Is it normal for men to be passive aggressive? ?

[JustMeL120]

This guy gave me his number and now he is ghosting me seriously what is he gaining out of this. I didn't even menssion anything other than friendship to him and he is the one who offered me his number. I just sent him two music videos. Are guys getting a thrill out of this seriously men are stupid. And if he carryon I will just ignore him when he messages me in a week and pretends he was too busy working. Men are so rude.

[es_annie]

Men are not “stupid” nor “rude”. You just came across a bad person, simply move on and don’t continue to give any of your attention to that guy.

[JustMeL120]

I entitled to my opinion. And who are you tell me how I come across you live at the other side of the world.

[es_annie]

Literally a guy said the same thing as I did on your question, why am I getting bashed for it lmao

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Men aren't, assholes are. He is a jerk, but there's lots of guys looking for a cute girlfriend.

[JustMeL120]

Thank you that means a lot.

[slatyb]

Normal? It's common enough, but not universal. You shouldn't accept it. Forget this guy.

[JustMeL120]

Don't worry he is actually quite nice he message me at 3 in the morning after his job. But I just felt like ranting yesterday.

[RHK36]

So instead of communicating this to him, you're just gonna play games back passive aggressively? Right...

[JustMeL120]

Yes lol

[BoopBoopBeep]

How long since you sent them? Maybe he just hasn't had time to respond?

[strateguy632]

we all should stop interpreted passive as aggressive kuz passive did NOT DO anything.

[Anonymous]

The same thing that women get out of it when they do it.

[JustMeL120]

Women are bad as well tbh

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah. I had this one woman give me her number. I didn't even ask for it. Then when she found out my short dating history she couldn't get away fast enough. After that I learned to be VERY selective about what I tell women. I've always operated from the standpoint that honesty is the best policy. But women have taught me it's not. Tell her ONLY what you think she can handle.

[kakaling]

I think he is working really hard on replying he 1000 message.

[Anonymous]

This is just humans. I have witnessed girls do this shit all the time.

[spartan55]

How many times has he failed to message you back?

[JustMeL120]

I texted him like this afternoon at 6. For the first time and sent him two music videos. Because he is into french music. I didn't send anything flirtatious I don't know him well enough I just want him to be friends and honestly he Sims a bit of a player. He even menssion he had a tinder account. I don't have sex with players unless they get an std check in front of me which he probably won't. So right now I just want to be friends.

[spartan55]

So he hasn't responded at all?

[JustMeL120]

No. To be honest I don't care. I stopped caring about men. I love this one guy I know I will never love anyone as much as I loved him. So every one else is really not important. It would have been nice to be friends at least. But men will be men

[spartan55]

What does that mean? Maybe it has something to do with the guys you choose...

[JustMeL120]

I love one man in this world. But he doesn't like me so I still try and date other people. But I know I will never love any of them like I do this other guyml. So when they reject me or ghost me I feel nothing.

[spartan55]

Yeah, you might want to get some therapy about that.

[JustMeL120]

Yea maybe you are right but who know maybe I was meant to love this man. It depends on what you believe religiously and spiritualy.

[spartan55]

'meant to Iove this man'
Don't think that's how it works.

[JustMeL120]

I can think how I want I am entitled to my own beliefs l. What are you some kind of guru.

[spartan55]

Master actually, but those are just titles. I never said you aren't entitled to however you feel, of course you are. All I'm saying is if you only love one guy, and he doesn't even like you, there's not a high probability you will end up together. Just facts.

[sirderpsalot123]

Some people just aren't big on texting.

[JustMeL120]

They they shouldn't give me their number simple.

[sirderpsalot123]

Have you tried calling him? Or telling him how you feel?

[sirderpsalot123]

I see you mentioned that you solely only love one man to another user. He could have given you his number, with the intent of pursuing a relationship with you, but knows you aren't interested so he lost interest.

[JustMeL120]

I might do that if he hasn't messages back by next week. But maybe I will stay friends with this one tbh because it's not really a good sign when a man ghosts you. Even for a few days.

[JustMeL120]

I don't want to seem to interested because I don't want to make him feel trapped and I don't want to get heartbroken. I like to keep healthy distance with men.

[sirderpsalot123]

But that's what I'm saying. He might want you to seem interested, you don't, so he's moved on because he never had any intention of just being your friend.

[sirderpsalot123]

It's possible he didn't just give you his number "for the thrill", he just realized that it's never going to work out the way he was hoping it would.

[JustMeL120]

But we could at least me friends. Why not?

[sirderpsalot123]

That Isn't possible. If he has feelings for you, he's going to be secretly wishing for all of your relationships to fail in hopes that you will change your mind and give him a chance. He will never be a friend to you. It would be unfair to both of you.

[sirderpsalot123]

Friends will want you to be happy and for things to go your way

[JustMeL120]

I hardly know him how can he have feelings for me. And if he truly had feelings for me he wouldn't ghost me he would try to pursue me.

[sirderpsalot123]

I didn't say that he had strong feelings. But you can meet a girl, talk to her a little, then give her your number hoping to get to know her better and see if it goes anywhere. But then you realize that she just doesn't like you as much as you like her.

I'm just going off of very limited information, offering other possible reasons for this behavior other than "men are stupid"

"if he truly had feelings for me, he wouldn't ghost me. He would try to pursue me." not always true. If a girl I was interested in made me feel like she wasn't interested, or was playing hard to get, I would immediately stop pursuing her and move on.

[In_Trance]

It's common; it's not normal

[JustMeL120]

Thank yea you are right it's so unkind yet everyone does it.