What do I do🫠 is it over for good?

[Anonymous]

I’ll go with a timeline to make this easier

January 14- we met through mutual friends and hit it off

February something like 16- I took his v card without being in a relationship

February 16 to like march 16 - I asked if he wanted to meet my mom because we were getting serious like everyone already thought we were a couple

march 23- he broke things up with me (said he didn’t want a relationship)

march 31- we went into a friends with benefits type of thing but would text every single day something we wouldn’t do before

April 18- he started asking for exclusivity which I kept saying no to

April 21- I convinced him to try a serious exclusive relationship while at a club drunk af

April 22- I kissed someone I had history with while drunk af ( someone sent him a picture)

April 24- I told him he called me a cheater yada yada and told me he just wanted to be friends

ok now I feel very guilty and I deeply regret what I did I stopped drinking and vaping because he didn’t like that to show him I am changing, even unfollowed the guy I kissed everywhere on sm this weekend I went to a party he was at I and before that I had sent him a silly video that I had no reply to at the party he said hi to me after a while and would jokingly step on my shoes but then he started flirting with a girl right in my face I would go upstairs and come back down and would see him with his friends and as soon as I showed up he would go talk to her then right after I left he just liked my text and the next day in our friend gc someone asked if someone got with the girl that he was flirting with bc 1 of my friends liked her and I said jokingly that he and a another dude got with her, 50+ messages later the only thing he replies to is my message with “I would’ve but she left” so uh do I have a chance in getting him back or do I back off.

[MrOracle]

Everything about this story is chaotic and indicative of someone with NO morals or boundaries or standards. To be honest, you are not the kind of girl that any man takes seriously as a relationship partner, and he doesn't seem to be all that great either.

If you want to be taken seriously, then in my opinion, you need to make some SERIOUS changes in how you live your life. Otherwise, guys will pursue you for sex, but they won't ever take you seriously or commit to you - though some might let you believe otherwise if it benefits them for a while.

[SueShe]

This is a childish behavior and your best option is to distance yourself from him. This kind of relationship is not likely to ever work because both of you are really immature about this entire story.

He does not seem to know what he wants and you are doing things when intoxicated that you would otherwise not do. You are only acting impulsively when you state that "I am changing". You are actually not changing but you would go great distances to show him that you changed. As soon as things resume and are back to how they were before, you would again change your behavior to your original state. It takes more than a few kisses, texts and copulating to change a behavior.

It took you less than a single month to fornicate with a person you barely know. You cannot know a person in one month.

Your best option is just to sever everything because that kind of relationship, based on being intoxicated is never going to last.

[Anonymous]

Are you guys like 15? Because this is incredibly immature.

Make stupid mistakes, win stupid prizes. Instead this doesn’t even count as a mistake.

[Iron_Man]

Wired guy why did he break it off then just want sex?

[Asker]

because the day before I kissed someone else we had agreed on monogamy after MINTHS OF BEGGING HIM. so seems like I cheated on him?

[Iron_Man]

Not good

[Anonymous]

You both have a lot of growing up to do.