What does it mean when a man says "I'm very nice person"?

[Anonymous]

It got me wondering when he said “very”

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10 mo

He told me that I am very nice person*

[Agape93]

It means he isn't nice, but he will lie and pretend to be so he can get in your pants

[Asker]

He said that after our first date. He also said I have a good heart. He didn’t want to continue to date because our life goals were different. Still I dont know if he felt something for that’s more than platonic… what do you think?

[Agape93]

I mean exactly as I said. He wanted to get in your pants. But evidently life goal differences prevented him from trying more

[Asker]

Why would it prevent him trying?

[Agape93]

Laziness.

[Asker]

I don't know if he was telling the truth. Last time when we talked he didn’t want to twell me What life goals didn’t align. Why do you think is that? After that I left him alone. What should I do next?

[Agape93]

Move on

[Asker]

Why are you saying that?

[Agape93]

He didn't want a second date with you. So naturally you move on.

[Asker]

But if it was just because of life goals isn’t that something that could be worked out?

[Agape93]

Clearly not. So, move on.

[Asker]

I am moving on but I also hope he changes his mind

[Asker]

Do you think he was genuine? Also why did he have me those compliments after the date?

[Agape93]

I answered those already.

[Asker]

How could he want to sleep with me but at the same time say he doesn’t want second date? It doesn’t make sense

[Agape93]

Guys can fuck without dating you, if you let them. You're an adult, you should know this by now.

[Asker]

We are muslims. We don’t have sex before marriage

[Agape93]

Nonsense. I have friends who were, sex does happen it's just kept quiet and not as prevalent.

[Asker]

He seemed religious. So are you saying he didn’t really like me?

[Agape93]

Correct.

[Asker]

Why did he give me those compliments then after the date?

[Agape93]

To pretend to be nice. I've covered this repeatedly. You're 30 some years old. Think.

[Asker]

Why would he want to be nice to me? Why not just say sorry our life goals don’t align etc. He sent me long paragraph..

[Agape93]

I'm not going to keep explaining the same shit to you. Fucking think.

[Asker]

Just tell me!

[Agape93]

I've told you repeatedly already. Read and think, and don't reply until you do.

[Asker]

He told those compliments while breaking things off with me. He said it in same text. In my theory he did infact like me but different life plans made him not pursue things further. Guess he didn’t want me to change my plans for him and he felt he can’t make happy…

[Agape93]

Okayc

[Asker]

Do you agree?

[Agape93]

Nope

[Asker]

Why?

[Agape93]

Already told you why. Repeatedly.

[Asker]

So he found me attractive and only wanted to fuc*k me?

[Agape93]

Yes as i have said already.

[Asker]

during the date we were talking about what we wanted in the future. I told him like after 10 years I would’ve wanted to move ti different country ( in my mind I was thinking with him and possibly if we have kids then with our kids)
I also talked about how I would like to get better job in the future and study more. Maybe I gave him the impression that I don’t want to have kids in the near future? I think he wanted kids soon and said he wants big family. I did told him I want kids too and big family.

[Agape93]

This conversation is tiring. You can't seem to listen or read, so just think how you want and do what you want.

[Ms_Facesitter]

He's just happy that you're nice. Some people aren't.

[Asker]

He said that after our first date. He also said I have a good heart. He didn’t want to continue to date because our life goals were different. Still I dont know if he felt something for that’s more than platonic… what do you think?

[Ms_Facesitter]

I think the date went great.

[Asker]

What?

[Asker]

How did the date went great?

[Ms_Facesitter]

Only you and him know

[Asker]

But whh did you say that?

[Ms_Facesitter]

Because my dates all went great whenever my partner said it.

[Asker]

Said what?

[Ms_Facesitter]

That I'm a very nice person.

[Asker]

But he didn’t want second date because of ”different life goals”

[Ms_Facesitter]

Happens. Sorry to hear that.

[Asker]

Do you still think he liked me?

[Ms_Facesitter]

Yes just not enough to take it any further.

[Asker]

Because of different life plans?

[Ms_Facesitter]

Because of whatever he said to you.

[Asker]

I’m afraid it was just an excuse and he actually didn’t find me attractive..

[SpaceGalaxy]

don't make too much of it... just a figure of speech "very"

[Asker]

So it doesn’t mean anything? He also said I have a good heart

[SpaceGalaxy]

he simply thinks you are a nice person.

[Asker]

He said those things after our first date. He also said that it was very nice to get to know me. He made it seem like he infact did like me. He didn’t want to continue to date because our life goals were different. Still I dont know if he felt something for me (more than platonic) what do you think?

[SpaceGalaxy]

Only one person would know the answer to your question

[Asker]

Do you his reason was genuine?

[SpaceGalaxy]

No, probably not, but he sounds like a very "polite" guy

[Asker]

during the date we were talking about what we wanted in the future. I told him like after 10 years I would’ve wanted to move ti different country ( in my mind I was thinking with him and possibly if we have kids then with our kids)
I also talked about how I would like to get better job in the future and study more. Maybe I gave him the impression that I don’t want to have kids in the near future? I think he wanted kids soon and said he wants big family. I did told him I want kids too and big family.

[SpaceGalaxy]

he felt something he did not want to deal with or it was not what he had in mind, but again, only he would know why

[Asker]

Can you please explain this to me “ he felt something he did not want to deal with or it was not what he had in mind,”

[SpaceGalaxy]

YOU are not what he had in mind, for whatever reason which he would only know!

[spartan55]

You need mental help.

[Wise4myage]

He thinks you're very kind.

[Asker]

Does that mean he likes me (more than friend) ?

[Wise4myage]

Possibly, make an effort to find out.

[Asker]

He said that after our first date. He also said I have a good heart. He didn’t want to continue because our life goals were different. Still I dont know if he felt something for that’s more than platonic… what do you think?

[Wise4myage]

See if you can get him to open up to you and you do the same.

[Asker]

What do you mean? Open up about what?

[Wise4myage]

You're lives.

[Asker]

Last time when we talked he didn’t want to twell me What life goals didn’t align. Why do you think is that? After that I left him alone. What should I do next?

[Wise4myage]

Flirt with him.

[Asker]

Don’t you understand. He didn’t want second date because our life goals were different. When I asked hin what goals didn’t align. He said just in general they don’t align.

[Asker]

? What do you think

[Wise4myage]

Your lives ffs.

[Asker]

So I should talk to him when he clearly said no to second date and told me to find more compatible man?