know then. every white boy i know would including me would love a sexy latina 😁☺️

[Asker]

lol well I hope one approaches me

[cootjuhh]

walks closer... 😊

[Asker]

haha 💕

[cootjuhh]

starting to get curious 😁😍

[noohair]

What is your number? I approached you...

[karekaaaa]

I dont know how u look lol

[Asker]

I could show you in dms lol

[karekaaaa]

Ok follow me